Feeling guilty about an almost wet dream

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by joelski, Oct 29, 2013.

  1. joelski

    joelski New Member

    Two nights ago I came really close to a wet dream. It was really erotic and similar to so many porn scenes I've watched. I think I might have even been jerking off since when I woke up my hand was on my penis.

    How do you control you unconscious mind so that you don't have wet dreams that are almost exactly like a PMO? Does this get any better with time?
    Or is it just something natural that you have to deal with?
     
  2. BadOnion

    BadOnion New Member

    You can't. Don't worry about it.
     
  3. joelski

    joelski New Member

    It just sucks because even unconsciously my mind wants to PMO.

    I wish I could just get rid of those unnatural urges altogether but I suppose that isn't realistic. By unnatural I mean anything other than actual sex.
     
  4. Dan82

    Dan82 New Member

    At beginning of my reboot I had lots of dreams like this don't worry.
     
  5. joelski

    joelski New Member

    Do you ever wake up realizing that you're jacking off in your sleep?
     
  6. A New Man

    A New Man White Knuckle Brigade 2013

    At the beginning of the first reboot i woke up grinding the mattress some nights. The dreams were also very pornographic at first. I still get erotic dreams only now the imagery is a lot milder- and also more about physical sensation.

    Like the others said there's no point in worrying about them because they are out of your control. Be careful though- there can be a "chaser" the day after, especially if you keep replaying the dream mentally.
     
  7. joelski

    joelski New Member

    I didn't have a wet dream and was on the verge of having an O so when I woke up I really wanted to finish but I didn't.

    It was a huge victory for me.

    Now I'm getting close to one of the only times I've gone a full 30 days without a PMO.
     
  8. A New Man

    A New Man White Knuckle Brigade 2013

    Hats off for 30 days. Keep on fighting and break that m*therf*cker once and for all.
     
  9. joelski

    joelski New Member

    Thanks! I'm not there yet but I'm getting close.

    You've gone over 150 days.... That's amazing!

    What's you're secret?
     
  10. lookingahead

    lookingahead To restore my inmost being. Staff Member

    Whenever I go into day 30+ of no PMO, is usually when I start having sexual dreams. When I get close to having an orgasm in a dream, I would always resist it, because I was adjusted to resisting urges during my reboot. It got to a point where I was "needing" to orgasm, but my mind was resisting it. It got to a point where I was having to tell myself during the day to not fight it in my sleep. And eventually, it happened. So don't try to fight it or resist it if it happens. It's a natural process.
     
  11. A New Man

    A New Man White Knuckle Brigade 2013

    For me the secret is being clear about my motivation. When things got tough in the beginning i'd think about my kids, what they would think of me when they discover my stash/search history. i'm not a great dad in many ways, but i can at least keep them safe from that.

    You're doing great- what is your motivation?
     
  12. joelski

    joelski New Member

    Well I'm recently divorced. It was a very unhappy marriage partly due to my addiction, and partly because we weren't compatible- but I know my part was the catalyst for the marriage ending.

    I want a fresh start on life without porn. I want to meet another woman (and I may have already found her) and have a healthy fulfilling relationship and a terrific sex life. I want kids and I don't want to be hiding a shameful addiction problem from them. I want a career where I'm motivated, respected and well compensated and where I'm not constantly thinking about the next time I'm getting to PMO.

    That's my motivation.
     

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