Then you need to talk to her. You have to tell her everything you're telling us, in a manner that doesn't hurt her feelings, of course. My story with Rachel is similar to yours. I really like her beautiful face and her personality, but her body never turned me on. I was always wishing she were hotter, had a tighter ass or bigger boobs. I had ED for 2 months in the beginning (I think we tried having sex somewhere around 9 times before we finally did it), but even after I got rid of the ED I still wasn't desiring her. Our relationship is good but this has always bothered me. Lately I've been seeing things differently now and our sex life has improved. I don't believe I've been re-programming my brain against my will. It's more like seeing things from a different perspective. Back in December I tried to push you towards breaking up with her and you didn't do it. Now I'm giving you the opposite advice and it doesn't sound like you're going to do it either. You need to get out of the grey zone. Either try to make it work or break it up.