Don't Count Days, Just Stay Off Porn & Masturbation

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by 40New30, Nov 26, 2013.

  1. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Hell yeah it is! :D
     
  2. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    So, I did want to mention this!

    I have noticed a quite significant drop in night wood after I recovered my soberness, got control, and stopped the cycle, what have you.
    While I was relapsing, my night wood actually increased in persistent "noticeability".

    What does this mean?

    Well, I'm not sure, but I think it has to do with the brain 'thinking' it's reward was back! Like when the PMO comes back on the scene...the brain is like, yes!! The party is back! And the sexual hormone 'output' increases?! Receptors ramp up? (Mind you this is, of course, temporary, and I would have ruined my function completely had I kept going. No need to tell you that.)

    It will be quite fascinating to see how long it takes until I get back to iron night wood each night. It's been about 2.5 weeks post fuck up and I'm not even close!
    But not worried.

    Stay tuned, brahs.

    P.S. Don't ever, ever edge for a long time without releasing. If you don't release you'll mess up your system and get serious testicle pain, even temporary damage I think. I had serious testicular pain for weeks and weeks in the past, many moons, due to edging without release.

    Remember orgasm isn't the problem (though it will feel like it for a while), it's wiring to pixels, being a voyeur, overstimulation of sexual circuits, etc.
     
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  3. dig deep

    dig deep must stop wasting my life on porn

    Same for me no wood for me and I see it as my brain and body recharging it's self and it will take as long as it takes I have to be patient and not test it that's the discipline.

    So true 40, a PMO session for me would last between 3 to 5 hours some times twice a day I think of all that damage I have done with all that edging,I feel embarrassed writing that down but it's the truth and I have to face up to it.
     
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  4. Freedom from Servitude

    Freedom from Servitude Active Member

    Good to see that you have got things under control again. Its also uplifting to read that you are not depressed by the experience. You have just picked yourself and have carried on moving forward, and I find that inspirational.

    I agree with you on edging. I sense that was when the most damage was done during my addiction. In the end it wasn't enough to climax to a few videos because the orgasm became hollow. I had to keep chasing the dopamine high. My binges could last for hours before I finally hit the orgasm, often unintentionally. I am no doctor, but I think that this put stress on my prostate and has given me a weak urine flow.
     
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  5. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    I agree about the prostate, called prostitatis. Weak urine flow also.
     
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  6. alisdaily

    alisdaily Member

    did not read everything I confess, but Im relieved that I do not have to compare myself to anyone and count days.
     
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  7. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Yep, I had for a while because I edged myself into it. Sucked.
     
  8. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yup did the same dumbass thing !
     
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  9. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I too was embarrassed to write about that kind of thing for several years into recovery...but the truth will set you free! I was one of the worst PMO addicts I've ever read about, and I've been sober more than not for about 7 years.

    If I remember correctly when I got comfortable talking about my past, I got better, faster. Good things are on the horizon for you!
     
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  10. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Absolutely right, but it does heal! I've healed so much, so much, man. Messes with the nerves and such...also cramped up some of the muscular I think.
    It heals!

    As I've always said, get healthy in every way and you'll get better. Thanks for sharing! Together we rise up.
     
  11. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Nope, it's not a contest. Everyone conquers their demons in their own way, and in their own time...but reading posts from others guides us and teaches us all on how to do it right.
     
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  12. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Everything is flowing well, and the ground beneath me is solid. Looks like it's true that you can get to a point in sobriety where even a bad fuck-up doesn't pull you under completely; for the first 5 years I was quitting one relapse always brought me to absolute chaos eventually.

    Just having that peace of mind, is worth a million bucks.

    I'm out of the danger zone, shoot I probably was a week ago.
     
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  13. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I think I relapsed because I'm going into 'jump off the cliff mode' with work.
    A tiny part of me still wants to sabotage my success, guess our shadow side will always be with us.

    Make the force be with you. :eek:
     
  14. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    No more danger zone. Cool, and peace and calm.:)
     
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  15. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Happy Memorial Day weekend, bros!
    Let's all live the best lives we can, if we do that, there's no way we will ever stay down.

    Positive energy is the antidote to addiction...it comes in many forms. Get some!

    Baby steps -- Bob Wiley :D
     
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  16. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    AMEN BRO !
     
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  17. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    I'm getting the beginnings of better night wood, roughly 19 to 20 days post relapse. Stoked!
    It will be interesting when it gets back completely, hopefully another month??...before I messed up it was like a rock and woke me up from a dead sleep most nights.
     
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  18. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Great weekend, took about 1.5 days off!

    It's Memorial Day and I'm back working...I'm grateful for a second chance at life, grateful for this opportunity; so I'll make the most of it.
    No thoughts of PMO, or urges for PMO.
     
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  19. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    That' what most don' realize: A SECOND CHANCE AT LIFE ! NO W When you have some emotional tools to do something, to be happy, to be somber without regret, to breathe fresh air, to LIVE !
     
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  20. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    You've got to ramp up your O's once you've gone past a certain point.

    It's essential to getting better!
    O's are not the problem! Only P.

    (FYI, I had an O yesterday and I'm absolutely fine, no after effects except for a bit-larger-dose-of-sleepy for a couple of hours. Even 3 weeks post relapse.)

    I can feel the O's retraining my brain...therefore, I must do my duty.

    Sgt. O reporting for duty, ma'am.

    o_O

    Lame.
    So lame.
     
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