first i have ocd, meaning I get a lot of intrusive thoughts and anxious thoughts that are just irrational and annoying to deal with. It makes my anxiety worse. So first I'm like most people with a porn addiction, used to do it everyday. I slowly went from vanilla stuff to some weird stuff, you get the drift. My anxiety come from Cuckholding. I fear of developing a Cuckhold fetish. I mean really most people don't want to watch their gf having sex with another guy. (not shaming people who have the fetish). I just don't want the fetish or develop it. Anyways I used to watch Cuckhold porn. I can get off to pretty much anything but I tend to get off more when there is like a sorta back story. I also should mention I usually watch porn from a 3rd person perspective, so when I'm watching cuckhold porn I don't imagine my self getting cheated on, I just enjoy the backstory and more stimulation from the situation. It was only until recently I thought about porn induced fetishes. And me being a overthinking person beliefs that since I like the porn does that mean deep down I like getting cheated on? Does it mean I have that fetish? I hope not. whenever i get a gf I always feared I would get cheated on. Now I also fear that when I get cheated on, I might get aroused to it. That's what scares me. I don't wanna be aroused to that sorta thing. Another problem is I can't check if I have the fetish or not. Since I always watch porn from a 3rd pov I can't tell if I'm aroused by the fetish or just the interesting backstory. So don't know if I have the fetish or not. I would rather be infertile than get off to someone else having sex with my gf. So it's a pretty fucked problem. I keep telling myself I don't have the fetish it is just porn induced. But my anxiety and ocd keep making me overthink. so right now I'm gonna try to stay away from porn and hopefully control my anxiety. I just want someone who is either experience in porn induced fetishes or something similar to tell me I'm overthinking, because right now I'm extremely anxious and can barley eat. I don't want to be a cuck or even get aroused to that sorta thing. thanks to anyone that responds.
relax bro. the cure for all our problems lies in forgetting about porn. your brain will rewire, just stay away from porn
You’re overthinking this. First get in a relationship with someone and allow it to flourish. Over time you’ll develop a deep connection with that person. If you really love her, you will refuse to let her fuck other guys. BTW, most women don’t respect male subs. To them it’s weird.
Indeed, this sounds similar to HOCD. Just because you enjoyed watching cuckold porn, doesn't mean you have the fetish and want to put it in real life.
You can only accept that these fantasies and urges exist and try not to act on them. They will then get easier to handle with time. If you try not to think about something, you will eventually think about it, you're making it a big deal.
The book on Sexual Addiction by Birchard says why these problems happen. We start with vanilla porn, but then it excites us less. So we look for stronger stuff and that quickly leads to looking at fetish porn, BDSM porn etc. It is like any other addiction. Tolerance develops so that we are no longer as interested. So we look for novelty and that quickly escalates. It is the same with addiction to drugs. So you shouldn't feel guilty. The same thing has happened to all of us. The reason for rebooting for a reasonable period is that it allows the brain to rebalance (hence the title of this site). You need to reboot by keeping off P, M and O, and probably never go back to P ever. We are all in this together.
I accept porn increase my fantasy but what about my nature before porn i imagined feet workship and wanna crushed my women's how to change this nature
Hi Lucifer, don't think its your nature. We can all change. The main thing is to keep away from P because it will certainly make things worse. Probably if people were asked it would turn out that many people have secret kinks. There is nothing terrible about yours. It is common in BDSM circles to have foot worship. I think you should just accept that you have fantasies about foot worship. The main thing is not to act out on them. They are just fantasies.The best thing is to distract yourself by taking up interests, whether exercise or anything you are good at. You can replace the time fantasising with other things. You know best what other interests you have. I fear that you feel shame or guilt, and you shouldn't. There are many worse things than your fantasies.
