Don't Count Days, Just Stay Off Porn & Masturbation

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by 40New30, Nov 26, 2013.

  1. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    Hassir! I mean yessir!
     
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  2. 40New30

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    Guys, I've been traveling for work and just absolutely putting in crazy hours; I wish I was posting more here, but I'm here to shout it loud and proud -- I am clean!

    Night wood has been coming back with a vengeance the last few days despite my early May screw ups (yep, already sporting sharp wood), and as I said those were pretty much binge relapses, but I must add not binges like in my much darker days. I guess there are binges and there are binges.
    Let's put it this way, it wasn't a 5 minute wank...but it wasn't a 3 day marathon either.

    And, it did feel...so different, not as enthralling, I didn't feel nearly as high from the P, and, I got virtually no withdrawal headaches and little insomnia. Erections did take a hit for a while though, sex felt alien...some DE, some PE. (All that seems to have leveled out by now.)

    I guess what I'm saying is that it didn't take long at all to bounce back from that shit!

    I'm like 5.5 weeks clean, but 2 years and 5.5 weeks 99.9999% clean.
    Progress, not perfection.
     
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  3. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    You the man!
     
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  4. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Nothing to see here except success! :D

    You continue to inspire, my friend.
     
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  5. 40New30

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    Thanks guys!

    To go from one of the worst addicts ever to where I am now is crazy, which is why I say anyone can get clean. I've lived through the lowest lows and the highest highs, no bullshit.

    To mess up after 2 frickin' years and not have the hooks get into me, well, that just gives me even more peace of mind -- it is not failure. In addition this reminds me that I'm an addict. We all need reality checks from time to time.

    Peace.
     
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  6. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    As always, I am proud to call you friend and ally. You ARE the man I want to be in PMO. Thank you for continually
     
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  7. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    We're bros for life, Guy. Your success is my success, mine is yours. Together we rise up.
     
  8. 40New30

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    Just checking in, absolutely no time for P. I've never been this busy in my life, and I'm handling it just fine.
    No coincidence that there's no PMO, MO or P in my life!
     
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  9. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    I admire your tenacity and unwillingness to give in to pmo, mo, or p.
     
  10. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    Working your as s off, something in it....called being tired.
     
  11. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    Breaker.....breaker.... where the heck are you?
     
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  12. 40New30

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    Guys, I'm over seas on vacation. All is well, clean as a whistle -- thanks for looking out for me, Bobo! It means a lot.

    I did have a weird post-orgasm symptom while over here...now this was after incredible jet lag (many time zone change), lack of sleep, caffeine, and alcohol...but the moral of this little post-O tale is that orgasm has a very powerful effect.

    Anyhow, post O I was in a very cold A/C room (naked as a jay bird) and suddenly I got the shivers so bad that it brought on a serious anxiety attack which lasted about 90 seconds. It went away as soon as I showered and dressed. Very intense, and not fun but no other post O negatives.

    Non-linearness at play, gents.

    Our sexuality definitely puts stress on our bodily systems...couple that with many other stresses at the same time and we can get system overload -- especially in a brain/body system still healing from years of PMO abuse to be certain.

    My brain is still learning reality and healing, probably because of the relapse in May, a few wires were re-hooked. My physical body is still healing, mostly I feel things in my nervous system here and there; and, the nervous system is basically an outcropping of our brains; it's all connected somehow.

    Peace, bros...from sunny SE Asia.
     
  13. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    Well done, my mentor! As I said on my thread, while I am not Jedi enough to suggest things to others, I CAN uplift and encourage. Thank you for your help!
     
  14. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Viewing the yoga concept of Brahmacharya as an energy management technique rather than celibacy gives a good perspective of the power caused in seeking orgasm and the energy spent in ejaculation.
     
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  15. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    I'm jealous!
     
  16. Mad Dog

    Mad Dog Well-Known Member

    And you didnt ask me to carry your luggage ?:(
     
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  17. 40New30

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    True. But, holding off orgasm for long periods of time with circulating energy up into higher centers can be damaging. Been there, done that; I would never not orgasm for long periods of time without circulating my energy internally every day.
     
  18. 40New30

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    In Bali right now, bro. It's bad ass. Highly recommend if you get the chance.
     
  19. 40New30

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    Next trip? :D
     
  20. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I think my orgasm frequency could go as high as I'd want it to go at this point of my reboot. I've done 2 to 3 orgasms in a week with no dramatic after effect issues, I'm sure I could do more.

    At 44, I'm just not old...and neither are you in your 40's, 50's, and 60's.. even 70's.

    Our sexuality should not be diminishing much, our boners shouldn't disappear at 35 that's for sure -- that is a bill of goods fed to you by the propaganda machine (aka the drug lobby, victim culture, etc).

    The truth is this -- get off porn, don't smoke, don't drink to excess, exercise, take care of yourself and your boner is basically yours for life, barring serious medical conditions.

    On the other hand, I have work to do with my pelvic, inner thigh, and groin muscles, etc. I believe that years of PMO abuse has misaligned my pelvic floor, it's a fairly common thing too, it's talked about a lot on other forums.

    This is not something that heals just by quitting PMO (at least in my case), you gotta lengthen (and relax) certain muscles as well as realign the body. That is on my to-do list when I get back from vacation. Misalignment and overly tight muscles messes with blood flow to the genitals as well as causes pain...for me I only get pain when I drink coffee though, at this point.

    My groin muscles go into spasm with caffeine use, basically, and it has caused anxiety attacks as well in the past -- those were a real bitch too.

    Thanks for listening to my ramble.
     
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