About time

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Bobo, Oct 5, 2017.

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  1. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yup-- my point was that the pmo " haze" alters your thinking about this. Makes it incorrect. I should have been more adamant and clear about this.
     
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  2. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Many people here are extremely nostalgic. Dwelling in the past. Quitting PMO gives us our life force back. Thanks for sticking to YBR and sharing these experiences.
     
  3. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    I do what I can. YBR has been very good to me. Without this forum I dont think I would be as far along as Iam. When you dont think you have a future you are attracted to the past. Pmo makes you believe you have none! The thought process is short circuited. Reality becomes something strange and you are convinced daily pleasure is the way of life. Problem is the daily pleasure becomes less and less pleasurable. Suddenly you are hooked, you are trapped and you no longer question.
     
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  4. Bobo

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    My former boss his wife and Paula and Daniel Heather's parents are all coming here for the weekend. Gonna be a drunken weekend ! I took off work borrowed a horse trailer and went and got Jamie's pony this afternoon. Its a real cute pony. It's in barn and I got a month's feed for her. Its a female what else in my life? Damm ! Heather and Jamie dont know !Hehhehheh! I am just gonna wait for Heather to show Paula and Daniel around and when they go in barn ! Oops! Jamie is going to go nuts so will Heather and Jamies grandma ! Just brought trailer back and now I am like hello folks!:D So nice to see you!:D
     
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  5. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Heather and Jamie just got here as well as her parents and my former boss and his wife. How nice they are all here ! They are all on porch and I asked Heather to show them around as I needed to make some phone calls :). This should be good as Jamie is holding hands with her grandma! Heather said she hoped I wasn't gonna do business this weekend I said no just need to tie a few ends up.:rolleyes::D
     
  6. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Had a great weekend. Drank to much. Heather got TOTALLY destroyed Sat. nite as did her mom and my former bosses wife! Damm these women ! The guys were " holy shit!" Guys all figured "sex" nope not for any of us! Hahahahahaha! A pisser!
    My libido was " roaring " Sat nite and Sun! Heather was like insane Sat nite but the booze made her sick and she fell asleep and she wanted to fuck Sun am real early but was sick and hungover and was puking ! So Sunday nite she was so tired and hungover and dehydrated she fell asleep on my bed without even getting undressed! Hahaha! First time she drank " ta kill ya"( tequila) She went to work after getting Jamie ready for school and said " omg I am never gonna drink that again!!!!!" She just called me and asked if she could soak in hot tub this PM. I said sure and I will put Jamie to bed after we brush "Jenny"( the pony) thats what she named her so you can soak in tub as long as you want ( Jamie will come in to say goodnite.)
    The girls went nuts when they saw pony in barn. Heather teared up as did her mom. Jamie was crying and petting the pony.
    All in all was a very nice weekend lots of good food, booze and much laughter. No sex but so what sex is not always important ! I am a bit hungover today! Carry on !!!!
     
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  7. Bobo

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    9pm here. Jamie went to bed 1hr ago after we went out to barn to say goodnite to Jenny of course !:rolleyes: She is going to get up with me and I will show her how to give pony fresh water and food before she goes to school.
    Got in tub a while ago was very soothing. Heather had her soak kissed me and she is now in dreamland in bed. Me I am horny as hell but Heather is really out like a light even though that naked body is really tempting especially since I find it so "hot and sexy!" Oh well I am really tired and a bit hungover so its probably best. Maybe in am before work ?:rolleyes::cool:
     
  8. Outsider.

    Outsider. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

    Hey @Bobo! Do you still practice ejaculation control?
     
  9. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes I do. It has been going along quite well. I plan to talk about it soon. Its only possible w/o pmo.
     
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  10. Outsider.

