Again, I Need A Community to Help...

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Guy_Stewart, Jun 14, 2017.

  1. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    All is well, just that my computer is in the kitchen, the screen facing the living room, so (no duh) no PMO! However, I can't just pop on here. So: I'm well; relaxing; growing closer to wife, friends, planning on going to South Korean in a month-and-a-half. I am SO excited!

    Later as I can do so, I'll post!

    Love to all!
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  2. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Fight with the wife last night. She believes she is in competition with my writing. No idea what to do with that.

    Computer is still where it was, other husband right behind me, no chance of PMO, thank goodness...
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  3. HowToKapow

    HowToKapow Turtles smell nice

    I wouldnt rush to conclusions on this topic too fast. For me i noticed when im working i always have a procrastination rate in %. So if i spend 1h productively i noticed id blow at least 10 min not working. Cutting that time down over time added a lot of net time over the day, which you could reallocate for family time. Unless of course youre already at 0% proc. Rate in that case its tougher.
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  4. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Women seem to be in competition,with anything you want to do. Love me, pay attention to me don't do anything that does not include me. Way it is I guess.
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  5. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Heading back home today!

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  6. Squire

    Squire Well-Known Member

    Write something nice to her maybe?

    Does she share your interests? Is she academic like you or is that just a totally different world to her?
  7. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    We share MANY interests, but writing isn't one of them...and the problem WAS me, this time. I wanted to write and while they did puzzles, I wrote. I loathe puzzles because, for some reason, they are so confusing, they induce a mild sense of panic in I can't possibly put the pieces together "in time"...for what, I'm not sure. Board games are the same, but I've learned to deal with that one.

    I was just disappearing into my "writing world". THAT's my fault. After that, we had a marvelous time, oddly. We don't argue or even disagree much after 31 years. Like I said, we share a lot of things!

    Thanks for asking (PS -- she is an academic. She was a theology major back before women were allowed to have minds that could do stuff like that in college! She does logic puzzles often -- which I don't get -- but has introduced me to enough card games that I CAN enjoy myself often; and she and i sometimes read books together.

    Anyway, thanks, my friend!
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  8. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Like I said above, I'm home again. Summer school starts today with workshop and set up.

    I put on...LOTS...of weight since, well, since spring started. Lots of stress eating, but also...these friends of ours eat like horses and wife and I didn't feel like we could argue because we were "on vacation". Don't get me wrong, I reached almost 270 at one point, so I LOVE eating. But there was denying it. Wife and I are starting on Weight Watchers again, today.

    Later my buds.
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  9. dig deep

    dig deep must stop wasting my life on porn

    Becoming more healthy is a key part of our development away from PMO because you can't feel well and do well without good health, as well as taking a bit more care in our appearance. I have start doing it a bit more and reading up on it more, just small changes here and there and over time it all adds up.
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  10. Squire

    Squire Well-Known Member

    I'm doing Weight Watchers too but am not very disciplined about it. I do ok until the evening then I eat like crazy.
  11. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member



    OTOH, coming back from the Wisconsin Dells, I was horrified to find that I'd put on five MORE pounds, so that in total, over the year, I've now lost 10 pounds. I was down to having lost Back to work. Wife and I will start WW again deliberately.

    As for the "rest" of my life, PMO is still and ugly shit hanging around my neck. But this time...this time, while my imagination isn't healthy, my eyes and hands have been relatively good. I still have trouble "fondling" myself when I'm alone. Nothing seriously masturbatory...just the sensation...

    So. I need to keep my hands busier when I'm sitting on the porch in the dark waiting for dog to do her business before bed...

    Yeah, I know, TMI...but there you go.
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  12. Squire

    Squire Well-Known Member

    You're at 19 days and that's PHENOMENAL! Well done. Making it to 20 should be no problem, right?
  13. Gone fishing

    Gone fishing Active Member

    Glad to see you’re doing well Guy.
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  14. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Senor Nofapado!
    Senor Nofapado! Good to hear from your! Hope all is well; I'll pop over to your thread in a moment to catch up!

    All the rest of you -- got up late and wife got up early, so no time to post yesterday. Things are going pretty well -- I still have an issue with playing with myself in the shower and sometimes when I'm taking a leak. Nothing...huge, but still. I'm not sure how to address it, and I don't know what the root of the compulsion is. I haven't come close to losing control and it's usually only for (at most) a minute or two...but I wonder about me.

    Gotta run. First day teaching summer school!
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  15. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member

    I did -- just got up late and wife got up early. No time to post!

    Thanks foe checking up on me!
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  16. Squire

    Squire Well-Known Member

    Cold shower? I hate cold showers. @Saville swears by them. I did a compromise yesterday and went from my hot shower to a cool shower. It's not bad. Maybe I will ease into icy coldness.
  17. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    A man who can do three weeks clean, can do three years. Just sayin'.
    In fact, the following 3 years are easier.
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  18. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Got up late! Running to work. More tomorrow!
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  19. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    It's weird. I see the numbers there and I can't believe it -- but, I've been busy, involved with life -- or on vacation for a week with another couple; my schedule is entirely different than it is during the school year. Oh, I'm going to be in South Korea from July 28 through August 18, so I have NO idea what kind of internet access/computer use I'll have. I'll be staying with my son, daughter-in-law, and grandkids (actually, I guess, in my grandson's bedroom!), so I'll be unlikely to PMO during that time, either...for some of you, that will be a great concatenation of circumstances! Me and others like me on the site will see it as a gift of God!

    So. Things are going well, though I still play with myself too much -- it just doesn't lead to PMO. Just...pleasurable. It doesn't even lead to MO because it happens in places were it's not practical to MO (except in the shower) For now, I'm just going to try and keep my hands as busy as possible and keep moving forward.

    As for sex with my wife -- not sure that will ever happen again...just putting it out there. It's not me as much as how she feels about herself. Not sure what more I can do to help her through her struggles with the loss of her femininity. *sigh* Another life-long struggle.

    So. I'm still here. I'm still with you all. I DO comment on occasion on other threads. So...there you go.
  20. Guy_Stewart

    Guy_Stewart Well-Known Member


    Quick in and out today -- rode to work and back on my bike yesterday! VERY satisfied with my performance there. Preparing for the trip to S Korea is frustrating, but not "bad"...this passport process is ridiculous.


    PS -- still play with myself (PWM), but not at much lately.
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