Could this be the answer to my problem?

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by ananoman, Dec 5, 2012.

  1. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Yesterday was feeling really good. Brain felt sharp and energy levels were up there. Had sex with O with the wife this morning and now I'm lethargic and even felt a bit anxious/ inconfident at work. The good news is that my prostate didn't hurt or ache at all during the O, although my prostate seemed to be acting up a bit during the night which effected my sleep. Part of the reason why I O'd this morning is I felt I needed to have a release because the buildup might have been effecting my prostate. Looks like there is still a price to pay for the O
     
  2. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    You're in a tough spot, I suppose I'm lucky that I can have sex and not have to O. Sugar is just all around the devil for a lot of us..I avoid almost completely.
     
  3. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    O's often have that effect on me as well. PIV O helps big time. But sometimes even that has after effects. I truly like going 15-30 days with no O. But if my wife gives me that look I am a sucker for love.

    Stay well ananoman, you got this.
     
  4. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    I'd say over all you had a great day/night. Everything has a cost benefit. Yikes, I sound like a bean counter. o_O Even climbing the stairs requires effort. Every day sober, everyday engaging in real life, means we get stronger and have more stamina. Good going!
     
  5. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    The chaser effect was strong after the O yesterday morning. I started clicking around on youtube but didn't get carried away. I also spent a lot of time gawking at my wife (so much that she commented on it) when she was walking around dressed and undressed- which I guess is not a bad thing because I want to be wired to my wife.
     
  6. gymaddict

    gymaddict Member

    Ananoman:

    I havent tried this, but will admit that I am intriqued by prostate milking. I see guys on men's health websites say how beneficial it is, especially if those guys are into no fapping or semen retention for health and masculine reasons. Just a thought. If I had prostate problems bad enough or I were getting up several times a night to take a leak, I might consider prostate milking to relieve the symptomology.

    Just a thought.
     
  7. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Woke up 3-4 times last night. Also I seem to be waking up at 5 for no apparent reason. I get tired at around 10 so I'm still getting close to 7 hours of actual sleep but something definitely changed and I don't know if it is a natural part of aging. I did drink a ginger ale for lunch so maybe that caused some of the problem. Still clicking around on youtube but know I should stop even that.
     
  8. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Couldn't beat the chaser effect and succumbed to Psub a few days back. Going to try and try again.

    Had sex with O last night and slept great. Only woke up once and clocked in nearly 7.5 hours of actual sleep. This in spite of the fact that I had a margarita at dinner time. Go figure.
     
  9. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    chasser effect truly sucks... I have fallen to it many times
     
  10. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Ugh failing to break out of this cycle
     
  11. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Had sex with O with the wife this morning and actually have felt good all day even though it was only 2.5 days between O's
     
  12. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    Sometimes going back to P and O'ing makes you feel better for a few days...I remember that effect. Hope I'm wrong.
     
  13. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    All clean on the P/Psub front! Went for a short vacation to Newport RI with the wife so no time to get into trouble. My prostate has been bothering me though, but I'm sure it's because I've been abusing it with alcoholic beverages.
     
  14. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    Hey anonoman good to hear from you. Hope you had a nice time on short vacation. Sorry to hear about that stupid prostate acting up
     
  15. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    I've been feeling a bit down lately- it could be residual from my disappointments at church. Right now I feel somewhat directionless and just drifting. All the anchors that I had are being pulled up. I have pretty much launched all my kids successfully (3 kids- one is about to be a college senior and the youngest a college sophomore). I don't need to work anymore and could retire if I want to so my work is just chugging along with no real target in mind. My passion for music has be doused with a bucket of water. The only anchor I have left is a feeling of responsibility towards my aging parents and my grand daughter.

    A part of me feels like I need or want to reinvent myself, but my obligations and responsibilities keep me from doing so. I need to be reinvigorated
     
  16. gymaddict

    gymaddict Member

    Ananoman

    Yes, bro. Reinvent yourself and find some ministry in the kingdom where you can serve. Never forget also the power of worship to kick the enemy and his pack of lies in the head and give your life a feeling of victory in our kind master.

    With all your knowledge about fighting porn and pursuing purity, check out a porn recovery church group in your town or start one in your church, using the Celebrate Recovery materials. Life is not for lanquishing idly into old age.

    Prayers for you. You are one blessed man to have your children stable in these days of partying and addiction. Evidently you are comfortable financially and bro, what a great blessing that is. Rejoice today and count your blessings and see what God has for you on HIS agenda at this stage of your life. Really, His sheep do hear His voice, if we will listen for that voice.

    By the way, how YOUNG are you bro???
     
  17. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    gymaddict- I'm 53.

    Had a nice talk with my wife this morning about feeling rudderless with no anchors. She agreed that right now this is where we are. She felt we just needed to be patient and wait because the direction we should go will become very clear.

    We went back and revisited the church we checked out last week. It is much smaller and certainly has a great community and ample opportunities to get plugged in. The problem is this church is very young. Most everyone there was in there 20's, 30's and 40's. I saw maybe a few people who might be my age but that was it. My wife and I are not sure that could work as we don't think it would be easy to develop relationships with people who are at a very different stage in life.

    I'm plugging along with the no P or Psub routine although I must confess that I'm not really staying vigilant on the "monk mode". I'm allowing my eyes to linger on all sorts that come my way.

    Forgot to mention that the wife and I had sex with O late friday night and it was unusually difficult for me to stay hard. The whole experience was rather disappointing for me. I know the wife wasn't really interested.
     
  18. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    I share this feeling with you ananoman, I am turning it over to God in prayer. Trying to trust Him more. That younger church might just be a great fit? Our church is all ages from infants to 90... you will bring life experience to this group and be of great benefit.
     
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  19. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    The wisdom of years is often overlooked in today's youth obsessed world. You could be an asset to this group
     
  20. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Thanks for the encouragement guys.

    I've had 2 nights in a row of poor sleep. Had to resort to zolpidem both nights. Not sure why but I think maybe too much activity using the brain at 10 pm might have contributed.
     

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