Don't Count Days, Just Stay Off Porn & Masturbation

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by 40New30, Nov 26, 2013.

  1. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Couldn't agree more. When I couldn't get up I scoured the internet for information. Without exception they all basically said that a man's sex life diminishes considerably after 45. You'd think that there'd be more info out there for men, sites that would give one hope, but on the big wide web there aren't any...except for sites like this. I bought into the notion that I would just never be able to be sexual again unless I took a blue pill. I'm now almost 60 and have absolutely no trouble getting a boner. In fact, I sometimes get them when I don't want them, like in the shopping aisle. :eek::cool: Low-testosterone is a catch all phrase which is medical speak for: I don't have a fucking clue, but I'm towing the company line here. I'm not an anomaly here. I'm fat, I drink too much, and could definitely take better care of myself, yet my boners are always good now. I do walk a lot and lift weights and I'm assuming that helps. But, what really helps is not fapping or looking at P.

    When we gain a bit of momentum with the reboot we start to see a lot of positives. Focussing on those positives revs up our engines in wonderful ways. I don't have a clue the science behind it and I don't really care. Boners for life! :D
     
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  2. dig deep

    dig deep must stop wasting my life on porn

    Couldn't agree more this is the number one thing unless there is a medical reason
     
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  3. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    I think we need to start a club "BONERS FOR LIFE !" :D:D I will be the first member !:D:D:D:D
     
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  4. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Member...get it? ;) :D It's a great club, it's full of dicks! ha ha
     
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  5. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    :D:D:p:D:D:D "MEMBERSHIP IS FREE !"HAHAHA!
     
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  6. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    You back yet? Damm, that's a nice vacation (time wise) ! ;)Yeah man ! :D:D
     
  7. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Got back yesterday, bro. Jet lag is a bitch! But, I'm back on the job.

    I'm continuing to see some leveling up regarding libido, mind-dick connection, and erection strength...this recovery isn't over yet. Probably the biggest change I noticed over the last week was the feeling of having a loaded gun. It just felt ready to go, whole, complete.
    The feeling comes and goes; non-linear.
     
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  8. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    So glad to have you back. Was Bali all that you hoped?
     
  9. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    I've been AWOL for a while but am back and glad to see you continue down the road of recovery and to continue to post. You are truly an inspiration. I've been floundering around for a year now, stuck in a narrow band where I'm not going off a cliff but I'm also not soaring to new heights.

    Your statement on circulating energy up into higher centers intrigues me. What you you mean by it and how do you do it? Lately I've been reducing my frequency of orgasm to sometimes as little as once every two weeks, and am wondering what you would consider holding off an orgasm for too long.
     
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  10. madman

    madman Member

    So much to chew on here! Thanks! Pretty new to this. It is awesome. I've just seen pictures of Bali. Wow. Peace.
     
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  11. Libertad

    Libertad Well-Known Member

    Glad to see the big brother back.;) Always good to hear from you. Stay strong.:)
     
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  12. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    The OG is back!! Dude Bali is AWESOME. Once in a lifetime beautiful.

    40-I have a question that’s been on my mind lately.

    How can you tell if you need more orgasms or in fact need rest?

    I was noticing increased anxiety, problems staying asleep at night, ED problems, all the Classic PIED reboot problems. The last couple months.

    So I’m doing a mini “reboot” of no orgasm, but sex is okay since I’m married with a beautiful wife.

    39 days no O at the moment. To me, my symptoms are pointing to too much O before I’m completely ready since I’ve fallen back into some “flatline” symptoms.

    Any insight? Don’t mean to hijack your thread but wanted to get your opinion.
     
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  13. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Second trip, and it's still awesome. Saw a lot more this time and still lots to see...plan on going back for more!
     
  14. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Anything more than 100 days would be 'too much'... once every two weeks is actually right in line with many Taoist philosophers.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microcosmic_orbit (This will get you started on circulating energy. Always bring you attention back to the tantien at the end of the exercise, energy is stored in the belly.)

    At this point in my reboot, I think I need more sex and more orgasms to wake up the fire (rewire more basically)...once the circuit is fully reawakened then I would probably go down to once every 7 to 14 days.

