Alright men. I have come to the conclusion that I am ready for day time public approaches. Not at bars and not at night. Success is more likely during the day. For some context - I live in Canada in BC. Our city has some local perceptions that "the dating scene is hard" or something similar. We have a college, 2 universities and more school/learning places than any other city with over 200,000 people. Women are plentiful, especially Asian and foreign exchange. To the point: I am done with being a victim, blaming, whining, coping out, being a wuss bag, living in fear of rejection. I know that some on here are NOT in the same place. I respect that. The question is: Can you eventually get to a place within yourself where you will be able to do calm, confident and non creepy approaches? While I am not a dating coach fan or follower of particular strategies. Adam LoDolce - Go Talk To Her, makes some good points that women do like being approached. Sure some give off signals indicating otherwise. Then don't bother with those women. There must be many women who are tired of lame online and pick up lines. They'd be fine with some normal chat about something that you can converse about. I think so many of us make it harder than it is. Really. I can recall two dozen or more good opportunities where on the bus or in public women gave me at least 3 looks with eye contact and it was clear to me they were interested. All the signs were there in hindsight. The thing is, it was when I was not focused or fixated on just finding someone, anyone, who will give me the signals. I was over thinking it, analyzing it. I don't just mean simple thoughts, I was getting to over way processed. So she says no, fine, my life still continues on. I did not approach these women. Now I am ready to. Anyone else?