Could excessive gaming facilitate porn use?

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by BruceWayne, Jun 21, 2015.

  1. BruceWayne

    BruceWayne Building the life I want, day by day...

    I just made a post in my journal about this but I thought I'd post this here so more could see.

    I notice that when I'm playing video games a lot. Such as everyday for 2-4 hours a day, I almost always end up using porn more than I normally do. This is most likely due to my quality of life going down because when I find a game that I really like, that's all that matters to me.

    I'll play in the morning before work, after work and play almost all day on my days off.

    I'll stop exercising, socializing, eating healthy and I'll also start to spend money excessively, mostly due to the micro-transactions in the video games.

    Maybe if your a gamer, you should analyze how the video games are affecting your life. People who play a lot of video games usually don't live that great of lives at least I know I haven't been since I got back into them.

    I honestly think that video games are harder to give up than porn, for me anyways. For the most part, porn, I could take it or leave it.

    But video games, I don't know how I could live without them sometimes.

    Edit: I'm not saying that there's a link between the two but I'd imagine those who are big gamers are also porn users. They are very similar in that they both can/do involve immediate gratification and are both artificial. Also people who play a lot of games are usually on their computers a lot.
     
  2. Newnes

    Newnes Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I was addicted to video games before I was addicted to porn. Fortunately, to game I was playing all the time became boring (I was 90% of the time alone in it in the end, and it's a game meant to be played in teams) so I left it without much trouble eventually. Unfortunately, I used porn instead.

    They are very similar. Addictions to what happens on a screen. Compulsive, loss of control, damages induced - they both can be addictive. Similar addictions require similar treatments.

    And if video games lead you to watch porn... And make you eat shit, live alone in your room, spend your money on it... Don't you think it's really harming you? If you cannot imagine your life without it, I think it's the addiction speaking. You can't imagine your life without it because you gave it way too much importance. If you are addicted to video games (with big negative consequences), either you give yourself an ultimatum to use it with self-control, or you ditch it.
     
  3. BruceWayne

    BruceWayne Building the life I want, day by day...

    Yea but at least video games won't make my dick stop working and what not. I think that finding a balanced life that includes video games can be much more helpful than just ditching them altogether.

    I've had times in my life where I was living a balanced life while also playing video games here and there. It is possible. I just have to find out why I have these spells where I excessively video game for a month straight.

    Like I said above, my quality of life plummets when this happens.
     
  4. Newnes

    Newnes Well-Known Member Staff Member

    What's the point of having a working dick if you spend your time with your playstation? Video game addiction is no better than porn addiction.

    You say it yourself here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=17323.300 that "There's so much to do and collect that you could play these games all day every day", "I'm not the best at balancing", "I've spent a lot of money on them", "it is a form of escapism" and "But when it comes to me PMOing I haven't been doing that great. Doing it every 2-5 days I'd say"

    So basically, you know you're not good at balancing stuff; you are withdrawing from porn (making you more prone to addiction switching), you're spending a lot of money on your game (compulsive behaviour?), it makes you more prone to relapse to PMO, and it's a form of escapism (though as you rightly pointed, there are many forms of escapism; the problem is the amount of time spent escaping, and the collateral damages).

    I agree a balanced life can include video games. In a way, it can also include porn and masturbation. But your obsessive personality and your current addiction (addictions?) make me doubt you can have a balanced use of porn and video games right now. My take on this is you need to go cold turkey, reboot from both porn and video games, and then re-introduce video games if you still feel like it. With self-control.

    I mean, you do as you want. If you want to keep playing video games, perhaps give yourself an ultimatum: write somewhere how much time you want to be playing video games per day/week maximum, no matter what. If within one month you can't go to that point, then it means you can't really do it with balance right now; ditch at least temporarily, and reboot.

    Think about it as porn: what would you say if someone here was saying "look porn is hurting my life, but I've spent so much money on it, I can't really quit it. I'm addicted to it, but I'll watch porn with moderation from now on" ? ;)
     
  5. BruceWayne

    BruceWayne Building the life I want, day by day...

    Yea, all very true. Very very true actually. You kind of just took a 2X4 of reality of slapped me across the face with it.

    I think the reboot from video games is something I'll consider. I just have a lot of free time, it seems right now. I'm not in school and I only work part-time.

    I think setting limits would be much better, than if that gets out of control, I stop completely.

    I think I'm going to to start setting a timer on my phone when I play and see how that goes. I have to stop playing the game at that point in time and do something healthy.
     
  6. Newnes

    Newnes Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Well I'm glad it's useful :)

    I've read it's easier to start with doing what you have to do, rather than start with what you want to do and leave the "healthy" part for after. "When" matters a lot, it's not all about "how long".

    With a lot of free time you can easily play video games AND read, meditate, work out, and cook daily ;)
     
  7. meVSem

    meVSem Guest

    wankerss and their fukin gamess...
     
  8. BruceWayne

    BruceWayne Building the life I want, day by day...

    Ummmm, who the fuck are you?

    If you don't have anything helpful to offer then fuck off.
     
  9. rebooting

    rebooting Member

    The more video games I play, the less porn I watch. I'll become so occupied by the games that I don't bother watching teen girls on a screen luring me with their juicy snatches.
     
  10. BruceWayne

    BruceWayne Building the life I want, day by day...

    Lol "juicy snatches". Eh I think that playing so much video games that you can't use porn isn't he greatest approach but to each his own.
     
  11. meVSem

    meVSem Guest

    no one. a ghost in the shadow of dis world.
     
  12. JG55

    JG55 Member

    As they say, moderation is key.

    If you're playing video games all day, then you probably have some life and emotional issues. Those same issues probably lead to PMO. So it is obviously in our benefit to dig deep and improve ourselves.

    I'm not sure games facilitates porn use exactly. During recovery it helps to fill our time with activities we enjoy, and I think video games can be OK. Getting out and spending time with people is of course a healthier choice. But there isn't anything that bad about video games in moderation.

    Personally, I do play video games. If I end up with too much free time, I end up playing perhaps more than I should. But usually life takes over and I'm busy doing other things.

    To each his own, setting limits sounds smart if you think it will help. I like the idea of focusing on the things you DO want in life, instead of stressing so much about removing leisurely activities. (Porn being a separate issue). MMOs and escapism also are different from other games.
     
  13. BryanHoward

    BryanHoward Keep your hands where I can see them

    I find that immersive gaming taps into that jaw-grinding, high-anxiety, binge-prone state of mind, where you are almost always left feeling like you have lost something. That sets you up nicely for a good old fashioned relapse.
     
  14. Borges08

    Borges08 Member

    Video games do cause brain fog but it's nothing like porn addiction. STOP COMPARING THEM.

    Here's why. Porn addiction produces way more dopamine than video games, on top of masturbating and ejaculating basically damaging your body in the process. If you have a porn ADDICTION, then after this (even regular masturbation) will cause an increase in deltafosB at high levels and won't reset itself for weeks, months even based on the severity.

    Video games produce dopamine but it rises to a certain level while playing and returns to normal levels fairly quickly (in a few hours) and you're not jacking off and ejaculating to sexually arousing material..

    The trick with video games is balance. Stop making them your priority. Work full time, and focus on doing other things (outside stuff, social, etc) then at night or whatever, go ahead and play some video games or even on a day you feel beat from work.

    I find that games online that have no end stress my brain harder than single player ones.
     
  15. YourBrainRebalanced

    YourBrainRebalanced Administrator Staff Member

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