Do you think that some men have accepted their PMO addiction?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Unstable, Nov 27, 2014.

  1. Unstable

    Unstable Member

    During the height of my addiction, there was a horrible voice in the back of my head.

    It kept telling me that this addiction is mild compared to crack, weed, heroin and alcohol addiction. That the negative physical and mental effects of PMO are unnoticeable by the general public and you I can really notice it. There are people who are addicted to weed, alcohol and other drugs yet still live a productive life. Why do I just continue to PMO however, reduce gradually just enough to impregnate my future wife and live a life of PMO and limited real sex? The dopamine from porn is greater than real sex; so why bother with it and real women. Pleasure is pleasure.

    This is literally my thinking when I started my reboot. The voice(No actual voice) is still somewhat there; I think like this once a month I would say but quickly brush it off.

    Do you think some men have accepted their PMO and a life of impotency whilst continuing to live a life that is productive in their definition.
     
  2. Panonymos

    Panonymos Humility is a virtue

    When I first found out I was a porn addict, I tried to stop and was unable. I did not have any knowledge or support back then, I was on my own and I tried really hard but it was impossible to stop. Then I had to accept this reality. It was very depressing, extremely depressing, but I had no other choice, I had to live with myself. So yeah, I was a porn addict with no way out. But it was not pleasure. It was a (often disturbing) fix I needed before falling back into despair.

    I have a couple of friends who are just in denial. They use porn every day and have accepted this as normal. They know that their behavior is limiting their life, but they don't have the balls to admit it to themselves.

    This post really touched me. Reminded me of my 20's.
     
  3. Hello Penis My Old Friend

    Hello Penis My Old Friend Well-Known Member

    Accepting it is probably the easiest thing to do, the path of least resistance, especially if you can't see yourself being successful with women or clawing your way out of whatever rut you're stuck in. How many relapses have occurred because a guy just thought "Fuck it I may as well, it's not like the alternative is any better"? Loads.

    Speaking for me personally, I think at many stages I had accepted it but with the proviso that I would quit eventually. I recently had the thought enter my mind that I was at a stage where either I have to cut out the PMO, or just accept my lot as a guy who can only get off for the computer for the rest of his life. The thought that I would even give up on the vague concept of quitting eventually terrifies me.

    However, while a PMO lifestyle is far from optimal, I don't think it rules out the possibility of making progress in other areas of your life regardless. There are lots of men on this forum who have apparently successful working lives, despite their PMO habit.
     
  4. SlowlyButSurely

    SlowlyButSurely New Member

    I think it's easier to accept when you're PMO'ing to regular stuff.

    I guess for a lot of guys who experience HOCD or more extreme porn especially, that's not so much an option...
     
  5. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    I don't think its as debilitating as having a meth or heroin addiction. Its probably an equal to gambling. And, I would say it is more harmful than being addicted to smoking.
     
  6. Parasite

    Parasite New Member

    More harmful than smoking? You are kidding right? Everyday people die because of smoking. They look worse as they age, a lot of men get erectile problems which you cant really reverse because their veins are fucked up also their lungs so they are getting less oxygen into all parts of their bodies.
     
  7. NickRiviera

    NickRiviera Guest

    If you ignore that smoking appears to be the no. 1 cause of avoidable illnesses and death, then yeah....
     
  8. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    Pornography is a more subversive illness, its hard to see the real injuries.

    Smoking a packet of cigarettes everyday has less ills than masturbating to porn everyday for a young man. Of course, further down the line the smoker may get cancer. Yet before that occurs the porn user would have developed pied and probably depression to go with it. A smoker can lead a functional life whereas a depressed person cannot.
     
  9. sir.zang

    sir.zang New Member

    I think deep down, they have to know that this is not good. but sometimes they are too lazy to change.
     

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