I look at it like this - I've been paying for sexual services (either at the massage parlor or strip club) once a month, for the last three years... That might sound bad at first, but now imagine somebody told you they eat fast food once a month and only once a month. Would you say that person is addicted to fast food? I wouldn't. Does it sound like their fast food habit is out of control? No, if anything they seem to manage cravings quite well. So I don't think paid sex should be held to any different standard really. I agree with Longwayhome in that you can allow yourself some freedom depending on your financial situation. I'm not making minimum wage, and I would definitely have to reevaluate my position from a budget standpoint if I was. And I'm not making $200k per year either, so I can't throw caution to the wind -- and I don't (let's face it, lots of rich and powerful people probably pay for kinky stuff behind closed doors and nobody really cares or judges them for it). The biggest concern for me is just not to go on autopilot - not to wake up one day and feel like I HAVE to see a pro, and have a one track mind to where it's the only thing I can focus on or think about. I always want there to be a level of consciousnesses and awareness behind my thinking/ planning/ behavior, and right now I feel for for the most part there is. Yea, I do think there are some outward telltale signs of a porn addict - bad posture, avoiding eye contact, a general nervousness. But I really believe those are side effects of a lack of confidence, not necessarily the porn itself. And not to toot my own horn, but I don't feel like that's the kind of thing people notice around me. I've addressed it, I do make eye contact with people whenever I can for example. Like you said, in my pictures I don't look like an addict. In general I get great vibes/ energy from people. A women at the presentation last night told me I was "lovely". It was only when I got the pulse reading that I showed low jing, and since excessive semen loss is one of the main causes of low jing, the doctor figured it was masturbation pretty quickly. He also said I was born with low prenatal jing from my parents. You make a fair point that anybody could throw darts blindfolded at 20-30 year old males and most would admit to masturbating too much. I did feel an authenticity in my diagnosis though, and he was just a super cool guy to talk to overall. And again, it wasn't coming from a place like "you're a creep, you masturbate too much, you're in bad shape", really more that I wasn't performing at optimal levels. Which I can appreciate and basically agree with. He said that I could still "have fun" with women, just not to orgasm. So that would be tantric sex I guess? I have to look into it some more. I was also reading his book last night and he did emphatically say sex is better than masturbation. Because in sex, the male and female exchange fluids, whereas in masturbation the man just leaks fluids. But overall he is definitely pro-semen retention, even with sex it seems. The Chinese girl and I basically broke up on Easter. There were things I should have done differently, things she should have done differently, and ultimately I think the pressure of cultural issues and her citizenship weighed too heavily on my shoulders. We are going to stay friends and maybe even in business partners, just not dating. Our relationship wasn't very physical anyway (one of the biggest cultural disconnects we had), so it doesn't really make a difference for me in that department. I miss her though.