Deleted my Facebook account today

Discussion in 'Internet Addiction' started by stretcher, Jul 2, 2013.

  1. stretcher

    stretcher New Member

    To you people who are afraid that deleting your Facebook account will be detrimental to your social lives: having a Facebook account is already detrimental to your social life or you wouldn't be considering getting rid of it. An online social life isn't a real social life, it's only taking your time away from doing the sort of things that will make you worth knowing irl. It's empty calories. Keep hanging on to it all you want but you're not doing yourself any favors.
     
  2. freethinker

    freethinker Guest

    Facebook...GONE....quite a while back for me. Haven't regretting ditching it one single bit. It's really mostly rampant narcissisim and voyeurism. No real substance. I've felt from the beginning that something was not quite right with that social mess.

    To me, if I can't see certain people regularly face to face, then the phone is king, and e-mail is queen, and texting is prince. I do them in that order of priority. Anyone who really cares about actually conversing with me should be on board with that, otherwise, I would seriously question the value of the relationship. People become "sheeple" when they think that FB is the only way to keep in touch. Ridiculous. Here's an interest, short article worth reading about social media:

    http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/

    Here's a link to a YouTube vid also worth the time. It's provacative to FB users but sums up the whole FB issue pretty well for me. I found myself saying "yes, I agree' many times:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGEQmFL9McU
     
  3. totallyyours

    totallyyours Loyalty, honor, and a willing heart

    Nice video with excellent points. Might not delete my account yet, but I haven't been on much the past several days and it has been great. I like your phone, email, text hierarchy. My problem is some of my friends don't respond to email or text! Guess I better pick up the phone!

    Thanks again.
     
  4. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    Jesus wept. I can't believe people need a 13 minute videos to tell them fedbook is a waste of time
     
  5. freethinker

    freethinker Guest

    I didn't. Some other people might need a more compelling argument. Sorry you felt the need to "attempt" to be critical.
     
  6. stretcher

    stretcher New Member

    The hardest part is the first couple days, mainly because you don't realize how entrenched it is in your routine. Adjusting your routine to fill in the dead time without it is key - just like with porn or any other habit. Sit around bored and at home all day and you'll feel the need to go back to it. I've successfully gotten Facebook out of my daily routine and no longer need it. Won't go back. The world is not set up in such a way that you can't keep in contact with people outside of Facebook.

    The real trick is going to be evolving my lifestyle such that PMO has no place in it. Giving up Facebook is nothing.
     
  7. SwimAddict

    SwimAddict New Member

    Never had Facebook but deleted twitter a few days ago and glad I did! More motivation to talk to real people and less wasted time!
     
  8. NoMoreBullScheisse

    NoMoreBullScheisse New Member

    That video made some great points, even with things that had nothing to do with Facebook itself. I'm not an FB whore or anything, that video just made me realize how much I resent modern society (not that I didn't feel that way before).
     
  9. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    The reason I hate modern society is most people are stupid idiots who can't think for themselves, they just follow what everyone else is doing and kid themselves that they are having a good time when they really and truly feel conflicted inside.

    No one stays true to themselves any more, they'll willingly give up their values and their nature in order to fit in just to appear cool.

    And this facebook/instagram/twitter generation are so dumb. shallow and vain it's untrue. Everywhere I go now people are posting pictures of themselves, their food, or station signs, just so everything is captured as they really believe that they're mini celebrities and everyone is interested in their narcissism.

    And I didn't need a 13 minute video to reach that conclusion, I managed that through my own observations.
     
  10. stretcher

    stretcher New Member

    The more I think about online social networking, the more unhealthy it seems to me at the societal level. Remenber myspace? I used to log tons of time on that site in the debate groups, and now look. What do I have to show for it? That was time well spent. In ten years you'll be saying the same about the time you spent on Facebook. "Goddamnit, that was time I could have spent learning an instrument, reading good books, getting in shape, etc. All I've got to show for myself is a mental library of the hundreds of funny internet memes that everybody chases after and trades like baseball cards." That's all it does for you, is keep you up to date on the latest memes. Unplug while you still can.
     
  11. NoMoreBullScheisse

    NoMoreBullScheisse New Member

    Couldn't agree more
     
  12. Hellborg

    Hellborg New Member

    Good for you. Facebook is a waste of time. And in light of government surveillance, employer prying, and possible private information trading, it is also more than meets the eye.

    A lot of people still use email. In my experience, my friends had no problem with my choice to leave FB and traded emails with me.
    Also, Skype is fucking excellent. All my friends use it. Just keep your info off it, since Microsoft works with the NSA. Otherwise, they can't spy on calls, since those are P2P.
     
  13. r1111

    r1111 Guest

    Ok I will deactivate Facebook at least for five days. It will be hard but it should be worth it. Maybe I will get line or whatsapp or something. Skype and gmail chat is good. I wrote a long email to a friend and he replied with a long email and he mentioned he was happy to receive my email because people just don't write such long and thoughtful emails anymore. And it's true.
     
  14. Sequel

    Sequel Member

    After unsatisfactory experiences with myspace, I never joined Facebook. For years I felt like an outcast for that decision, but with time, and more and more people losing their patience for FB, people now seem to understand. There are times where I really could have used it to stay in better contact with my professional network, but everything worked out in the end. I just don't have the self-control to use FB. I know I would unhealthily monitor exes and my GF's attractive friends, and constantly wonder why my life isn't as good as people's when they're on vacation. It also keeps me from unleashing my narcissism on the world.

