Not trying to encourage any of you to relapse back into porn, BUT do you think that our initial failures with sex led us to self fulfilling prophecy of believing we had ED to the point where we can't even get properly hard when we're alone? Is it possible that I could have convinced myself so intensely that I had such bad ED that I now have it when alone, have no morning wood, have minimal pleasure when orgasming, etc?
I don't think that could be the case, although you should probably talk to a specialist that can help you with these things. I'm going to try to find a counsellor for my anxiety as well as go more in-depth with my doctor about my problem, as it's now starting to negatively effect my relationship which sucks.