About time

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Bobo, Oct 5, 2017.

  1. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    We are at new club now ! Holy shit the T&A is indescribable ! Heather went " oh fuck!":eek: Met the owner and we talked and we gave a introductory dance after he did his speech and introduction. Think I may like this place the women are like candy!:p That is until I get bored. Be hard for me to "Heather top" besides its work and fun I love to dance. Will probably stay for a while then going home early unless Heather has other ideas what we should do as I am sure she does that's why she wanted me to bring roadtrek!;):)
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  2. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    I have been thinking today about my interaction here on this forum. While I get alot from the participation do I give? My relationship with Heather sexual and otherwise is not really any information that helps anyone. Where I live or how I go about this is more useless information, important for me but not as I see it for forum members. My dancing gives noone any positive help. I think I need to reevaluate my method of participation. The forum has been a godsent. My former habit ?---It dosent exist anymore and it would not be that way without the forum. I stopped porno viewing and masturbation more than 1 1/2 years ago. So if my story means anything it means anyone can do it because I am not special. Yes you must never get cocky and feel you are not challenged. I am just a regular guy that had no sex life just reverted back to poor choices. I have accomplished dropping the habit that I never thought possible before coming here and becoming a member. It's not only dropping the habit but reconstituting a sex life that is both satisfying and the way it should be " feminazis" withstanding! Fuck them anyway! Does having a relationship help?---yes most definitely. My relationship with Heather makes everything easier but I dont think I would go back to pmo without her. I read so many journals that have a underlying feeling of unspoken despair. Where I get the feeling that members are not sure they can do this. Thing is you must move, you must react, you must do things differently than you did before. Do I have all the answers?-- no for sure I dont. But I do know if you just talk a good story it will never happen for you. You are the master of your own destiny ----noone else my brothers
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  3. A New Man

    A New Man White Knuckle Brigade 2013

    I find reading about your exploits with Heather (while mildly triggering) is actually healthy for me and gives me something to aim for. Right now it feels like what you're able to accomplish with your partner is way out of my league, and i wonder if it is something I will ever be able to do again, but it gives me hope that i can recover more fully and eventually be less monk-like. And the fact you are a professional dancer and get your rocks off several times a week... makes me think maybe i should do martial arts, or something. You also contribute to the journals of other guys and always hit the nail on the head with your advice. By all means rethink your participation, but don't do it because you think you're somehow getting it wrong! This place is awesome because of the different experiences of the guys on here.

    Carry on brother!
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  4. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    I can only say that I enjoy reading and appreciate your updates and your contributions to the journals of others. It is highly valuable that people like you who succesfully beated porn addiction are still around.
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  5. Doofus

    Doofus Active Member

    Does it help you? If so, keep writing. I think that's the primary value of this forum.
  6. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    I was thinking of whether its helping other members. Wasn't thinking about myself in this case.
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  7. Doofus

    Doofus Active Member

    I know.

    Posting here is, in my view, a bit like making art (including dancing, hint hint). The artist can't possibly know the effect of their art once it's released into the world. It might change the course of cultural history. It might be that almost no one takes notice of it. It could be that many people take notice of it and hate it. Then, after 300 years, other people look at it and decide it's of unparalleled genius. It could be that none of that is true.

    We shouldn't make art, or post on fora like these, only because of its anticipated effect. We can't know that. It's an offering, sure, but, mostly an artist should produce art because that's what artists do.

    Keeping making art, @Bobo !
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  8. NCBob

    NCBob The 11th commandment: Thou shalt not peek:-)

    This is an 'artful' post, Doofus:)

    Great perspective as well!!!
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  9. Doofus

    Doofus Active Member

    You're very kind @NCBob .
  10. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Well this week is very busy. Closed on farm yesterday. Will probably be moving in July and or August. Had dancing gig last Sat. One more at that club this weekend that's it. Showed Heather farm yesterday. She went crazy literally jumping up and down! Love to watch those big tits bouncing !:DTold me she always wanted to raise chickens and goats Haha! Think I woulda got laid if we had bed! House is empty of course. Today light turned on etc. Am gonna change locks and a few other things. Haha! Alligator named Ralph (6 ft.) in pond! Guy living next to me is wildlife officer introduced myself and he will have Ralph removed and sent to safe habitat. Heather took job with judge. Starts August 1. She asked me if it was ok to bring ai
    r mattress out to house? Wonder what thats for ?:rolleyes: Stopped by new office and had interview and filled out form. Now will wait to see if transfer will work. Office is 3 miles from house, can walk or bike, how nice. Will know in about 6 weeks by time tallahassee gets off their ass. Heather not gonna take place to live wants to look at others. Took her to lunch today. She said to me if we met years ago she would have stayed pregnant and we would have like 5 kids! "I still want to get pregnant and have your baby! "Knew that shit would come up again! I asked her if she was sure about moving and leaving PB county. Apparently she is. New club next week for July and August. Going to see if there are any clubs that are interested up there.

    Energy is awesome. I seem to just be building and building. I have been backing off the sex this past week or so. I feel vital and beyond healthy. The small deficits that I have from the stroke years ago are disappearing. Tell me again Doctor how stroke deficits CANNOT be reversed! Admittedly mine were very very small but every time I back off the "drug pushers", oh excuse me DOCTORS I find another reason to not trust them.