    I do enjoy Twitter for many reasons -- little to no baby pics, for one -- but I might be deleting the app off my phone in the near future and only using it on my laptop. It can be addicting and get in the way of reading I need to get done.
     
  15. Paddy

    Paddy New Member

    I never got Facebook, for a few reasons. I was never really comfortable about exposing myself to others and I had some problem with depression that lead to PMO that lead me to become a loner. I never had such an active life and I know I would feel even worse if I read about how others are living their life. I know you don't get the whole picture of someone else's life through Facebook but still.

    However, as of late I have actually considered getting Facebook. Quitting PMO and also done a few other things with my life has lead me to gain more energy and an increase desire to socialize. I know there are some people that I can come into contact with again through Facebook but that would be to awkward to call on their phone. I think it could be a great way to take up contact with old friends. Having a Facebook might be good to get new friends as well as you might be a bit left out if you don't have one if you are trying to make new friends. Dating might be easier as well as many girls are a bit reluctant dating someone without a Facebook "What's he hiding?".

    Still, I don't know whether the pros (getting in contact with people, update yourself of what's happening and so forth) will weigh up the cons (attention whores, pointless pictures and videos, retarded comments and so forth). I'm also a bit hesitant getting one now as it feels a bit too late. I feel like I need to have quite a good explanation to start a Facebook account in 2013. The number of friends might also be an issue. I haven't socialized that much for the past five years so I feel the number might be too small (I don't want to add people I have only met once a few years back or went in the same school class as me but rarely spoke with). It's not that I must have several hundreds friends. In fact, I don't even want that. But I want at least over fifty people and that's only counting people that I can say that I have known and been friends with and not just exchanged a few words with. That would probably lead to around fifty people which is perhaps a bit too few in order for it not to be embarrassing.

    So what do you guys think? Should I join or not?
     
  16. stretcher

    stretcher New Member

    Join a gym, not Facebook. Go places where you will interact with people face to face. If you were an anti-social loser/loner before Facebook, you'll be one even more with Facebook. All it will do is make you feel bad about yourself as you compare your life to the idealized pictures of themselves that people put up on their pages. And they are all false images - they've conducted research showing everyone on Facebook lies about how great their lives are and it makes everyone feel depressed about themselves after they compare their lives to their friends' lies.

    Get a real life, not a virtual one. Facebook will only prolong your problems.
     
  17. Paddy

    Paddy New Member

    I still don't like Facebook. It's just that considering that everyone is on it that it may be better to be on it than outside of it. Most people I know only use Facebook and mobile phones to contact others. Hardly anyone uses Skype anymore for instance, and I would like to contact some old friends. I have planned to get my life back on track a bit more first though before I possibly join. I don't think it will bother me as much as before to read about others lifes/lies as it did before when I was so depressed. The only thing I would use it for is to contact others and keep myself updated of certain social events. I don't think I would update my profile very often, if at all.

    I'm probably moving to a different town soon so Facebook may help me getting new friends there. I feel I may need a Facebook account in order to not be left out. I'm trying to weigh the pros and the cons and I don't know which it's the most of. I think my biggest worry is dating actually. I know there are tons of girls that hesitate to date someone without a Facebook account. Considering everyone have it, many feels a bit unsafe when they can't "check" up on him and wonders if he has anything to hide. Maybe he is someone that hits girls and don't want that to come out or something like that.

    I'm not interested in a virtual life. I'm interested in a real one. It's whether Facebook could help me there that is the question.
     
  18. SwimAddict

    SwimAddict New Member

    I'm with stretcher on this one. I used twitter as twitter seemed more current and less late to join. Twitter only made me feel like shit, and it almost became an addiction in itself. Your desire to visit Facebook is probably your brain desperately trying to keep you on the computer and not socializing.

    The solution? Tell your brain whose in charge and MEET SOME REAL PEOPLE not digital people. Isn't that what rebooting is all about? Getting rid of the fake 2d and replacing it with the real 3d?
     
  19. Paddy

    Paddy New Member

    No, it isn't, it's exactly the opposite. I'm dying to socialize more and that's precisely why I'm considering getting Facebook. It doesn't seem like neither you nor Stretcher understand why I'm considering getting it. It's because I can have better contacts with friends and events so I don't become left out. That's why. I'm not interested in posting funny pictures that everyone has seen or update about my latest workout or something like that. If I'm getting it it's because I think it will be good for a REAL social life. I'm also worried chicks will run the other way if I don't have an account.

    But what do you do when real people are using the digital world to keep contact with others and write about events and such when you are not on that digital world yourself and don't want to be left out? I'm starting to see Facebook as a necessary evil in the world that we live in today. It would be best if it just died. But since it won't, at least anytime soon, maybe I need to get one.
     
  20. stretcher

    stretcher New Member

    You're the one who doesn't get it.

    You say you want to go on Facebook and get yourself a social life. Knock yourself out. You assure us you're not going to waste time posting photos and other frivolous things on it. That is literally all there is to do on Facebook. So good luck getting a social life on it without any of that shit.

    It truly does not matter to me if some random stranger in a porn addiction forum is so far gone as to think Facebook will solve his social problems, and wants to argue against those of us who've been there and deemed it a waste of time. So here, let me make it convenient for you to sign up, right from the comforts of my own anti-Facebook thread:facebook.com

    Enjoy!
     

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