    Outsider. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

    A loooot of things are only possible without PMO :p
     
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  11. Wild Bill

    Wild Bill Active Member

    Roger
     
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  12. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    A good day today! Went fishing because I took day off. Had poached bluegills for dinner and brown lentils and buckwheat ! Yum ! Dinner was good. Ralphina the alligator left my pond a few weeks ago. I figured she was nesting has a clutch of eggs. Went to gully. Yup, now I have 2 baby alligators about 1 foot long. Eggs have hatched.
    Jamie wants to keep them as pets! Kids !!!! Don't know really what to do?
    Heather said she wants me to kill them ! WHAT!@!! I ripped her a new one! Then she looked at me and said" you asshole - I was funning- kill anything and a baby at that! You need some time out " and flipped me the bird and stormed off.
    Well there goes getting laid tonight wow she was really pissed!!!
    Jamie jumped my shit too--" daddy your not gonna kill them " and started to cry ! How did I become the bad guy here ?
    Oh well !
    It's ok for women to be out of control and nasty BUT if you do it tsk, tsk
    Fuck that !:mad:
    Heather took Jamie and left went home and slammed the front door about 1 hour ago !
    Well you know what will be nice and peaceful tonight. Heather called on phone- to bad I wont answer and didnt and she called 3 times! She realizes I wont take shit and she probably realizes she acted like a asshole!"Good! Letting her stew it is good for the relationship !
     
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  13. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Women .... sigh :rolleyes: Hang in there!
     
  14. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Well today is 730 days without pmo. 2 years- no pornography, no masturbation, no orgasm ( w/o a woman) In the beginning I never imagined that I could get here.
    If I can do this any of you can. I am not a outstanding member of the male race. Just a regular guy that's it.
     
  15. Bobo

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    Was at home after work today and Heather and Jamie arrived. Jamie wanted to take care of pony. Ok. She went to barn to do chores.
    Heather asked if I was angry at her? No Heather. Forgiveness is one of the keys to long life. Besides that was yesterday this is today. Why do I want to carry what happened to today so I make it bigger? And each time I remember it ( the spat) it gets bigger! Dosent make much sense to me ? She just looked at me wide eyed. So I said "what you and Jamie wanna eat I am hungry, I bought some organic spinach, kale, avocados and Brazil nuts and we still have some of those bluegills I caught that I can poach if you guys liked them? I wanna cook you guys staying tonite to have dinner with me. You just want dinner ? She kissed me and said " why didn't you answer my phone calls?" Because I hate you! She said" you asshole that's why I love you! Hot tub later daddy ?":D
    I found out in life that non forgiveness hurts me not them ( the perpetrator )now that dosent mean I will let them do whatever again if I can help it but I forgive them.
     
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  16. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Hot tub was very erotic last nite. Heather was like you won't take any crap from not only women but anyone. You are mentally strong but compassionate at the same time. I have never met a man like you before. So is that good ?
    It was not always like this. There was a time when I thought I had to please no matter what. Ridding myself of pmo changed that its a classic symptom of nice guy syndrome. Of course when they would not respond in kind I felt abused. What's the definition of insanity?-- doing the same thing and expecting different results! Now life is the way it should be you care for self, your needs and wants matter come first and not that you don't care for others but they don't come first you do.
    When you adopt this attitude women are more attracted to you, its hormonal on their part.
     
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  17. Bobo

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    I deleted a couple of posts which I realized you guys wouldnt be interested in. I was thinking and when I do I write in my journal. Nothing really just day to day stuff.
     
  18. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    That is also how I read your posts. You're giving without expectations. That's awesome to read. How did you go from pleasing to this? Just by quitting porn? Maybe I should read some of your earlier posts.
     
  19. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    The giving up of porn changes a myriad of things. It is hard to believe the world porn puts us in. Almost everything is diatriametically opposed to reality and the true way of things. Yes, it is hard to believe but it is true. When you give up porn things change on a level you cannot cannot immediately understand. In my life things changed without any input by me. After a while I said " why did I believe this or that when that's not the way it is ?" And as that progressed I began to see how different people reacted to me especially women without as I said any input by me.
    Heather-- my relationship has evolved without as I said any input. I just go along caring about me, do I care about her and her feelings ?- yes I do but not at the expense of mine. That makes her care about me and makes her sexually attracted to ne and at times insanely sexually attracted. She has said to me that she never realized that she could be so free sexually without concern when she cared about a man. She never realized she could be this happy. I dont think this is just me, I think it applies to all of us if we give up porn. I keep growing and changing - what will tomorrow bring ?- who knows but it makes me smile .
     
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  20. Bobo

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    Jamie has piano lessons tonite that means her mom will be over and then we will be alone all alone for 2 hours.:D The ejaculation control on my part will make Heather insane. Then she will pick Jamie up come back to farm, Jamie will have snack go out to say goodnite to pony :rolleyes: and go to bed. Heather and I will go in hot tub soak and kiss and massage each other and then go to bed and sleep together in my bed. :):):) I recommend the Japanese hot rub without reservation for those of you interested.
     
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