Brand New Life

Discussion in 'Ages 25-29' started by Wise Hermit, Oct 19, 2019.

  1. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    I'm working at home too. It's a big change and it is weird af.
    I haven't found the right routine yet. I have the right mindset- so tomorrow I'll be brainstorming about some solutions.
    Meditation is a great tool for self improvement. Haven't done it in years... will try it tomorrow too

    Good ludk
  2. Brit_91_kd

    Brit_91_kd Member

    I know this feeling! I am also a civil servant. Been 3 weeks straight of WFH
  3. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Day zero. It is quite difficult. Working on solutions

    You guys also stay safe and good luck in will power!
  4. Don't give up. It is difficult, but not impossible. It's overwhelming to create a whole new schedule, but start simply. We don't know for sure how long this quarantine will last, but prepare by creating a daily schedule that you can do your best to stick to. I'll be posting an example of my daily routine soon in these forums so keep an eye out.
  5. Battlesword1

    Battlesword1 Active Member

    Hey Wise Hermit, I'm just starting my own path here and looked over your thread. I'm curious about your relapses, if you don't mind expanding. Also stuck in isolation a lot. Is the trigger being bored in front of the computer? Or like, certain music or something?
  6. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Day zero. Let's do some progress
    Last edited: Jan 13, 2021
  7. axebattler

    axebattler Member Staff Member

    Cool. Which programming language are you learning?
  8. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    I want to get into frontend. So for now the basics of HTML + CSS, then take Javascript
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  9. Battlesword1

    Battlesword1 Active Member

    Hey Wise hermit, I think that's a great list and thanks for both taking the time to talk about the triggers and the list of what you want to accomplish. I'm old school. I like having a list on a sticky note or notebook page I can cross off. That small act of actually crossing things off the checklist helps me know I am making progress against that list. Hold fast man, we're right here with you brother.
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  10. axebattler

    axebattler Member Staff Member

    I did some stuff with those years ago. When I first started learning HTML it was done very differently to nowadays. HTML was used in all sorts of design ways that it isn't used for now. The design functions got incorporated more and more into CSS instead, eventually.

    I'm currently trying to learn C#. A bit of tinkering with hardware as well.
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  11. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Yea, right now the only issue is motivation and time schedule. But I'm working on that

    Good luck with that on your side same way!
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  12. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    Hi WH

    Seems to be stuck in a negative loop huh. I see you're still talking of shame and self-denial. I can relate to those elements and thankfully I have learned to let them go. It's still there, but it's gotten so much smaller. Particularly shame is something that keeps you stuck in the loop. I see you have porn as a way to cope with resistance. "Doing the things I don't want to do but must do (work included)".

    At this moment I see that as a mindset that keeps you down. Changing the mind will lift you up. You have a 15 point list that looks amazing. Are you sticking to your list?How does it make you feel? Are you managing to stick to it and feel good about it?

    What I sense is that you're pushing rather hard, asking too much from yourself and wanting too much too soon. Perfectionism.

    I am having an SLAA sheet open from last nights meeting and point 8 says (translated into English) "We begin to accept our imperfections and flaws as part of being human, healing our shame and perfection while working on our character defects".
    I feel this one is resonating with you.

    I am not trying to point out your defects, I am trying to show you a mind shift. Took me years to find out. It'd be a shame (pun intended) to have you waste your years as well.

    Perhaps SLAA would fit you as well. Have you thought about finding a meeting nearby?

    As for the web dev. I fucking started to do the same thing!I signed up on 2 weeks ago and it's a 300 hour course. For free.
    How is your web dev going? What site are you using?
  13. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016


    ah I thought of attending codeacademy as well, I have started out with a 5 day coding challenge at Codeinstitute, which is super structured bootcamp to check whether you fit and like coding. Afterwards I probalby attend freecodecamp instead. This offeres 300 hours of free training, if I need more I can always get a CodeAcademy subscription.

    As for the progress, and the points you stated. Seems you are in touch and in control. I like your distinction between now and future, I did not see that.

    Good luck with codeacademy!
  14. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Day 9

    I keep going
    Last edited: Jan 13, 2021
  15. Battlesword1

    Battlesword1 Active Member

    I think the loss of dopamine leads to something like depression in most guys: an emotional flatline. It makes it hard to drive forward with our good developing habits (programming, meditation, sleep, cleaning), and reinforces the bad ones (viewing porn) because we want to feel good again, even if just for a few minutes. Stick with it man! You know what you got to do and what your body is trying to do!
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  16. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Yea, agree. There's so many memes on insta about people just fapping non stop during quarantine. Feels a little good trying not to give in to the addiction in such times

    Need to come out of quarantine even stronger
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  17. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    Ha, I like the "You never lacked time, you lacked discipline" motto. Very much true. I've noticed I have been mindlessly browsing the internet a lot, checking out crypto currency websites, surfing on social media and very often this leads to experiencing boredom. I think my boredom is a short cut to a relapse. And relapse is what takes my time and discipline.

    I think the quarantine is also something that effects me more than I can imagine. As for the mindlessness I want to start meditation to become mindfull. WH, which book are you reading? Does it improve your meditation of mindfulness?
  18. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    Hi, how did the cat on your picture take a selfie with his dog pals ? He is so bad ass :D

    How many days hard mode is he on ? Because he looks like a beast.
  19. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    He has been working out recently to be able to hold the camera properly
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  20. Wise Hermit

    Wise Hermit Member

    Day 16

    I keep moving
    Last edited: Jan 13, 2021

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