Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by coffee, May 13, 2017.
We all have to find what works for us, it takes time and effect, keep at it!
Doing well, no porn, but still some m now and then. Ok, every day. I'll let that titrate down naturally over time. Or not, staying off porn is by far the most important.
After my first 200 or so attempts I made it a rule to try something different each time. Usually it ends when I give in and m first, don't find it as satisfying as I expect, then use porn and fall off the wagon completely. This time I'm keeping the m in to start.
I still feel the same withdrawal, proving that my sex drive is completely separate from my porn drive. Maybe by not starving them both at the same time...
No day counting this time.
One positive thing I can say about repeated failure is you still accumulate some gradual benefit. My junk works much better than it did when I first started even though I'm 8 or so years older.
Progress not perfection. And yet 100% sober was necessary for me to get on the healing path.
448th time's a charm
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