Could this be slowing down my recovery?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by Withnail, Apr 11, 2012.

  1. Withnail

    Withnail New Member

    Before giving up porn I was compulsively searching the net in the same way I searched for porn and since giving up porn the problem has got worse. I would be on facebook for hours, various forums and recently I have been spending a hell of a lot of time on this forum, constantly refreshing pages and having multiple tabs open at the same time. I couldnt even watch a film or a 30 minute comedy show without surfing the net. Its like I cant ever relax im always anxious and I always need to be keeping myself busy by doing stuff. After reading various articles on YBOP it appears that this behaviour may slow down my recovery and will greatly contribute towards social anxiety. Has anyone else had any experience of this?
     
  2. TheUnderdog

    TheUnderdog Active Member Staff Member

    Yes, me too.

    We're using internet addiction as a substitute of porn addiction.

    :(
     
  3. Withnail

    Withnail New Member

    I think this is why I have found giving up porn so easy, the same energy I used searching porn is now compulsively being used in this way. Im sure that this is a huge factor in social anxiety. I need to come up with an action plan to combat this. Other than spending less time at home im not sure what else I can do. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this other than the obvious answer of willpower?

    This is easily my biggest ever revelation I think this has contributed to many bad factors of my life such as low concentration, talking about myself all the time without showing interest in other people, desperation in relationships, anxiety, social anxiety, impatience, getting frustrated easily, stress and other things as well.
     
  4. light

    light New Member

    This is EXACTLY how I am behaving also. The internet addiction. I can also never fully concentrate about one thing at a time. I always do small chunks of reading from multiple tabs. Then I never can relax and enjoy. Shit I hate this internet addiction. I have tried to limit the internet use, but its sooo difficult because today we have to be online to pay bills, check mail etc... So its like an alcholic in withdrawel going to a bar and only take 1 beer. Its doomed to fail. Even writing here now contributes to mu internet addiction, because now I will probably check if someone has replied every 15 minutes the rest of the evening.
     
  5. ssk08

    ssk08 Pointman

    Me too, lol. Thank god for me not having internet on the phone.
     
  6. Withnail

    Withnail New Member

    There has to be a way of getting around this, willpower alone is going to be very very tough I need to figure out a way of making it easier for myself. Most things I want to change about myself are connected to this problem and it is very important for my happiness that I beat this. I cant give up the internet completely because the internet has also been a very positive influence on my life in many many ways but I have to stop being so damn compulsive.
     
  7. High_Achiever

    High_Achiever New Member

    Yeah the last couple of days were really intense for me. I was also randomly surfing the internet. One thing I'll add, is that it's not the same as porn. Far from it. It will pass, the same for the intense food cravings that I was having the past few days.

    What i've done is, put an internet lockdown from 8 p.m. till 6 a.m. This is also a great relapse prevention, since I noticed that I mostly had relapses when I was surfing the web at night.

    K9 can do it and leechblock is also capable of doing it.
     
  8. Withnail

    Withnail New Member

    This is something I need to do regardless of recovery, I was doing this way before giving up porn so I doubt it will pass on its own. My flatmate will now have posession of my livebox and I will go on the net for a maximum of one hour a day. Im sure this will lead to many positive changes in my life.
     
  9. MrShawn

    MrShawn New Member

    I've also concluded I'm an internet addict with porn addict overtones. Without recovering from this, I can't see myself making any real long-lasting recovery from porn. Because, after reflection, it's my belief that internet porn addiction can and usually is a symptom to an even bigger problem.

    I have a hard time finding good recovery methods for internet addiction besides "Stop using the internet so much". Not as easy as it sounds when you take into account all the stuff you use the internet for. I guess when there's no specific answer, you gotta find your own.

    Here's an idea that I'm working out, hoping that this can encourage others to make a game plan around combating internet addiction. I'm going about it based on a list system from a productivity book. I'm going to use an ABCD method to categorize my daily activity. A tasks are maximum, immediate priority, B tasks are low/moderate priority, and C being things that give you moderate enjoyment, but don't matter all that much. D that are extremely absorbing, you can completely do without, and/or you find yourself losing track of hours before you notice.

    Since I'm a college student, A tasks would be doing my online work. B being checking my email, Facebook, Reboot support sites, C being shows, blogs, etc. D being things like Youtube (if you find yourself wandering aimlessly), Tumblr, etc.

    Now, schedule myself (or give myself a time limit) 2 hours a day of internet time (upheld with a filter). If I'm not doing an A task and it's not my scheduled time (or I used up my time), I should be locked out of everything. For A stuff, keep all unnecessary tabs closed. For B tasks like Facebook and email, I'll give myself about 5 minutes of time on each site before my filter cuts me off (It's personally all the time I even need to check those things, and it force-stops me from checking every 5 seconds). B and C fall under scheduled time. D activities are permablocked forever.
     
  10. offthecuff

    offthecuff Guest

    Yes,
    but you knew that already!
    Sorry wrong answer,
    not its fine carry on :-[
    OTC
     

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