Could this be the answer to my problem?

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by ananoman, Dec 5, 2012.

  1. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Thanks for responding!

    I am now 8 years into this, and I'd have to say that in my humble opinion. you never really overcome this "addiction". Why? because sex is a natural pat of who we are. And as long as you continue to have sex, as I have with my wife, then you will always be feeding your "addiction". Now, you definitely can and SHOULD create a healthy sexual appetite, meaning one where your significant other is the focal point, the center of your attraction, but I'm not sure you will ever reach a point where your brain ONLY gets triggered by your significant other and nothing else.

    As far as rebooting, I started this journey sometime in the Fall of 2012, and in retrospect I successfully rebooted by the Summer of 2013. Since then I have continued in a fairly steady state with perhaps sight improvements.

    Did I ever reach Nirvana? That place where I had superpowers, boundless energy, amazing attraction, and clarity? Well, yes and no. What I've found is that you do reach a place like that, but it will come and go.

    to be continued......
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  2. realness

    realness Active Member

    I ready the most recent entries to your journal and really identify with the BPH stuff and getting up a lot to go to the bathroom. It sucks and it's started for me much earlier. First around 37 yrs and I still manage it now at 41. I also had the uncomfortable examination that showed things were mostly normally, just a bit larger prostate. The urologist actually concluded that I just have a small bladder! Of course, I think frequent PMO and edging makes things much worse, so minimizing those and eliminating them definitely helps. He didn't say anything about anxiety, food/diet, which I've found to be major contributors so I wanted to note them in case they might be helpful to you. Coffee: I can't give it up while raising little kids. I think the acids mess with my bladder. So drinking lots of water each afternoon flushes things out and rehydrates, and if you stop by 4PM it helps at night. Foods like dark chocolate, citrus, tomatoes, anything else that's kind of acidic, don't eat after early afternoon. And definitely strategies to deal with anxiety. Reading, prayer, etc. With all of this management I only get up once a night after 4 hrs. I'm still envious of men who don't have to deal with this problem, but then I realize that all those guys have bad knees, backs, or some other ailment. I guess we all have our thing.

    Thanks for sharing your journey-
  3. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    My urologist really didn't have a clue as to what was causing my problem. He wasted his time doing diagnostic tests like cystoscopies. In the end the MRI proved that my issue couldn't be my prostate. So at that point he diagnosed it as "idiopathic prostatitis" which is fancy medical speak for "I haven't got a clue what it is".

    Through my own research I have come to the conclusion that what I have is Pelvic Floor Tension. Look up the Wise Anderson Protocol if you want to get more info on this. I will be heading to a urologist I've been referred to by Dr Wise to confirm the diagnosis before commencing treatment.
  4. badger

    badger Active Member

    there's a saying in AA-you go to church to save your soul, you come to AA to save your ass. hang in there.
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  5. badger

    badger Active Member

    any drastic change in our routine and the body will let us know-this is not normal it will tell us. whether good or bad the body is used to what you do to it. homeostasis. anything different and it will let you know. welcome and hang in there.
  6. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

  7. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    checking back in. Ive been quite fatigued for the past few days- not sure what it is. It could be my low carb diet coupled with intermittent fasting. My sleep has been so so. I've been having problems falling asleep and I wake up 2 times to pee. I then wake up a third time usually anywhere from 5:30-6:30 am, but I always try to sleep in a bit longer unless it is the days that I work (I work on Thursdays and Fridays)

    On the PMO front I've been staying clear of things though I'm tempted to look at P. My libido is low and I feel the urge to get it going. Haven't had sex with the wife now for about 3 weeks, and she's not interested.
  8. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    managed to get through yesterday staying strong. felt decent this morning but still struggled to get to sleep- I'm sure its due to the low carb and IF I am doing. by afternoon I was so tired I ended up taking a 90 minute nap. I am yearning for those days when I actually didn't feel tired and had energy- its been a while and I'm starting to think its because I'm getting old
  9. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    been a month since I started intermittent fasting and being more vigilant with the carbs. I have felt like crap for the whole time but have read that you just gotta get over the hump. Yesterday for the first time I felt like I was climbing out of the hole and today I also feel pretty good. My libido is dead. I actually broke down and viewed some porn and it did zilch for me. Not sure how strict the counter is going to be for me. Wife has also been feeling sick so we are just laying low these days

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