Well,where do I start..? I AM 57 YRS OLD AND HAD A 23 YRS SEX LESS MARRIAGE AFTER the kid's were born. Was married for 30 yrs.The wife was super sexual until the last of 3 kids were born,, then it was like you threw a light switch off. At first I didn't understand it.. she was simply not interested.So naturally I thought it was me or she had another guy.She said no she still thought I was attractive, loved me and wasn't having an affair.Wtf..finally went to a gyno that was her and my friend AND SHE SAID HORMONES WERE FINE.She called me that night and said take her to a psych you have a mental problem on your hands.Wasn't supposed to call me but was thankful she did.Off to psych we go, took some doing it did.After a few visits he calls me and says " some women see sex as for procreation and when that's done they want nothing to do with it, your wife suffers from this."Wtf is there any treatment he says to me NO. At first I was really angry then Realized she didn't want to be that way, so I figured divorce since I did not want a sex less life with her. Then the perfect trap, I looked at my 3 kids who were still babies and I just couldn't destroy their world with divorce.So for the next 23 years I destroyed ME. Fantasy and MO, hs porn last few years. Addicts always destroy themselves so here I am severely damaged , have ed and I did it to myself, no one else to blame. She passed a few years ago and kids are are grown and gone, have thei r own families. Time for me ya Think? Inspired by so much I read in other journals. Rebooting and living the flatline hell we will see at least I am in good company.