Age 18 - How I kicked FEMDOM addiction for good

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by NewHope972, Mar 4, 2013.

  1. NewHope972

    NewHope972 Member

    I had been watching femdom videos since I was 11, or 12. First it started as a simple foot fetish(something I still probably have, and don't really care), so you couldn't imagine my hapiness when I found foot fetish videos on Youtube. And of course, most of those foot fetish videos have a component of female domination, or are completely based on it. That's when it started.

    Soon after, it was the only kind of porn I was watching. Nothing else turned me on, and by it, I mean "normal" porn. Intercourse wasn't arousing at all. Of course, being so young, and different from others, I was desparate to "get rid of" my fetishes, but that didn't keep me from watching my kind of porn, because it was the only thing that really aroused me.

    And then ... I drifted into more extreme kind. First it was humiliation, spitting, then golden showers, and finally, SCAT porn. Even foot fetish videos didn't do it that much for me anymore. At first I was disgusted at myself, tried to stay away from it, but I would eventually relapse every time. Even the thoughts of becoming a toilet slave crossed my mind.

    I tried to abstain from that kind of porn a few times, and the closest I got was about 1 month. Then I would just "check" if it still turned me on. BIG MISTAKE. DON'T DO IT. It was the cause of every single relapse that I had.

    Also being into pick-up, I know that many, many girls are turned on by male dominance, but how could I do that, when I wanted girls to shit in my mouth? It was a component that helped me gain my motivation, but the biggest of them all is HOPE. When I read these materials on how porn can change your brain's wiring and make you drift into more extreme kind, something clicked in my brain, and I had hope that my femdom fantasies are all artificial. I was right.

    Since then it's been about 2 months and so far it's a success. I had many urges to watch it during 1st month, but every time I reminded myself of why I was doing this, and what will happen if I relapsed, and it kept me going.

    Tonight I masturbated to "regular" sex porn, and the level of arousal was nearly the same as with scat crap before. Then I checked femdom porn again, to see levels of arousal, and got only a mild reaction. (I know I said don't do it, but at this point I was sure 100% that I had complete control of my actions, and that relapse wasn't an option. Don't do it for 2 months at least.) Then I closed my femdom tab, sure that I will never check that crap again. :)

    Oh yes, almost forgot, real girls' touch, smell, sometimes even holding intense eye contact, can get me hard now. Something that was COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE before.

    I hope I can inspire someone with a similar situation, because, please, if you are a male and have femdom fantasies, unless you are 100% sure that being a slave would make you happy, don't do it!! It's not how nature made you. Try this for a few months(2 at least), and if you don't like the results, you can always go back to your porn/dominatrix.
     
  2. NewMe93

    NewMe93 curiosity killed the cat

    Lmao!
     
  3. NewHope972

    NewHope972 Member

    Haha, yes, it's funny to me too now, but a few months ago, you couldn't imagine my levels of desparation because of this. God, I'm so glad that part of my life is over. :)
     
  4. original

    original hope

    wow amazing..
    good work so far.. but drop off the porn.. of any kind!
     
  5. NewHope972

    NewHope972 Member

    Thanks! :D

    Oh I am going to, that was just a test. I had to know if reeboting had any effect.
     
  6. roddy123

    roddy123 New Member

    Good for you. We're kinda similar. I developed a femdom fetish at a very young age and it escalated to the point where I actually started seeing pro dominatrixs. I got 100% erections during dom sessions but remain completely flaccid for normal sex. Where are you at in terms of intercourse? I assume you've had opportunities since you're going out a lot.
     
  7. pimpetry

    pimpetry Have more fun!

    Thanks for sharing bro, it's very inspiring!

    Also I recommend you to read the book called The brain that changes itself by Norman Doidge. Awesome book.

    Anyway, congrats, keep it up and stay away from it forever!
     
  8. Frekky12

    Frekky12 New Member

    I've also had the same problem since I discovered porn at age 12 and then femdom about half way through I was 13 and like you, it has escalated to exactly the same point as yours did. For about a year now, I've been wanting to stop it all together but at the time, I only managed a maximum of about 4 days when I was by myself and that was rare. Anyway, I've managed to not cum for 15 days which is the longest I've ever been able to hold it back. The next step for me is to stop myself from watching it altogether as I'd really like to get on with my life and get better with the girls as this problem has really hindered me from being able to do so.
     
