Addiction to Femdom

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by jmts3, Feb 26, 2013.

  1. jmts3

    jmts3 LIVE STRONG !

    Hello guys,
    How's everyone doing with their daily challenge.?
    First of ALL, Thanks to all the people who have created this fourm to help us recovery from that addiction.
    My story with porn/femdom addiction started when I was 15 and now I am 21. I started with Porn. I was doing 2-3 times a day. then, my brain got bored of porn, here is where the real issue starts. So, I got addicted to femdom. I went from light fetishes to heavy,disgusted ones. I was jerking every day to that disgusting things, till I live with it. Every women I like , I imagine her to be dominate women and I her slave (I was actually a slave of my dick ). One time I went to club and I picked some chick , and I couldn't perform longer with her and it was semi-hard . I really felt ashamed of my self and try even hurt my self . Back where I am from, they don't accept situation like this, so really I can't share it with any of my friends . It hurts my self-esteem, confidence, and destroy my life. I tried to quit couple of times, the longest period was a month , and i go back to where I start. This i tried to go for month , an I did. then I started to go from a 2 week and proudly I did, But I was like Cocaine addicted. During the 2weeks, I always have shaking hand ,sweeting , my mind reviewing all the movies I have seen on Femdom. Its really got me right . what exaggerate the issue, When I visited a domintrix to humiliate me because I was hand-cuffed toward the issue.
    So, today is the first day of rebooting , and my goal to go as long as i can hopefully 80 or 100.
    ANy suggestion or advices especially for femdom adductors?
    Other thing, I would like to know the strategy of having all that thoughts out of your mind ?
    How many days you should go for rebooting your mind ?
    Thank you all, and hopefully we all be back soon to our normal life .
     
  2. Overload

    Overload New Member

    Hey jmts3, i too was heavy into femdom. I was the same way, every woman i talked to i had to turn it into a femdom scenario somehow in my head. I always tried to approach the woman that i thought would be potentially dominate. Rather than someone ideal and nice, i went for the bitchiest ones possible. I also have been into a lot of fetishes for many years. It consumed my life. My best advice is this. Delete ALL porn on computer, put a porn site blocking program on your computer, and quit looking at porn forever. That's great you have rebooted for a month! For me the first month is awful with withdrawal symptoms, but you need to push your self and keep going. IT WILL GET BETTER. Even better, your fetishes will start to diminish. For me getting past that month mark, i start to really see change. Not just in my body and mind but with the fetishes. No longer constantly thinking of clips/pictures/fantasies like i did in the first month. I have hit over 100 days with no porn before and i can personally say that i feel like i was cured of my fetishes. Not that i didn't completely stop thinking about them, it was almost more like i thought they were silly. Though you can fall back into the trap easily if you allow yourself to look at it again. No pmo for many months is the answer my friend. You will start focusing on other areas of your life with a new clarity. I think you have the right idea, but you just have to put the porn down for ever. You can be cured and it will be worth the effort.
     
  3. wrong rewards

    wrong rewards Member

    Check out this long essay written by a guy who used to run a popular femdom site, but then took it down and replaced it with an essay against porn & masturbation:

    http://www.young-goddess.com/

    Link is safe for work.
     
  4. Overload

    Overload New Member

    Wow! Very good link.
     
  5. jmts3

    jmts3 LIVE STRONG !



    Thanks so much for the advice, it really meant alot to me.
    GOOD LUCK EVERYONE FOR KILLIN THAT ADDICTION !
     
  6. jmts3

    jmts3 LIVE STRONG !

    VERY HELPFUL LINK , THANK Y
     
  7. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    Wow thats so cool, I also used to love that site! On the flipside his website taught us that Russian women cant be very attractive lol!
     
  8. daone

    daone Where I'm gonna be ought to be uncharted

    I been there too, honestly it's one or two sites I can never fucking let go! It posses me off because it mixes in the fact that I'm very attracted to Asian girls with my femdom fetish and it just sucks me into the trap. It's good that you are here and trying to break the cycle because it just gets into more and more shameful genres of femdom until you are like Wtf! That being said I used to visit young goddess also it was one of my fav sites I have some more but I don't want to make anyone relapse so I won't list them ;D
     
  9. iggy

    iggy New Member

    Hi everyone,

    I have had a femdom fetish for a long time now. In some ways I think I had kinky fantasies even before I ever viewed any porn. But porn really exposed me to a bing range of BDSM material. Then I met my current partner 11 years ago. I could never imagine her being submissive, but I tried to make her into my dominant. It didn't work, we are now vanilla but I have spent a lot of time masturbating to femdom material on the web.

    I am trying to reboot once again. I find the whole thing quote difficult because the not masturbating really feeds into my longstanding chastity fetish. In some ways, I start to fantasise about my abstinence being in response to some woman's orders. Or I even think about how I'm doing it for my partner, and it feeds the fires that feed off the feelings of submission. So I think a femdom chastity fetish makes rebooting into a really strange experience. I don't want to necessarily reject all my fetishes, but I do want to put them aside for a period of time. So I have to make an effort of to not behave in a way that feeds the fetish. For me that means no self-punishment, no wearing sexy underwear, I have to put all that on hold for a while.

    My partner is now away from home for 12 days at a conference. It will just be me at home. Wish me luck!

    Iggy
     
  10. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    Hah I can totally buy all of this. You just need to make it clear in your head that all this abstaining has absolutely no link to a sexual fantasy. Dont even entertain the idea in your head because otherwise theres no point even doing this. Its going to have zero positive effect.
     
  11. iggy

    iggy New Member

    Thanks Thecutler.

    I think that's good advice, from my experience with previous reboots when I ended up incorporating some fetish elements. Though I find that I really start to crave the fetishes after about day 5 or 7 of a reboot. Let's see how this one goes. So far so good. It is interesting how much this is about what's going on inside our heads, rather than the physical acts of watching P and M (for me, at least).

    Congrats on your 34 days, keep strong.

    -Iggy
     
  12. Thecutler

    Thecutler Guest

    It's actually been all to easy so far. Once i got past 5 days I went into flatline and im still in one. I have no libido at the moment. I don't know when im going to come out of this flatline but Im going to have to be prepared for some strong urges.
    Bear in mind mate femdom is a fucktard stupid thing, its pretty much imaginary. Women are just not like that, we can't go on living in this dream world, wake up and smell the coffee. Good luck mate hopefully you will hit youre flatline soon.
     

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