Discussion in 'Ages 20-24' started by CJJackson, Dec 20, 2017.
Thanks for the support bro! I wish you the best as well!
Just had another slight relapse. Honestly I didn’t even enjoy it. When I was looking at porn I was kinda like this is t really doing it for me. I was pretty soft the whole time but just kinda said fuck it. Oh well it’s over now. I think that’s only like the 6th-7th time in the past 6 months. No chasers not even gonna dwell on it. It’s over back ok track now!
Amazing work Jackson! How are you doing? Don't be too hard on yourself for that one relapse. Doesn't ruin all your hard work!
@Nuwanda still in the fight buddy. Can’t believe how far we’ve both come since I first signed on here at the end of 2017. I think I’ve been doing well porn just seems so foreign to me I just have to keep going and accept that this is the lifestyle I want to live from now on. It is amazing how much better life is without it. I hope you’ve been doing well too! PM me anytime bro!
It is so cool to see the difference in your focus and writing now compared to when you started this journey. We are in this together! I will be making a big post later today, and I know it will be something you will enjoy reading. Good to be in this together with you brother
Thanks bro glad to have your support let’s keep at it stay committed for life!
How are you doing Jackson?
@Nuwanda im good bro I just got done reading your post. You should be really proud of yourself I’m happy for everything that’s going well In your life. I have taken a lot of similar steps I still haven’t had sex yet but I’ve been taking steps. I go out on weekends more often and have gotten better at approaching women and talking with them. I’ve done a lot of other exercises with my therapist and from other books and online forums to boost confidence with this and become the best version of myself. I wish you the best brother and that we continue to stay in this fight together!
Thats awesome man, so cool to see your fighting spirit! Glad I could make your day. Really, having an addiction like this, and being forced to take action towards creating the life you want, it is a blessing. You have grown tons since you first got here, and that is awesome to see Just promise me you won't stop growing when you end up beating your addiction!
@Nuwanda illbe sure to do that bro!
I’ve had a lot going on in my life I’ve really started to focus on trying to be more confident and talk to more girls. I’m tired of letting opportunities pass me by I’m almost 23 and still a virgin I’ve made improvements Like losing weight and getting in shape. I can tell people notice that I’m getting more confident I just have a lot going on with my job and studying to get the necessary licenses for my job as I work in financial sales. That stress combined with working 10 hour days it’s hard to find the time and motivation to go meet women. I won’t put this off anymore as soon as I get through this stretch over the next few weeks of studying to get my licenses and focus on work I will become the confident guy with women that I’ve always wanted to be. I know this isn’t really porn related but I’ve made a lot of positive changes on my life since quitting porn and this just feels like a good outlet to release some stress. Writing on here is very therapeutic
Thats awesome to hear Jackson! You are already a success because you have improved yourself so much. Good to hear you are doing well despite there being so much work to do!
@Nuwanda thabks buddy I appreciate the support
Really tough day today. Started early this morning when I awoke in the middle of the night in the middle of a porn dream. I woke up so arroused that I actually went and watched porn for a little bit still half asleep. Then at work I couldn’t get it off my mind I actually went into the bathroom and watched it for like 10 mins. This kinda came out of nowhere I’ve been doing so well but I’ve also been very stressed out lately and I’m thinking that’s why the urges came back. I feel pretty ashamed rn I’ve never watched porn at work until today I know it’s not a huge deal if I just never let it happen again but I feel so ashamed and low right now what advice do you guys have?
You are doing great Jackson, don't get too caught up in your mistakes. Shit happens, that doesn't take away your progress. I would recommend reading this: https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/for...nly-success-youre-craving.116803/#post-693970
Thanks buddy that definitely helped just gotta keep moving forward appreciate your support as always my man!
How are you doing dude?
I’ve been good buddy. I still haven’t had successful sex but I hope to be where you are soon enough. I’ve hooked up with a few girls but still trying to close the deal on actual sex. I actually have a couple of dates coming up which is good. Your last post really motivated me I would love any advice you have on escalating with girls. I’ve been going out more and I can tell I’ve made progress because girls have been a lot more flirty with me but like I said I think my problem right now is fear of failure in bed and trying to close the deal.
On another note, I’m really happy for you buddy you’ve come a long way and I know we’ve both pushed each other to keep going. Hopefully I can improve my dating life soon and the we’ll both really be killing it haha!
Thats great progress Jackson! Several dates lined up, man thats fantastic. I think my best advice to you when it comes to escalating is to be relaxed. The more chill and accepting you are around girls, the more attractive you will be. Girls are super stressed about having sex as well, because they are afraid of being labeled a slut, that they are bad in bed etc. If you don't get a boner they usually feel bad themselves because they don't know it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with us and our ED. I had a lot of luck with telling the girls I need to be more comfortable around them to get a boner, and telling them I just need to spend more time cuddling and hanging out with them before I am ready. Many girls are really understanding about this, and it takes a lot of pressure of them aswell. Taking the pressure of the situation is how I've had the most fun in my encounters. If you want to, you can practise your oral skills, your massaging skills, or just chill together naked as well. As long as you both feel comfortable, thats a big step up man. Being relaxed doesn't happen at first, but it comes naturally after some time. The first sex will probably be short and sloppy, but goddamn man, it is gonna be amazing.
Thanks for that by the way! It feels so liberating to finally be able to have normal sex! You are so close to do this, dude. I'm really proud of you.
@Nuwanda thanks bro I really appreciated that post it feels good knowing where am I now compared to where I was before. And not just with porn but life in general like working out getting other hobbies meeting girls and all of that. I’ll keep pushing and continue to improve over time. Good luck as you continue your journey my man!
Haven’t been on in awhile but looking to to post an update. I’ve had some hard times and relapses the past few months. For the year of 2019 I’m up to about 16 relapses total. I’m proud of this but lately I’ve just been losing motivation. Almost like a lust for watching it more than usual. I’ve been searching for that inner desire when I first started this journey almost two years ago now. I gotta keep going I’ve come this far and I won’t allow myself to go down that road of PMO addiction again.
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