Could this be the answer to my problem?

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by ananoman, Dec 5, 2012.

  1. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    I know what you mean ananoman. The so called more innocent triggers are much worse than the actual porn in my opinion.

    One day at a time is really the only way through this. If we can stay clean each day that will free us.
     
  2. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    When I started this streak I remember vividly and early on that I was about to relapse but I couldn't because I had installed K9 and given my wife admin over it. Early on in addiction recovery, in m view, nobody is strong enough to stay completely clean. We need lots of help.

    In contrast in the last 6 months or so, the handful of times where I have looked at porn I was easily able to shut it down.
    It's like building up a muscle, it was dangerous for me to look and stupid, but I didn't relapse because the muscle is now much stronger.

    Earlier on in my journal I posed the question -- if we were cocaine addicts and in treatment would we leave bags of cocaine on our night stands? How different is this than leaving our laptop access to porn unlocked?
     
  3. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    QUOTE="ananoman, post: 661070, member: 2558"]I'd be lying if I said this no looking at P or P subs is a piece of cake. It is now day 8 since I last caved and the thought is always there in the back of my mind. It is made that much more difficult because I am constantly bombarded with potential triggers everywhere I look on TV, magazines, the internet, advertisements, even on the street in the real world.

    I'm taking it one day at a time but it is hard.[/QUOTE]
    That is sooo true. This world is just dripping with sexuality. On every hand. We almost have to walk through life like we're in urban warfare. An enemy (visual stimuli) can pop out anywhere. Before I go into a store I have to have the right frame of mind.
    Similar to having a plan when you go into a restaurant when losing weight.

    Instead of just resisting if we can redirect that momentum it helps.
    I am with you my brother. We can do this
     
  4. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self."
    ― Aristotle
     
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  5. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Wow this is great- thank you
     
  6. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    Aristotle was talking about you ananoman! You are brave.
     
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  7. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Had sex with O last night. Prostate felt good. Slept well- clocked in nearly 8 hours of actual sleep waking up twice to pee. Feeling a bit lethargic this morning though, likely from the O.
     
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  8. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    ended up being very lethargic all day yesterday and woke up dragging again this morning. Last night at dinner my wife expressed concern that I seem depressed all the time. I think this dopamine deprivation is affecting the people around me, and I'm starting to think maybe I am depressed.
     
  9. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    ended up being very lethargic all dayyesterday and woke up dragging againthis morning. Last night at dinner my wife expressed concern that I seemdepressed all the time. I think thisdopamine deprivation is affecting the people around me, and I'm starting tothink maybe I am depressed.

    Hey anonoman. Sorry to hear your not feeling good. I also will sometimes sink into the dark slime of depression.
    My thoughts are with you this day
     
  10. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Wives are quick to notice deviations from the status-quo. You probably are a bit low and that's just normal when not scanning pixels. Stay the course, be fierce!
     
  11. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    yesterday was another day of lethargy. I figured that being so tired I would sleep like a baby- I was wrong. Poor nights sleep due to difficulty falling asleep then several interruptions to pee and today looks like another day that I will have to just plow through the best that I can.

    I'm trying to get a grasp of whats causing my frequent bathroom visits. The only thing I can think of that was a possible cause was that I drank a very sugary smoothie after dinner.

    I'm also in a flatline. Hopefully things turn around soon.
     
  12. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    Have you been able to get any relief from your BPH?
     
  13. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Some improvements but not enough to make me happy.

    The PAE procedure helped minimally. Of course not edging helps. It seems my diet has a lot to do with it. I'm finding that I can't drink alcohol or caffeine. I might have to even curtail the sugar.

    Wife is not happy with how lethargic I am. Today is a gorgeous day outside and she gave up on us doing anything fun because of my lack of energy.
     
  14. fcjl8

    fcjl8 The only path for me

    Lack of energy can certainly be an early withdrawal symptom... and of course you just had your procedure. You will get through this friend.
     
  15. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    Yeah unfortunately it has been 3 months since I had my procedure and supposedly this is the best it is going to get. I'm planning on calling the urologist in the morning to get a cytoscopy done.
     
  16. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    Have you looked into saw palmetto? I have been using it since my late thirties and have been well pleased. At 63 I still have full urine flow and am not wakened multiple times in the night to pee.
    Here is an informative article

    http://www.lifeextension.com/magazine/2007/1/aas/page-01
     
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  17. Newman8888

    Newman8888 The wound is the place where the Light enters you

    I was diagnosed with BPH last fall. I'm taking saw palmetto but not seeing much of a difference. Anywhere between 1 to 3 times a night, I have to get up and pee.

    My doctor recommended some meds, which I turned down (did some research and found the side effects off-putting). He also mentioned a surgical procedure called urolift, which seems promising.

    Besides the frequent bathroom visits, I'm not bothered by it. I have sort of learned to live with it and fully expect that it's a part of my life. If it gets worse, however, I may do the urolift procedure.
     
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  18. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    Red wine works for me. Not shitting anyone here, it can actually be beneficial to the prostate. I have reflux and have been taking Nexium for 10 years. You know, the drug they just said can cause premature death and alzheimers. lol I've read that PPI's can also be detrimental to one's prostate, which is why I'm weaning myself off them; not an easy task, I can tell you.
     
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  19. Boxer17

    Boxer17 Active Member

    I know our bodies are all different. What works for one may not for another. I know health issues are a bummer. Just wanted to throw that saw palmetto thing out there.
    My best wishes to both of you.
    Thanks boxer
     
  20. ananoman

    ananoman Active Member

    If you do some research you will find that there are a lot of new and innovative procedures being developed to treat BPH. I opted for the Prostate Artery Embolism because the #1 doc in the United States practiced right in my area. There is also a great procedure called the Focal Laser Ablation. Both of these procedures are done by interventional radiologists and are much less invasive and barbaric than the treatments that urologists have historically offered.
     
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