Finally realized...

I'm a late bloomer. At 57 I started educating myself about this issue and didn't realize all the effects of this insidious problem. Saw the first porn film, Behind the Green Door at 14. Found this site and started the PMO counter and got up to day 28 and was feeling good about this. Yesterday an ex girlfriend came over, we started having sex and I got performance anxiety so I popped a small dose of viagra. Sex was great since we haven't had sex in 2 months but after she left the chaser hit and I fell off the wagon. Now I feel like shit.

Viagra has recently become a problem for me as it now gives a 3 day hangover almost worse than alcohol. So now I have a viagra, PMO hangover. I'll probably get back with my ex GF and I need to get these problems (PMO and viagra dependence) under control.

Any feedback would be very much appreciated.

P.S. Seems therapists don't have a clue about this problem

 

Hey, WB. There are lots of great journals here and I would encourage you, if you haven't already, to read and read and read. So many of the answers are contained with the journals of men who have gone through the same struggle. Also, write, write, write in your journal. Getting your thoughts on cyber paper is crucial and clarifying. I like to think of YBR as a community. The more active we are here the more we get out of it.

My dick was basically broken when I came here. I'm now 60 and have no problem sustaining a boner for sex with my wife. I've been clean for over 2 years now. It takes time, but if you follow and believe in the process it will work.

 

Thanks for the encouragement

 

I was same age when I came here 57. Welcome aboard, Saville said it :READ READ READ-- WRITE IN YOUR JOURNAL IT WILL HAPPEN! We are here for you!

 

I'm a single man and I've successfully used dating sites. Any comment on being on said sites?

 

A dearth of responses

 

Well I am single also but I have never used them. I use the old way to meet females. Just my opinion but need to be careful when you are trying to recoperate and are using modern computerized methods. People dont have to be themselves on line.

 

Should we abstain from sex and dating while rebooting? Girls send me nude pics all the time when We're texting and getting to know each other

 

When do flatlines usually occur and how long do they last?

 

There are lots of journals here to read that answer many of your questions. Also, the journals are to pen your thoughts so we can get to know you better.

Getting set nude pics is just pornography. Abstaining from sex is not necessary, but many do it until they feel they have enough days in away from P. Flatlines can last a long time or a short time...depends.

 

Great success! GF came over and we had a nice passion session WITHOUT viagra! The chaser urge is a lot less without that shit. Must reinforce this neural pathway with yummy pussy!

 

Agreed with the T and A pics from randos

 

Yeah, dude!

 

If dating apps basically guarantee that you will be receiving nude pics on your phone, you need to avoid them. This is the slippery slopes of slippery slopes. Men met women before dating apps. I think that it is time you went "old school".

 

Thanks for your input

 

GF came over and we had another viagra free session! Build those neural pathways! PMO free

 

Yet another good session with the GF sans viagra and no PMO

 

Out of the blue today started having porn thoughts. They kept recurring usually they go away after a few minutes. WTF?

 

"The Addict !" Your constant companion! Be careful and remember he only has the power you give him!

 

Thanks for the encouragement