Desperately need advice....ED pills and new girl...

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by timetogetserious, Sep 28, 2015.

  1. Hello all,

    I have been doing this for nearling three years, and recently went through a tough stretch with PMO, and hit rock bottom. I've finally found my way back, and really feel a lot better and different this time around. I really think this is the time that I beat this for good. I've been able to comfortably stay away from PMO for over 3 weeks. But I met this girl shortly after....and now I've been an emotional mess. I like the girl a lot and we have really kicked it of. I've been out with her a few times now, and it is getting that that point soon (like tonight...or tomorrow), where we are going to be alone and start to mess around.

    My problem....what do I do? I know if take ED pills, I can have sex with her. But the last time I was in a relationship I never told the girl about my problem (glad I didnt....cause we ended up breaking up), and felt like I was living a lie. I told her that I was on blood pressure medication for months. I feel like the only way I ever beat this is I am truthful with my partner...and we work together to help me through it.

    Problem is that sex is not perfect with these ED pills. I still can't ejaculate...and I still lose my erections. What should I do? Should I take the pills and continue rebooting? Should I tell her about the reboot? If so, how much information should i give her? WIll she think im some sort of wierdo afterwards....Maybe it would be best to just end it and give the reboot a chance to finish?

    I've been stressing this out for days, and need some sort of resolution.... thanks guys.
  2. Dan82

    Dan82 New Member

    Start good kegel routine, stay away from porn and MO. Keep having sex with pills. Don't tell anything to women, that will make you look weak! After a month of good kegel routine/sex you will have stronger erection ever!
  3. GhostDog

    GhostDog Porn=Poison

    I agree with Dan82 stay away from porn, MO and use the pills.

    If you are having problems with your erection and ejaculating you are still suffering from PIED. Stay committed to NO PORN/MO and you will be fine you just need more time.

    When you get to the point where you can function without the need for pills or worrying about your performance it will be a great feeling.

    Stay strong!!!
  4. YellowMinion

    YellowMinion Member

    I wish I knew exactly what did it, but I took a combination of Horny Goat Weed Complex , Korean Ginseng, Maca, and L-Arginine (or even one other that I'm forgetting.) I had sex and came in probably about 7 minutes which is super fast for me and that was me holding back as long as I could. It was like I was 15 years old or something. I normally like to try to go at least 15 - 25 minutes and give her several good orgasms before finishing. Well it's honestly it's a long shot. Perhaps in my case it was just placebo and I was just really excited and having been off PMO for months made me that much more sensitive. But we have sex regularly and I don't usually come that fast.

    I say try the ED meds and see if they work. I suspect it's a lot easier to stay off of PMO if you have someone there to be with. I know if it were me I'd probably be so paranoid of losing the girl if I didn't make the move that I'd do whatever it takes to seal the deal.
  5. WHat should I say if I start losing my erection, or have problems ejaculating like I have had in the past?
  6. Burning Ranger

    Burning Ranger New Member

    I"m not going to tell you what to do, but IMO, being truthful about it is probably your safest bet.

    I"m currently recovering but don't want to use any ED pills. Currently on something all natural at the moment to help drive/libido.

    I told a girl I like about my PIED just last week because I wasn't able to get it up 2 times. Tell her you're recovering at the moment.

    If you can't function downstairs, use your mouth and hands. Give her as much pleasure as you possibly can in this fashion. Make her cum several times. Make her enjoy the moment so much that she won't care if intercourse is not performed that night.

    I hope things work out for the two of you. Good luck
  7. Illi

    Illi New Member

    oh awesome... product placement on a recovery you guys feel good about yourselves? shit and die...seriously, put a shotgun in your mouth and blow your worthless brains out, the world would be a better place...

    okay bye bye now :)

  8. ted93704

    ted93704 Keep Your Heads Up!

    Think about it this way. You are worrying about not having an erection when you have a gorgeous woman in your bed? Who cares? Just enjoy yourself and be happy. Think about all the men not getting any at that particular time. You are one of the men actually having sex at that very moment so stop worrying about what you can and cant do and just enjoy yourself. Stop putting pressuing on yourself. So you cant bust a nutt? oh well, fuck her until she asks you to stop!
  9. biggleii

    biggleii Member

    I agree with ted. It's not going to work if your mind is on your boner rather than being sexually aroused. You're meant to be having fun instead of getting all stressed out and anxious about it.

    You are probably going to have to learn how to beat this anxiety you feel by yourself, and the only way to do it is to keep trying (i.e. keep having sex, or at least trying to) until you figure it out. Maybe tell your partner about it. You might be surprised at how understanding she will be.
  10. SmallStroke

    SmallStroke Member

    I'm in the exact same situation, just stopped seeing a girl that I used cialis with one time and failed to have sex with several other times.
    The best thing to do would be to tell her about your problem and try to get her to help you. This will relieve some of the pressure you might feel to perform. Unfortunatly that is a pretty hard thing to admit and depending on your relationship with her you might end up loosing her.

    It all depends on how you think she will react, if you think she will be supportive, then tell her. If you think she might not be, then don't tell her and use ED meds.
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    menshealth13 New Member

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  12. Rusty

    Rusty Member

    Just use Viagra for the first few times and if you want to tell her about it later then do so.

    Try not to worry about it so much - you're doing your best and you are working on becoming a better man.
  13. karlito31

    karlito31 New Member

    I'm taking those Viagra pills for years now. My last girlfriend found out about it somewhere at the middle of our relationship and it did not bother her even the least. The current girlfriend still does not know for pills, and until further notice, it will remain so given that all works perfectly just the way it is. In my opinion, as long as you can deliver, everything is allowed.
  14. BailHope

    BailHope New Member

    I come from a similar situation.

    I was in a real relationship but had trouble performing. I wanted to talk to her about it, but I couldn't, because I was scared of scaring her away. Instead, just be honest with her that having sex makes you nervous. I, personally, told her about one of my exes and explained that she put a lot of emphasis on sex and performance, and that it put pressure on me to perform, which is why I still sometimes fail. I ended by assuring her that it had nothing to do with her if it should happen, but that it could happen. No one understands performance anxiety better than a woman, I've found. And they're not beating you up over it either if it happens.

    So, you can be honest, or if that option scares you, you can be kind of honest. After some time I kept having trouble performing, so I went to the doctor and got some performance enhancement drugs to try out. This allowed us to have some sex at least, and she was understanding and caring about it in the meantime.
  15. stephensa

    stephensa New Member

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  16. Stop_Hammertime

    Stop_Hammertime New Member

    If you can, you should tell her about the problem. You will clear the air before it's become clouded.

    I know this is much easier said than done. I myself was in a similar situation with my last girlfriend and I could never tell her I was using cialis. The problem is it makes it hard to understand what a normal erection should be like and you may develop psychological dependence on them. Many factors affect EQ, such as diet, smoking, drinking, lifestyle etc.

    As mentioned, also see a urologist to confirm the problem is porn.

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