Dead grip /limp

Discussion in 'Erectile Dysfunction / Delayed Ejaculation' started by Smakaheli, Oct 17, 2020.

  1. Smakaheli

    Smakaheli New Member

    In 29 years old never had sex in my life only kissing and blowjob, but in limp state.
    Now I got girlfriend but I’m scared my Dick won’t get in because I only get like for 40 procent erected if I’m with here. What can I do I’m addicted since I was 11. Porn doesnt turn me on I can watch te most sick porn and even then I won’t get erected. I also have the most crazy fantasy like let my girlfriend have sex with others those things popping in my head I don’t want it but it appears every day. I love her so much but the porn really fucks me up. What can I do to think clear again and have a 100 erected dick.

    for the last 6 years Mastrubated with a limp penis
  2. Guts

    Guts Active Member Staff Member

    All you gotta do is never masturbate or look at porn ever again forever. And if that doesn't help, then go without sex, masturbation and porn until you are back to normal again. It might take many weeks or months but keep going and you will get there.
  3. axebattler

    axebattler Member Staff Member

    In itself, that isn't a problem. Lots of guys can get erect to porn but not real women, therefore porn and sex are completely different things.

    There is literally zero point in ever watching porn again. If you get a thought in your head that says otherwise, that's the addiction talking. Don't listen to it!

    Good luck, man.
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  4. positivef

    positivef Active Member

    I agree with the previous two posters. Most likely you are addicted to porn and need to cut it out of your life.

    However, that might seem overwhelming. Start by educating yourself, there are many useful articles on this site:

    As you are in a relationship you need to talk to your partner about your problems. It will most likely be a lengthy process and she has a right to know. She may even be willing to help you.

    Also, let us know how you are getting on.
  5. Doper

    Doper Well-Known Member

    There's no candy coating the situation. If you've been wackin it limp for years, this isn't going to heal in weeks; it is going to take many months. That is, if you don't relapse to porn. If you do relapse even somewhat frequently, it is not going to get better, and you will live like this perpetually. Trust me on this. You have to get it in your head that you can have a functioning wanger or you can have porn, not both. But look at the bright side, you've lived like this for a long time, so several months to get functional again is very little time, and a drop in the bucket of your life. As well, think of it like a morbidly obese person losing weight, the fatter you are, the easier it is to lose weight. By the same token, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that the more porn-wrecked your brain is, at least in the beginning, you will be healing faster percentage-wise, compared to someone that is only a bit messed up. So that's good.
    As well, being that you can even look at sick porn and not get erect. Imagine a world where you can just look at your fully clothed ladyfriend, or fantasize kissing her and get hard as rock....that and not feeling like depressed dog-shit all the time is what awaits you if you succeed at this. I know that sounds unbelievable from where you are sitting but it's the truth..
    Porn desensitization works like a hierarchy, where when you're fully functional everything gets you hard and turned on, and as you get more and more desensitized, you work your way down the hierarchy to where less and less things get you hard, to where in the end you're at the bottom of the barrel, endgame, where its gross compilations of that one thing that can still do it for you... where not even that second to grossest thing can do it for you anymore.....I know this because I'm a relapse scientist.

    How long have you been with your lady friend?
    Last edited: Oct 20, 2020
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  6. Pedro Delgado

    Pedro Delgado New Member

    It seems it may be PIED and you also trained your dick in the wrong way masturbating with a limp dick, how many times a week do you masturbate?
  7. Smakaheli

    Smakaheli New Member

    I,m now 6 months with my girlfriend and we never had sex. Few times a blowjob but thé sensation is not That good. Yes i got extrem fantasy but stil i dont get erected. Yesterday also we tried sex but i didint get up while if she give me head i Will only Get 40 procent erected. But my fantasy ar over the top like i was turnt in my head that my girlfriend was cheating. Thats sick and i know porn was doing this to me. We now decied to do 6 months hard mode nofap. Only kissing and Hugging for now
  8. Smakaheli

    Smakaheli New Member

    From my 12 till 29 Evert singel day with a few pause my biggest strike was 93 days but once i relapse i never had the courage to
    Do it again
  9. Pedro Delgado

    Pedro Delgado New Member

    That's the most very common problem people have when practicing NoFap, all the progress is lost at first relapse, how sensitive is your dick?

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