About time

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Bobo, Oct 5, 2017.

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  1. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes, you have described EXACTLY the way of things. I look at things now and I am amazed that my libido like yours is is off the charts. Heather said to me that she realizes she never knew men what they are like it's very exciting for females makes them very sexual and feel womanly and loved. She said her mother said " you have a man baby girl and you once asked me why your dad when I was so young, now you see."What would I have been like as a 35 year old? Interesting, this wave is lasting much longer than the last. Yes, when I did P I had zero libido, I thought my sex life was over. Wonder why the change needs to happen?--- no matter how difficult it is?--- why it matters--- yup there it is folks.
     
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  2. Bobo

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    I have been thinking. If asked what the motivation for quitting P is the last posts on my journal by me and Saville should definitely answer the question. Thank you Saville for chiming in !
    Years ago this would have not been necessary but it is now. You must quit for your wife, your family and most importantly yourself ! What are you waiting for? Think P is ok or cool ?---think again it's the devils lair its bullshit its hell !
     
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  3. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    I would also say that the saying "progress, not perfection," is also bullshit. I've been thinking quite a lot about this. Each time we fail it takes longer to pull ourselves out. Each time we fail we carve the P trenches deeper into our brains.
     
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  4. Bobo

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    I think the last few posts identify the problem we face quite accurately. To what Saville said:

    I'd like to add another facet. The constant excuse of the reason for failure because it's not really our fault cause of this or that is also bullshit. It is our fault, we caused it, we put ourselves here, we did it because we weren't strong enough to resist or maybe didnt care. No one did it to us we did it! You're here because you let it happen ! Like Mr. Saville said "STOOPID!"
     
  5. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    If you want a healthy libido, a normal sex life you must overcome this pmo addiction. You're libido will come back, I will bet on that. You only overcome by everyday attention to detail.
    While I would not say I am finished I am on the way. Are we ever finished?--I don't know but this present state is a damm sure better one than before!
     
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  6. Bobo

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    Transfer to other office approved. Called Heather to tell her and she wanted to celebrate. Said ok and asked her what did she wanna do ? Haha! She said and I quote " fuck you to death and then go get some yummy pizza!":D Haha! I don't eat pizza but sounds good to me. Like I said gentlemen libido back as will yours!!!!! Believe me I still have days that I struggle but I will not give in.:mad::):)
     
  7. Bobo

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    Hahaha! When I got home Heather was there and attacked me to death !!!! Haha! Asked me if Jamie could go with us for pizza --- yup sure. Hugged and kissed me and said she will get me to marry her by fucking me to death and I'll say yes on my deathbed. :p Picked Jamie up and asked her folks if they liked to go for pizza, they said free ''like you buying?" Yup "ok then we go" " freeloaders!!!" Hahaha! :pJust ordered pizza at restaurant Heather leans over and whispers " you wanna go to roadtrek so I can suck you --- again?" Make excuse to go ! :p hahaha! Jamie is like so excited out on veranda at restaurant -- whats with that little girl ?---everybody went to bathrooms thats why I can text you guys. No date when I have to report to new office yet. No didn't go to roadtrek !:rolleyes::):D
     
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  8. Bobo

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    Dancing gig tonite at new club. Heather wasnt kidding about dress--- OMG--- WOW,! Its something to behold, backless, short just covers backside and skin tight and can't wear a bra( not that she needs too) can see nipples thru dress. She dressed at farm and I coulndt help but say let's stay home and make love. We wont of course duty calls. I think men at club will go nuts and women will be seriously jealous. But
    provocative dress is part of the dancing gig its how you make money.
     
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  9. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Gig was ok. Men panting over Heather. She deserves it a very sexual exciting woman. Heather home with Jamie that are moving some things to north to their new place. I have a lot if work on place here to sell. Haha! Heather just texted me a totally lewd and nude text! Hahaha! Whew got to keep mind on work. Struggling today pmo really on my case but I will prevail.
     
  10. Outsider.

    Outsider. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

    I thought that with that kind of sexual lioness and an amazing sex life PMO wouldn't be a problem for you anymore.... I must admit I'm quite shocked to read that you still struggle with it. But the good news is that it's a lesson for all of us: no matter our situation is, we do have to deal and manage this addiction.
    Thank you for sharing that and for your sincerity.
     
