What experiences lived when we were babies, kids, etc have possibly contributed to our porn addictions? I've been thinking quite a bit about this as I come to grips with some of the violence that I experienced as a boy. My brother had a really violent temper and I know now that part of my coping was to try and remain invisible and not attract attention. Carried this forward to my adult life. This has meant that I have a problem in getting my own needs met so that I can avoid troubling other people or just avoid a potential conflict. When they are not met, I get really down on myself and on others.... when I am down, I do things to make me feel better. I believe that this is a big part of my inability to maintain a relationship for very long. Now, I'm not saying that if I had not experienced these things as a child that I would actually understand women, but as it is now, all relationships are doomed. I get angry and then leave. Unable to engage in healthy conflict within a couple. Sex on a screen eliminates the problem.