Femdom, what if it's who I really am?

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by niskanen91, Mar 8, 2016.

  1. wrest472

    wrest472 New Member

    I'm 35 y/o male and have never been aroused by vanilla sex. The only thing that has ever sexually aroused me is when attractive women physically dominate me. And my fetish was there since I was about 5 years old and is not because of pornography (which I didn't start watching until I was 18)... actually, I have no idea why I have this fetish since I actually had a very good childhood without any traumas whatsoever...

    So I wonder if it is possible to just ignore this fetish, and over time I'll be able to be attracted to vanilla sex for the first time?
     
  2. Abhishek1152

    Abhishek1152 New Member

    So are you unmarried yet? And what are your future plans?
     
  3. wrest472

    wrest472 New Member

    Ah, didn't realize I had a response so sorry this is a bit late...

    I've never been married. I've just spent my entire life having wrestling sessions with women (which has been fine with me), and I've even been in videos for actual production companies (competitive mixed wrestling). I'm not sure if marriage would be a good thing since sex just doesn't do anything for me (and she'll probably want it).

    So has there been anyone on here that had a "true fetish" (meaning unable to be aroused by anything else except their fetish) and was able to ignore it for long enough (and do whatever else needed to be attracted to vanilla sex) to finally be able to have regular sex? I actually love my fetish though and am not ashamed of it at all (except that it's kept me from a more normal life such as marriage)... but I still wonder if there’s some way I could re-program my brain to be aroused by intercourse (and pussy) even though those things have never aroused me...
     
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  4. wrest472

    wrest472 New Member

    Women are "down for anything" if they like the guy enough (meaning it's true love, and not just a convenience marriage)...
     
  5. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    Written it in my journal but it also applies to this topic:

    TL;DR: What is arousing in the fantasy land, doesn't necessarily have to be arousing in real life. I'm still trying to fix myself. Will try to reboot completely and will see how things change.
     
  6. BaldrRising

    BaldrRising Member

    Do you feel the need to seek validation from women? If you do, get over it. You don't need their approval. Once you get over it, the whole femdom thing becomes a joke.
     
  7. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    Thanks for your reply. I think that it is way more complicated than that.
     
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  8. Thisworld

    Thisworld Member

  9. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

  10. Thisworld

    Thisworld Member

    Proof? Myself and many others

    They actually are cured by this method (along with psychotherapy). It's called orgasm reconditioning. Just Google for it
     
  11. niskanen91

    niskanen91 Active Member

    6,5 years later I have to say that this post is about the closest to the reality as it gets when it comes to the kinky sexuality.
     

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