  9. Motivated4Life

    Motivated4Life New Member

    Great work man! It's motivating to hear you made big improvements. Be happy that you discovered this site at 18.. you're still really young and have years of great sexual adventures in front of you with hot chicks lol.. rewire to real women 100%, never look at porn again, and enjoy the rest of your life!!... get this area solved now and enjoy your college years, probably the most abundant time of life as far as hot girls go!! lol

    Good luck!!
     
  10. John1999

    John1999 New Member

    Hi

    I have been searching for a cure for fetish addiction and found this thread. I have same problem. I was always attracted to feet as far back as I can remember. I'm 40 years old now. Over the years my attraction grew and watching femdom videos turned me to a complete slave to female domination, humiliation even exploring being a toilet slave. I'm always searching for pro doms and spending so much beyond what I can afford to satisfy my craving. I'm scared of getting a disease through these interactions but I'm completely out of control. I'm married with children and my addiction is destroying my life. I can't stop thinking of feet, humiliation, femdom. I watch videos and masterbate daily, more than once. I'm always searching for dominatrix every week and try to have a session. I'm very depressed. It's affecting me to the point where committing suicide is a daily thought. I'm losing interest in work and personal life. My wish is to find a real domina where I can become real life slave for her and quite real life. Or find a cure and hope to wake up out of this nightmare. I'm too embarrassed and shy to seek counseling and I'm afraid my wife would know if I do.
     
  11. ygtrhos

    ygtrhos Guest

    24 years old, with more or less the same path (only differs that I am not only submissive, but switch in my fantasies). I am also into pick-up and porn SEVERELY DROPS my success in it. You cannot assert your sexuality when it is warped.
     
  12. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    Age 22 and your story sounds identical to mine. People say that tranny porn is like the elephant in the rom , but i generally think more and more people are developing an addiction to femdom. Its another one those things that a man would never admit too, after all its not very manly wanting to be bullied by a woman.
     
  13. daone

    daone Where I'm gonna be ought to be uncharted

    femdom is a bitch! i have the hardest time with it...real life im not into it at all, not even a bit..i have no intention of every being dominated by a woman..but when it comes to porn thats all im into, and more degrading things which seeps into me wanting to visit a dominatrix but ive never done so. Im working on kicking this addiction but its crazy how porn can warp your mind until when you talk to a girl you think about getting her in bed but not for sex, just for femdom...fuck my life ???
     
  14. a4c444

    a4c444 New Member

    Can identify with this. Femdom/shemale is (was - 2 days down!) my porn of choice for years and years now. So much so I went to see a dominatrix a month or two ago. Was so disgusted with myself after I came in that session that I couldn't get out quick enough.

    Keep it up my friend!
     
  15. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    Plus I bet it cost you an arm an a leg! It's a pricey fetish lets all stick to normal sex that doesn't cost so much :L
     
  16. a4c444

    a4c444 New Member

    Yeh - that session cost me £100! Along with the various shemale porn site memberships and pay as you view webcams, I've spent, easily, around £1000 - £1500 on this addiction this year alone.

    I don't know what it is, all the free tube sites ended up not being enough for me, I would still use them, but would 'treat' myself to a webcam session or a site member ship every now and then. Disgraceful stuff, so ashamed.
     
  17. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    That would of been me eventually. When your edging for 3 hours at a time there's only so many femdom videos out there on the tube sites. I actually thought about subscribing to a site or two. It's ridiculous really isn't it? I mean fair enough paying for sex, but paying so you can masturbate? It's fucked up.
     
  18. daone

    daone Where I'm gonna be ought to be uncharted


    Was the session much different from femdom porn?
     
  19. a4c444

    a4c444 New Member

    Hard to say, I think one the reasons it was so good wasn't the physical things being done to me, but the fact I was there in itself. The mistress was very sexy too.

    It was a bit more of a rush, which made the downer higher! After I had cum I couldn't even look at the mistress.

    Don't know if this is worse or better than looking at porn. A shameful low nonetheless.
     
  20. daone

    daone Where I'm gonna be ought to be uncharted

    [/quote]

    Hard to say, I think one the reasons it was so good wasn't the physical things being done to me, but the fact I was there in itself. The mistress was very sexy too.

    It was a bit more of a rush, which made the downer higher! After I had cum I couldn't even look at the mistress.

    Don't know if this is worse or better than looking at porn. A shameful low nonetheless.
    [/quote]


    I think it was better because it was real and also you experienced it first and and felt the downer. If i relapse again i will go session 1 time and hopefully i will hate it too
     

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