Last couple of days I took care of not getting over-stimulated and it really helped. Did as much as possible one thing at the time with full attention and save my energy as much as possible. Still had some anger spells though and even snapped at my wife once, but I also accept this for what it is. I was happy that the next day my wife was almost losing it and I was the one who remained calm . But it is just difficult to accept certain boundaries. Saturday I went for a run and this made me feel really good for the rest of the day, but then the next day I was completely out of energy. Still I have to keep making effort to change some things and yesterday I did. First, in the afternoon I went upstairs for half an hour to do breathing exercises and meditation. I fetl really uncomfortable at first. It was just me and my anger. I really wanted to give up. But I kept going and after a while the anger largely disappeared and I felt a connection with my body again. I felt sorry to my body for closing myself off and just be in my head. Note to self: do this every day! Then in the evening, after the kids were in bed, I turned up the heat downstairs, took a mattress downstairs, put on some candless and told my wife to lay down on the mattress. I gave her a massage, then she massaged me and then we had sex. I have to admit that this was only the second time we had sex this year . But it was really great. Afterwards we felt reconnected. I could see how she was feeling feminine again, and I felt masculin. Today our interaction is so much nicer. It is so difficult to make the effort to do so. In the evening we are just exhausted and even now we were lucky that the kids didn't wake up. But it is really worth it .... no, it is needed.