    That's my new plan right now. :) Glad to see you back! I'm fully convinced that for long time PMO addicts like me it takes years to get back to what most would consider normal, you're not alone.
     
  15. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    It's utterly crazy fantastic, but remember the jet lag on the way back lasts about a week. Thanks!
     
  16. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Thanks, Lib! You're kicking serious ass! As I knew you would, you're becoming so self aware, I can feel it.

    I'm staying strong...the beast is always there; awareness and vigilance are needed for the rest of our lives. Every addict is standing next the abyss, even after years of being clean...we forget that at our own peril. Let that knowledge guide and protect us. :)
     
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  17. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I don't believe in hijacking or in 'personal threads'...we're all in the same boat, and we're all here together. ;)

    That's a serious good question, more O's or more rest?!

    The answer burst into my mind and I think you'll like it and intuitively 'get it'. Here it is -- we need both, and it cycles back and forth. We need rest sometimes because our HPT axis overall is still healing from addiction. But we need more O's in order to rewire the brain to real sex!

    How's that for f'd up!

    I think sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to flatlines or getting symptoms again. It could just be non-linearness and the brain healing up...bottom line is to follow your intuition and more O's or less shouldn't mess things up in the long run.

    You and I have talked about 'other' health issues as being intertwined in overall healing, as well, could it be that you're healing from other insults? I wouldn't be surprised.

    Personally, I still have some pelvic alignment problems and tight groin muscles, inflammation, and I'm still healing from food allergies, gut dysbiosis and hypothyroidism. In fact, I believe these undiagnosed physical maladies drove my PMO addiction to the crazy heights it once reached. PMO was the only thing that made me feel better...I was self medicating the depression/low energy that came from the low body temperatures, and sick belly. Of course, PMO made things worse not better.

    At the end of the the day, the brain will take it's own time to heal, and it's always moving towards rewiring/healing as long as we're staying clean. But, overall health is critical...otherwise how can the brain make new neuronal connections fast enough?!

    My thing is also this, I'm very nutrient deficient in certain things...and these nutrients are needed for overall brain health; is my brain really healing at the same rate as someone who doesn't have these deficiencies? I certainly think not.

    One major deficiency I have still is zinc...I'm low as shit in it, despite 100 mg daily supplementation for a long time. And well, zinc is critical for a healthy brain and healthy neurons. It all comes together into a unified theory at that juncture -- the theory of the long rebooter -- overall brain health must coincide with PMO abstinence, as well as mass rewiring.

    Lastly, since I'm on a roll here...I think that some addict's brains need to shed all addictive substances in order to get better. I've struggled with coffee and tobacco over the past few years, but I'm currently completely off both; hopefully for good.

    These last pieces of the puzzle are important, I think. I would love to hear what you think, Reborn Again.
     
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  18. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Oh and remember, jet lag is a bitch. 12 time zones. I won't be back to normal sleep for at least a few days yet...
     
  19. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    You're right. I do like that answer haha and when you say it that way, I think you're right.

    For me personally, I've spent the last 2 and a half years rewiring HARD. Lots of O's (all through sex and all with the same woman) lots of female interaction, and lots of friend interactions.

    But its crazy that after years of "rebooting," I still had horrific withdrawal symptoms since my mini-reboot started 4o days ago since my last orgasm. Anxiety, trouble staying asleep, all the classic reboot symptoms.

    But taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture, I've seen HUGE strides socially and I'm relating to friends like I NEVER have in my life. My social life has blossomed. I'm finally owning who I am.

    But I'm STILL rebooting. It's crazy!!

    I think intuitively what I need right now is to introduce some rest and lay back on the O's. Instead of 2-3 a week like I was doing the last 2 years (all from sex) maybe scale back to once a month. See what happens.

    My gut is telling me to rest and take a step back. The whole rebooting thing is crazy isn't it? So much for 90 days :) thanks my brother. Appreciate the response.


     
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  20. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I'm definitely still rebooting too, but it's a combination of healing from different maladies. ;)

    So, had some PE yesterday and probably had it the last few times I had sex. Rebooting is non-linear; as you all can attest, it was DE city for me for a long time so I suppose it's time for a swing the other way. Ha.
     
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