Abstain from Porn April 2019!

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by YBR-Admin, Mar 30, 2019.

  1. YBR-Admin

    YBR-Admin Administrator Staff Member

    Hope that everybody is doing well. I've been very active on Twitter lately, check out some debates here. Here is the previous thread for March.

    Posting the April 2019 thread a couple of days early.

    Consider the following questions and leave responses to them in the thread if you want to!
    • Do you commit to not use porn in April 2019?
    • How is your recovery going?
    • How did March 2019 go for you, did you make any progress in your recovery?
    • Have you had any success in reducing the amount of porn that you consume?
    • What helped you progress towards your porn-free goal?
    • What didn't help you progress, how can you improve?
    • What triggers do you have to watch out for this month?
    • What positive habits are you adding to your life?
    Feel free to join your other forum members in this thread throughout the month to leave progress reports. We recommend creating a journal thread to share your progress with others and even for yourself to refer back to.

    Onwards to porn-free lives!
     
  2. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    I don't have twitter and I don't want to get it because social media for the PMO addict feels like methadone for the heroin addict, if you catch my drift. But you have been posting some really interesting stuff. It would be wonderful, if you could actually post some recent articles like the psychology today article about dopamine on here. But maybe that's too much too ask and too complicated for you. Anyways, just a genuine thank you for your work, Alex!

    For me, the last two months have been a wonderful ride. Rebooting single-handedly defeated my depression and anxiety. All of a sudden, I have my emotions back and I'm effortlessly able to talk to anyone really. I have become really good in making small talk with strangers, something I've always hated because I was so bad at it. It's mind blowing. I didn't change much in my life besides rebooting seriously. It's so worth it, guys. Ultimately, I do it to beat my PIED and to be able to have sex again but all the other benefits I'm experiencing are insane and worth it alone. My current motivation not to relapse again is just to keep all the benefits. Recovering from PIED is the long term goal.

    And the best of all, I'm seeing a woman at the moment and the first date was really promising. I'm very attracted to her and we had a great talk for three hours. After that I was so sexually charged, I felt close to coming in my pants and I had the worst blue balls ever :D. I'm not exaggerating. Just from talking. It's crazy, rebooting really works. Of course, I'm super sensitive at the moment but it'll regulate back to normal once my body and brain gets used to having intimate contact with a woman I like again.

    Never give up. It took me three loooong years to get to this point. But it's so so worthwhile... Even if I should never ever recover from PIED and my erections will never return back to normal, I swear to god, I won't turn back to porn. Porn is death, it will kill you. Quite literally. Stay away from it, it's straight up poison for your brain, body and mind.

    "There is garbage everywhere you look, in the media, in the tv, in the paper. A lot of people are filled with negativity. Garbage in, garbage out. What you read gets filtrated into your mind. What you watch gets processed through your emotions. What I mean by garbage in, garbage out is, be careful of what you take in because it could be polluting your mind. When you talk about creating a mindset, bottom line is this: If you put garbage into your mind, you get garbage out of your mind. Your thoughts are very important because your thoughts create clarity, your thoughts drive your actions, and your actions create your character. So, what you read, what you listen to is very very important!"

    Take care guys!

    @WilliamOneAndDone Look where I'm now, haha, I was a basket case not long ago ;)
     
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  3. GreenSwampMan

    GreenSwampMan Member

    • Do you commit to not use porn in April 2019?
    Yes, I want to get rid of this addiction.​
    • How is your recovery going?
    Decent enough. I have managed to stay away from PMO for two weeks but I have been in a flatline since day one which makes me feel a bit depressed. Additionally, I am struggling with sexually explicit fantasies.​
    • How did March 2019 go for you, did you make any progress in your recovery?
    I relapsed several times in the first half of March but started Hard Mode reboot since March 16th.​
    • Have you had any success in reducing the amount of porn that you consume?
    Yes, I have not watched porn at all since March 16th.​
    • What helped you progress towards your porn-free goal?
    Being busy with studies at the university. Having a good motivation (getting rid of PIED as soon as possible). Installing porn blockers. Changing my perception towards porn (I used to think that porn is harmless but now I know that it is anything but harmless). Posting on YourBrainRebalanced and RebootNation to keep myself accountable.​
    • What didn't help you progress, how can you improve?
    Fantasizing is a big issue for me. Porn images just keep popping up in my head from time to time. So, I guess I should do something about that. Not sure how, though.​
    • What triggers do you have to watch out for this month?
    Fantasizing and boredom.​
    • What positive habits are you adding to your life?
    Well, I am no longer watching porn every day so I guess there's that. Other than that, nothing.​
     
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  4. -Luke-

    -Luke- Active Member

    • Do you commit to not use porn in April 2019?
    Yes, porn has no place in my life anymore.
    • How is your recovery going?
    It's going good. But I know it's not a linear progress.
    • How did March 2019 go for you, did you make any progress in your recovery?
    Didn't watch porn and didn't struggle with fantasies that much. I also made progress with some positive habits in my life.
    • Have you had any success in reducing the amount of porn that you consume?
    I didn't consume any porn in the last 40 days.
    • What helped you progress towards your porn-free goal?
    More socializing and less mindless browsing.
    • What didn't help you progress, how can you improve?
    I didn't fantasize a lot in march. But even a little bit doesn't help at all.
    • What triggers do you have to watch out for this month?
    Weather is getting better: More women and less clothes. So my main trigger that I need to avoid will be fantasizing and checking out certain body parts.
    • What positive habits are you adding to your life?
    First and foremost I maintain the habits that helped me in the past: Meditation, going out of the house, Exercising, Journaling, ...
     
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  5. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

  6. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    So far so good.

    The most important thing for me is when I'm stressed/etc, to use other ways to relieve it instead of porn.
    No shame in watching stupid videos in youtube for 10min every now and again.
     
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  7. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Been good so far, had a few cravings but acknowledged them and found alternative ways to de-stress.
     
  8. redranger1017

    redranger1017 New Member

    I'm at 20 days, so April will be my first full month. I'm reading a lot and watching Reboot videos, listening to the PFR podcast and tonight I'm going to an S-group meeting just to check that out. Oh, and I loaded Qustodio on all my devices. I'm a little low on communicating IRL with other people (other than on forums, not sure that counts for accountability given the anonymity), that's what the S-group is for, but I feel like I'm serious about getting out from under this.
     
  9. -Luke-

    -Luke- Active Member

    Hey @Matt R
    What's the PFR podcast?
     
  10. redranger1017

    redranger1017 New Member

  11. YBR-Admin

    YBR-Admin Administrator Staff Member

    Great! What's S-group?
     
  12. redranger1017

    redranger1017 New Member

    12-step groups focusing sex addiction, like Sexaholics Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous. I went to an SAA meeting
     
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  13. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    good weekend
     
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  14. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    101 clean days! I love it and wouldn't change it for the world.
     
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  15. -Luke-

    -Luke- Active Member

    Well done man. I hope I'll join you in the triple digits in a few weeks.
     
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  16. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    You will, I believe in you! You got all the tools you need!
     
  17. redranger1017

    redranger1017 New Member

    27 days today, I reached out to someone I saw interviewed on a Noah Church video who's older, as I am. I want to know it's possible to recover over 50 and he did. We talked on the phone and we're going to again. Second SAA meeting tonight, I called the other newcomer and he's already "fallen" (as he puts it) twice since last week.
     
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  18. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Good week so far
     
  19. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Active Member

    Extremely good week so far :D
     
  20. spoofy

    spoofy Active Member

    Ah forgot to check in, apparently didn't watch any porn on april, see ya next month
     
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