Femdom shit not going away from me

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by VJ, Nov 19, 2017.

  1. VJ

    VJ Member

    I am 30 years old and I have been into femdom fantasy world since I started masturbation in my age of 14. I never had internet access in my childhood so I don’t know how I got this shit . Till date I masturbated only to femdom shit like women beating me by holding me in her hip like baby. I am married without sexual life for past two years. Will I be cured ? I really need to have a kid . I tried rebooting last two years but could not go beyond 30 days but with fantasy thoughts without masturbation during those 30 days. Welcome your inputs and suggestions
     
  2. VJ

    VJ Member

    Ay thoughts are highly appreciated , pls help me
     
  3. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

  4. Naruto558

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  5. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    also go as long as you can without orgasm and fantasy as well. then begin to rewire your arousal with your wife. try to have her be patient with you and things should work out
     
  6. 57yrold

    57yrold Member

    I would advise you read as much as you can about porn addiction, PMO, Rebooting, etc.

    And stay strong! I'm doing 'hardmode' which is NO P, NO M, and NO O, for at least 90 days.

    Some of my kinks have faded away, some are still lurking around, but I definitely seem to be re-wiring towards my wife, and normal touching, cuddling, kissing, etc.

    Good luck!
     
  7. VJ

    VJ Member

    Thanks for the suggestion . Yeah I am currently doing that reboot hard mode for past two weeks . Still cuddling, kissing my wife does not lure me or give life down ? Is it normal and will it take time ? Even I noticed morning wood which I used to get very hard daily but not getting hard for past one week , why is that so ?
     
  8. 57yrold

    57yrold Member

    Not too long after I started hardmode I went into a severe flatline. Again, I would suggest looking at the various Porn Addiction websites to read about this.

    Very low libido, penis shrinks/practically dies, low energy, depression/anxiety, sleep problems, etc.

    It totally sucks, but it means that things are improving. Your brain is returning to 'normal' and you're re-booting.

    And it does take time. I'm at 40 days and I still see no positive effects nor benefits what so ever. I'm sticking with the program though and NO PMO no matter what.

    Good luck to you! Stay strong an hang in there!
     
  9. VJ

    VJ Member

    You are in 40th days of hard mode reboot and you are saying no positive effect ?

    When you say hard mode reboot , kissing and cuddling are allowed ? What all the do and donts during hard mode reboot ?
     
  10. 57yrold

    57yrold Member

    Hardmode is just no P, no M, and No O.

    You still need to rewire with another human, so in my opinion it's a good thing to fool around with someone. Just no PMO.

    And, yes, I'm at 41 days and I have no morning wood, no wet dreams, and I can't get an erection. I'm discouraged, but I know I'm still very early in my rebooting/rewiring process, so I'm staying strong and keeping with the program.

    No PMO, period.
     
  11. VJ

    VJ Member

    When you say wet dreams ? You dream about your fantasies in dream without your control and getting orgasm due to dream ? If so I had one dream where I fantasize about femdom and ejaculated without my control ? Does it means am I relapsed ?
     
  12. 57yrold

    57yrold Member

    No relapse if you have a wet dream. That's out of your control. It's just your body.

    I would only reset my counter if I looked at porn, or if I actively masturbated, or if I actively did something to achieve an orgasm.

    Wet dreams don't count.
     
  13. VJ

    VJ Member

    Right now i am not masturbating or fantasizing, i will continue as long i can even beyond 90 days. But what you mean by rewire your arousal with wife? Because i am not getting arousal with my wife or anything except femdom fantasizies. Can you suggest if homeopathy doctors will be available in USA and do they aware to consult regarding problem like mine ?
     
  14. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    it means that you have to kiss and be intimate with your wife. even if you cant get aroused at first keep on trying everyday. do this while you stay away from all fantasizing and masturbation
     
  15. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    you should return to normal after enough rewiring. make sure you appreciate your wife in other ways. she is probably very frustrated with the situation.
     
  16. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    what area do you live in the usa? i could try to find a homeopathic doctor and send you the number. just search for one on google
     
  17. VJ

    VJ Member

    I relapsed on 19th day after masturbating to femdom fantasy. Feel like killing myself , shit about me .
     
  18. Naruto558

    Naruto558 Member

    keep trying i just had so many urges last night but i got through it. im also telling you that dont worry about regular sex. we all have that ability in us it will never go away. you just have to rewire
     
  19. 57yrold

    57yrold Member

    Bummer, but don't be too hard on yourself. Try to learn from what happened. What will you do the next time you're triggered? Is there anything that you could have done differently here that would have prevented, and can you do that next time.

    Hang in there. Stay strong and KEEP GOING!
     
  20. VJ

    VJ Member

    If I don’t sleep properly in night say like till 3 or 4 am then that night is killing me with many urges. Probably I should somehow sleep sooner to avoid those night urges which is where I am relapsing often
     

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