'Castle Black' - CLOSED FOREVER. [GROUP - Abandoned]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by NightsWatch, Jun 11, 2013.

  1. rohan

    rohan Member

    Re: We are the Night's Watch. Welcome to 'Castle Black' [GROUP]

    You are from New Zealand? Cool, a kiwi! :D

    Sorry, but unfortunately I've already ordered and paid the pills via paypal, but I will inform you after 30 days how I feel. Maybe it doesn't work and so you can save the money for something which might work for now. At the moment I don't really know how I could "test" the results. I'm average looking and a bit chubby. I'm planning to loose some weight and do some work out after my exams are done to improve myself physically.
     
  2. JW86

    JW86 New Member

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    Hey Aussie, yeah I also had lengthy periods of time without P where erection problems persisted. This is why I am going MO free as well.

    I work for a medical advice line, part of our national health service. It is similar to 999 where we need to send ambulance and give life-preservation advice, but also covers (and is mainly involved in) less serious illnesses and accidents - broken limbs, vomiting, colds, fevers, joint paint, etc.

    Basically I assess patients over the phone and then organise or advise them on the safest course of action to take. I really like my job.

    Living situation.. I rent a two-bedroom flat with my partner of 3 1/2 years. She is working away at the moment which is a great opportunity to try and reboot. I have a lodger in temporarily to help me with maintenance costs. I am unsure to my future with my partner. She is older than me, she is the first woman I've had full sex with, and I agonise over the idea of only sleeping with one woman in my entire life.

    I hope this reboot can help me to seperate from a pornographic idea of sex and help me get some clarity.


    PS just an update, had a wet dream last night, was definitely asleep.
     
  3. aussie sam

    aussie sam New Member

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    It's interesting hearing your guys situations and even seeing a lot of similarities. I'm no expert on relationships or girls or anything but maybe my experiences will be beneficial.

    JW86 I Also had proper sex for the first time about a couple of years ago with a girl who ended up becoming my girlfriend. I had done everything else in my younger years but then nothing until her. Our story was complicated. Off and on, but eventually after both relocating and trying long distance for a while we broke up in feuburary. It was hard but it opened up the door to new partners for me. I somehow ended up with 4 one night stands with 4 beautiful girls over the course of 4 months while in my grieving stage. It felt like I was doing what I should have been doing in my early 20s while I was busy masturbating.

    The thing is though that while each and every time the sex was different and exciting and fun… I still miss the intimate sex that I had with the first girl. I have defiantly grown heaps from the experience but I would strongly suggest working on your current relationship first before you decide to end it. Give it a proper go and if you still feel like leaving then do so. But remember that guys like us who are late bloomers are also usually quite emotionally fragile. You may find it harder than you imagine to leave your current girlfriend knowing that she will be sleeping with other men. Just be aware of that so you don't confuse it thinking that you your relationship back

    Rohan in my experience as a newley liberated man I would say that the main thing that separates the guys who get girls and the guys who don't is confidence. It's key to work on being happy within your self and then the women will come.

    Also a little off topic but if you live in a bigger city then try looking for foreign girls. Haha. I really love Germany but I must say that the dating culture here is confusing and hard compared to the rest of the world. The women are beautiful here, but extremely intimidating and confusing. I have written about my experiences and observations in length on other forums, but I think that if you can show them that you are not a push over but that you still have an emotional side then you have an advantage. Just my 2 cents as an outsider for what it's worth.

    Man I can't wait to experience my first wet dream!
     
  4. rohan

    rohan Member

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    Exactly, that's why I want to get more confident by changing myself in a positive way. Personally I think I'm an easy-going, humorous guy, but a bit to shy. I always think about how I don't want to be a burden for other people. Last time, I told a friend that an artist gives a concert he also likes, he said, he would definitely give me an answer, wether he has time or not. As time went by he didn't gave me an answer and the concert was sold out. I didn't want to be pushy, but personally I think I have to be more consequent and have to be more annoying ( in a postive way). I have to leave my comfort zone.

    It was this artist by the way. Absolutely love his music. Really emotional.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62Z4ibZFA6c

    Thanks for you input btw. It is really much appreciated. :)

    @JW Like your avatar. I think our group has a good taste for series! :)

    Can't wait till August, when the rest of the last season airs. Also a new Boardwalk Empire season is coming out in September. i'm excited.
     
  5. NightsWatch

    NightsWatch Member

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    It's a Wednesday. Almost time to go to work.

    I'm still here. Are we boys, or are we Men? Let's make it clear to ourselves.
     
  6. Califree209

    Califree209 Reaching for my goal.

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    I'm going good brahs when I relapsed I made a lot of positive changes to help with this. The k9 app also helps.
     
  7. rohan

    rohan Member

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    That's the spirit!

    That's a step in the right direction! Keep it up! :)
     
  8. NightsWatch

    NightsWatch Member

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    Helped my friend move and took her to an interview afterwards. Shes incredibly hot and the girl I fell for back in October that I wrote about on these message boards under a different name. We just recently started talking again, but only as friends. Though while having a drink at a bar waiting for her interview to be over, I talked to these two girls and got one of their numbers. Just texted that girl a bit tonight telling her to save my number. She wasn't hot or anything, but had pretty blue eyes and what seemed to be a good rack. I'll take it.