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  11. Bobo

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    Yes, 40 near 30 when I first came here said 90 days forget it look at 2 years more likely. Well he was correct. I have a sexual lioness and yes sex life is amazing but the addiction is very strong. Will it ever be over? Who knows I sure dont but it is better now for sure. Heather helps yes but even without her I will prevail. August will be 2 years without p or m. For those that think this will be easy you had better think again but you can do it YOU MUST DO IT!!!!!!
     
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  12. TriGuy60

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    It's never over. Once an addict, always an addict... A peak - a pmo and soon it's down the rabbit hole again that I'm sure... It's just easier when you get into the 'maintenance mode' of an addiction and the roller coaster of emotions level out. But, that's when vigilance is even more important... Congrats on the upcoming 2yrs...
     
  13. Bobo

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    Don't know if I agree"once a addict always." The longer away from p and m the easier however, you must always be vigilant and take nothing in this venue for granted. For me it was and is one day at a time one after another. You couldn't pay me to look at porn! Do I see myself as an addict?- no but the addict definitely resides. I see "the addict" as a venomous diabolic creature that does not have my interest at heart but has his and will destroy me to get his way! Ain't gonna happen!!!! Thank you for congrads
     
  14. Bobo

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    Heather and Jamie at house tonite. Heather brought some delicious veggies and fruit for dinner. Jamie wants to sleep in my bed Oops!' Heather and I will make love (maybe if it happens) elsewhere after we sneak out of bedroom--- kids!-- they are something else but ya gotta love them. We will probably go in hot tub on porch and drink wine and be sensual and loving. Damm still hungry gonna get some delicious papaya. Later ----work in am yuck !
     
  15. Outsider.

    Outsider. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

    This confirms me that one must work on his internal side. Waiting hopefully to get better external environment (better sex life, loving and supporting woman, good job etc) for sure helps, but one mustn't rely on and wait for that to heal and get better.
    Work on the internal to get a better external.
     
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  16. Bobo

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    There it is! You gave name to the most important thing that we all must do to achieve success. The external as you say is important but w/o the other you are in my opinion doomed to failure.

    Well got a message today to go to new office on Wed. Unfortunately powers that be want me to take it over, at least thats the suggestion they have made by mail. Will see done wanna take anything over. My boss is moaning because I am leaving so I said to him" I will send you a pix of Heather bending over with her legs open and no panties ! Hahaha! He put head on desk and groaned!:p Maybe I wanna see that too ! :p:rolleyes:Pain in the ass day at work.Wave gone this am libido non existent.:eek::rolleyes:o_O
     
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  17. Bobo

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    Gonna work on house tonite. Heather finished moving today. New job starts for her Wed. Jamie will stay with grandparents until school starts Aug 12 be with her mom weekend before etc. Heather spent this am registering her and buying school supplies and clothes for her. Heather stating up north so I said you and Jamie sleep at farm to get early start to your day her place won't be ready until pm. Wonder if I will get a really lewd text tonite when she's at farm ? :eek::DI usually do whenever I am not with her to make sure I dont forget her and her hot little body. Like I would ?:rolleyes:;)
     
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  18. TriGuy60

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    I totally get where you're coming from... The image of an 'addict'... Truly didn't mean it as any type of insult, and I don't believe you took it as such... I've tried to expand on what I meant a little more in my J as it gave me an idea for a rant... Ranting helps me:cool:...
     
  19. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    No didn't take as insult. Rant on dude!:D You will be successful your a " thinker " just dont think too much MR. TG 60 !
     
  20. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Hahaha! Yup totally lewd and I mean lewd text last nite and phone call. Had trouble sleeping she ( Heather) fired up libido! :eek:Heather dosent go to new job until Thurs but guess she wants to look around Wed. Very smart lady! New office in am, today libido " smoking "--- thx to Heather last nite! Went for lunch today-- must be careful-- woman I knew just about said-I want to fuck you ! That never happened when I was watching P! Later---
     

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