It was a weekend of sex with the wife. Did it Friday night and again Sunday morning with O's both time. On Sunday morning I really didn't want to O but it didn't work out that way. I'm paying for it now with tiredness. On a good note though last night I slept like a baby and clocked it 8 hours which never happens any more.
Hi ananoman, happy to read that you are building strong physical connections with your wife. That is very beneficial in fighting the old porn wiring. Stay well brother
Just wanted to check in. Doing pretty well although I'm not really staying in monk mode. In fact I'm being pretty lax with what I'm allowing myself to watch. Just no porn. Sleep has been up and down and I'm figuring out what I can and can't do. Coffee, even decaf is now off limits after 4 pm. Relations with the wife have been great. We had sex again this morning and I stopped before O. I really wanted to keep the interval at a week this time.
I hear you about the coffee in late afternoon and evening. I really have to watch my late day coffee . Don't want to watch the ceiling half the night. Great to hear relations with wife going well. Best regards Sir
I like coffee, especially since my wife bought a Nespresso. I figured that as long as it was decaf I'd be OK....but alas it is not to be. Oh well.
Is decaf. not working? I just started having a bit of decaf coffee last week and was surprised by how good the full roast tasted and was really hoping... well... decaf is decaf.
Checking back in with nothing new. I'm sleeping much better when I watch what I eat and drink and what time of the day I eat and drink it. Still saying away from P but have allowed Psubs to creep back in.
So glad to hear your sleeping better. I find I'm more willing to be a better man if I'm rested I know about the p subs. They are such sweet (poison) delicacies.
Happy you are resting better ananoman... for me I have to totally avoid p-subs, absolutely all of my slips and full blown relapses have begun with p-subs.
Hello sir. Only soldiers get knocked down. A little careless and a sniper nicked ya a good one. I've done it more times than I care to think about just have to keep quitting till we quit. We're with you my friend
thanks for the support guys. Looks like I can't ever let my guard down. Not even for a second. I am now going through the usual slight lethargy and not so great sleep. Only positive is my wife and I have been very amorous lately. 2 times in 2 days although I'm careful with the O's
I also have to be careful with O's with my wife... they can create some fog and weird feelings for a few days. I remember on my last long period of freedom this eventually passed. Glad you regrouped brother.
Hello my friends I am not understanding references to feeling foggy or a little depressed after O even with a wife. Now, I have found myself in that state after a session of solo sex or times of ED while with my wife. That is a real bummer! But when I have had PIV O with my wife I have found myself energized and feeling very male. Am I thinking of something different than to what you are referring? Question asked with respectful curiosity
Hi Boxer17... sorry don't want to take over anaoman's journal... I think for me right now... having used frequent PMO... for many many many decades my sensitivity to an O and the wonderfully massive release of dopamine and other neurochemicals can leave me fuzzy, foggy and off a bit for a few days. It has in the past also left me craving more, more and more. Of course these effects are mitigated when the O is the result of PIV intimacy. In truth only about 1/3 of my O's with my wife are the result of PIV... many are from oral... Having my neural pathways re-wire strictly to O's with her is my main objective. PIV O's have been truly amazing this year. Also, karezza type intimacy which has much physical bonding but stops short of O can be very beneficial. Just my take on things as they effect me. I am sure every guy and couple will experience different results. Hey anaoman, please forgive my intrusion... I would love to hear you out on this.
Boxer, it has to do with our brains being wired to addictive behaviors. Once we get our sexuality under our control and we get it in the real world (only), and for a while, the effects will disappear. Neurons that fire together, wire together...so while in recovery a lot of us find that O's bring back withdrawal symptoms. It's quite common, nothing to worry about, but be very aware that it exists.
Anano, P subs can be deadly, although I do think they are less dangerous than hardcore P...P subs are what got me last week. If we've "used" it for P, it's P to our brains, unfortunately.