    Then I took my friend out to eat and dropped her off. Now here about to go to bed without even thinking about my dick. I prefer it this way because the brain is the biggest sex organ and that's what I need to work on first before I work on my downstairs mojo.
     
  9. Califree209

    Califree209 Reaching for my goal.

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    Nice man I cant wait to see what happens to me when I get old enough to go to clubs or bars haha.
     
  10. aussie sam

    aussie sam New Member

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    Yes! I love watching your progress.

    I agree! Whilst I miss having my mojo, it's nice to give the brain a rest and just enjoy female company without thinking about sex all the time.

    I'm taking you guys' advice and surrounding myself with girls. Luckily most of my friends here happen to be good looking girls. I'm getting the odd boner when I have a sexual thought about them at home or something, but nothing really happens when I am with them yet. Still a good start I guess.
     
  11. Califree209

    Califree209 Reaching for my goal.

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    Haha thanks man i'm feeling so good I even got a lot of energy back and today when I woke up I felt it literally right when I opened my eyes. Feels great 8)
     
  12. JW86

    JW86 New Member

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    Men, I hope I am still in. Last night I had another one of those fantasy-orgasms. Struggling to sleep due to caffeine/nootropic usage last night. Had my cotton trousers/boxer shorts and long-sleeve top on which is my safer option of bedtime clothing - less skin contact etc.

    Drifted off to sleep, then neighbours made a load of noise and I woke up. Could not get back to sleep. Lasted for roughly three hours. I had some binaural tones on my headphones to help block noise out (they also place your brainwaves into a relaxing frequency, sometimes can be a bit hypnotic).

    At one point, I thought of an attractive ex-coworker from a previous place of employment. I instantly got horny. I lay on my back/side propped with pillows. Several times I directed my mind away from the sexual fantasies and onto my breathing, but the thoughts did, again, overwhelm as I began to dopamine rush in fantasy land of being with this girl. I kept my hands above the sheets and at no point touched my dick. Regardless, I eventually ejaculated.

    I woke up this morning and felt chaser-horny. I went to the shower to distract myself and wake up. I did touch myself, in the shower, for roughly twenty seconds. I got an erection and suddenly snapped awake out of this trance, determined not to fuck up my reboot.

    I am now back in my bedroom, awake and determined to continue with my reboot.

    So considering I did not touch my penis at all last night, and maybe for twenty seconds while in a super-tired dazed groggy sleep-deprived shower moment first thing this morning, I am hoping I do not need to reset my counter!
     
  13. aussie sam

    aussie sam New Member

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    JW I think you might be being a little hard on yourself. You have shown amazing will power to resist masturbating when you are horny enough to O just from thoughts. Would you have been able to do that before you started nofap?

    I personally think that these thoughts/urges are extremely normal and healthy. But I also agree that it's good that you are trying to suppress them during reboot.

    Remember that you're reboot is about gaining back you're libido, not to become a monk. So celebrate the new hornier and more self controlled you!
     
  14. NightsWatch

    NightsWatch Member

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    LoL yea man. If you're orgasming without touching then I don't think it's cheating. It's up to you if you want to orgasm or not. If you don't want to orgrasm then tone the thoughts down. It's ok to have them from time to time, we are human after all, just don't let it escalate to the point where you're shooting off a volcano lol.
     
  15. JW86

    JW86 New Member

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    Haha, thanks guys. I can be a bit strict on myself!

    I'd offer you guys a hug, but, we're MEN OF THE NIGHT'S WATCH. A stoic look of respect will have to suffice.

    Soldier on...

    [​IMG]
     
  16. NightsWatch

    NightsWatch Member

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    Feeling a little guilty. Just a little bit...

    Been browsing dating sites. Some which show nudity. I'm too lazy to fill out profiles and such. I'd rather just give them my number and have them text me. The girl who was 9 years younger didn't text back. I think she's a good girl lol.
     
  17. sak1234

    sak1234 Member

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    I would find a better dating site if you are planning on using one at all. Do mainstream dating sites like OKCupid and EHarmony allow nudity?
     
  18. sak1234

    sak1234 Member

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    How is everyone holding up?

    I just passed the 3 week mark this weekend and am feeling great outside of a sprained left shoulder! I went to a beach house with this girl I went to college with and 12 of her friends and the house had very little cell phone reception and essentially 0 internet connection which was incredible. The crowd partied a little bit harder than me (Think Jersey Shore with very little sleep and coke), but I had a blast regardless. I still wasn't quite ready to make a move on the few girls who were clearly ready to get down with me including my friend, but I'm not putting much stock in that.

    I suggest everyone (well, those in the Northern Hemisphere) try to take advantage of the summer and be as active as you can. You'd be surprised with how much 2 or 3 days away from your life, the internet, and routine helps.
     
  19. NightsWatch

    NightsWatch Member

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    After reading that, I think I need a vacation.
     
  20. aussie sam

    aussie sam New Member

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    Good to hear Sak! I know that feeling of not being ready to be with girls. Can I ask wether you felt attracted to them at all? Or any kind of sexual feelings?

    NightsWatch I agree with Sak in trying to stay away from dating sites. I think it's better to try and move as much of your social/dating/sexing life away from the computer as possible. It's a more of a challenge for sure but you will feel like a better man for it!
     

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