Escort ads Problem

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by hope2overcome, Jan 22, 2017.

  1. hope2overcome

    hope2overcome No Love, No Sex

    I have noticed when I think of having sex with an escort, my pleasure system goes through the roof. I start masturbating. Yes, the escort ads addiction did result out of habitual porn use. The problem is when I think of a 10 out of 10 super hot chick, I can't even think of having sex with her. It is like my libido and sexual attraction is misdirected.

    I know one solution is to get a gf and re-wire with her but I ask this.

    What if I simply do not fantasize of escorts and/or watch escort ads anymore. Will I return back to baseline? Should I be fantasizing of sex with every hot chick I see? Should I get horny when I see a hot chick? I am so confused.
     
  2. Deleted User

    Deleted User Guest

    Yes, not fantasising/watching escort ads will result in coming back to baseline.

    I don't think fantasising about real chicks would help. You'd quickly come back to thinking of escorts.

    As for horniness, there is no "should". Either you get horny or you don't. I'm in favor of the NoA approach, so don't feed the fantasies, but you can't control your hormones level. Sometimes you get boners - just don't think it's a good reason to watch escort ads, fantasise about them or meet one.

    Just my thoughts!
     
  3. Wabi-sabi

    Wabi-sabi Imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete

    Personally, I'm in favour of No Arousal, particularly for the first couple of months of rebooting. I think after that you can loosen up a bit and allow yourself to notice hot chicks in the street.

    It may help you to consider that the girls in the ads are professional models, not the actual escorts you will meet.
     
  4. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Hey man, I totally feel where you're at.

    What if I told you it's something entirely different?
    See, for me there was something terrifying about meeting escorts in real life. (still is a bit)
    Unlike porn you're not in control any more, you're meeting a real life female, unpredictable, on the clock.
    Any PIED/PA/SA at that point will go through the roof, you stomach will turn upside down, fight-or-flight on full power.

    So you got a source of stress/trauma which amplifies the need to escape.
    And the perfect escape? right there at the escort ads themselves, it's a vicious cycle.

    Can you relate at all? be honest mate
     

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