    More things to do in am tomorrow then back to work on Thursday BAH HUMBUG!:mad:
    Thx for vote of confidence much appreciated. I am just a guy getting on with no pmo and whatever success I have had is partiality due to this forum and the men here.
    Hope all is well for all y'all.
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  11. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    "In the flesh we must be simple, humble and pure."

    St.Francis of Assisi.

    Awake. Since practicing ejaculation control and the new view of sex I dont seem to need as much sleep. The life energy and mental clarity is much much greater than ever before. It is hard to describe how I feel its as though I am the same and yet a different person. Calmness is an overall feeling and the idea that I can achieve anything is constant. Meditation is so easy now so flowing. Pmo seems so wasteful now BUT I am ever vigilant and aware that the addict never sleeps never gives up.
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  12. Outsider.

    Outsider. Turning Simple Disciplines Into Massive Success

    Waw, greeeeat improvement, it motivates me more than ever !
    Great job @Bobo ! :)
  13. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    " Where there is hatred let me sow love, where there is injury let me sow pardon. Where there is doubt let me sow faith."

    St Francis of Assisi

    Obviously Mr.G understands this ! " where there is doubt let me sow faith."

    It is a constant source of thought when I read the journals of other men and the knowledge they espouse and are willing to share!:)
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  14. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Today has been a very calm day. I have off Monday so a long weekend. How nice! Many memories of the men who are Patriots and never came home from Iraq. Perhaps for some its about hot dogs and cook outs but for me a time of rememberance filled with respect and love. Heather knows this about me and allows me to be me. One of the reasons I care about her. Speaking of Heather she drove up to the farm with Jamie and brought me a beautiful bougainvillea plant to plant by the front porch. I was working up there today. Jamie loves the place but it's the 3 outside cats I think. My rat and mouse patrol. 1 black, 1tan and orange, 1 grey and white. Very nice of Heather to drive up all that way. Neighbors are very friendly. Next door is Lydia and Joe ( wildlife officer). Other side I haven't met yet. I told Heather I need to bring up a bed and some linens for a shower. She just gave me a grin since Jamie was right there. Hmm wonder what that grin
    was for?:rolleyes: When I showed her the shed inside I grabbed her from behind by the boobs and I got a smoking hot kiss and we quickly recovered laughing as Jamie came running up! A nice day took them out for lunch later. I feel so privileged to have survived Iraq, have a good job, ditched pmo and to have Heather. I miss them my brothers that did not come home. I will never forget them. I will always remember till my dying day. RIP --- my brothers.
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  15. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    This applies to ourselves, as well. It is so difficult to get past the disappointment that is within us. I'm beginning to understand this now, I think. By extending out our own hand to ourselves we are doing an act of love. We don't have to "feel" love like we might for another person. Acknowledging that we are flawed, yet worthy, is enough in and of itself. We must pardon ourselves. And this how faith is sowed.

    How wonderful that you made it back and now honor your band of brothers by forging a better path in life.

    The farm sounds awesome!
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  16. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes thank you Saville. Today another calm day. Last gig at old club last nite. Will be back in season, club wanted to book us for season with a $ raise like 20%. I said yes, we signed after I asked Heather and she was like a kid with a free candy pass!

    We went home early went to my house to make love. Like 45 minutes steady before I let myself cum. Heather asked me if love making will always be like this? I said no will be longer like 2 or more hours maybe even more as I accrue energy ( chuckle-chuckle)! She was like wide eyed and said " omg baby !" I told her I thought women always wanted a long sex session, that's what I heard. She hid face under pillow and said " long yes but this is insane!" So you dont like it huh? She jumped me in the bed and guess what? Bj! :D Sex withstanding, I wonder how long this energy and life force amassing goes on does it ever stop ? And a very nice night and a very nice day today. Happy Memorial Day dudes!:) Monday cookout at house for Heather and Jamie and her folks. Peace how nice!
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  17. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    "Where there is darkness-- light, where there is sadness-- joy."

    St.Francis of Assisi
  18. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    This energy accumulation is very calming. Their are aspects that are not often discussed in Western literature but are talked about in Chinese translations in great detail. I looked for a long while for a Chinese translation and finally found one that is over 150 years old, the originals are 4000 years old called " Pillow Books." Amazing that I didn't pay thru the nose for it. Reason being Western book dealers dont see it as being interesting enough to people except for sex and requires work even for that. Even the "new age group" is much too lazy because it requires that you read carefully. The acquisition of calmness and peace is covered in great detail with exercises. It is seen in ancient Chinese conscience as paramount and equally as important as sex and increasing life force. The exercises are simple yet profound. I had the book for a long time bought it at a garage sale years ago just because I was looking for it. Paid like $ 5. I started to read it when I became interested in energy accumulation because of the "Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy". I feel very fortunate to have it. Western translations are not complete and do not adhere to the Chinese versions. Soon to walk on water! Haha!:p.

    I now see sex as a part of a healthy and pleasing life but not a overpowering urge or a singular pursuit.:)
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  19. Saville

    Saville Well-Known Member

    It's amazing how we tolerated/justified/rationalize being sex-starved so long. Even so-so sex with one's partner is light years better than masturbating to one's PMO fantasy.
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  20. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member


    Yes, amazing isnt it ? We didn't even recognize that was the way it was as you say! I wish I could inject that concept as a cure in every arm of every person that suffers from the same affliction we do!
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