A week into reboot

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Teddyjam4me, Aug 21, 2019.

  1. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    Im 43 years old and was first exposed to porn at 6. First started mo at 15 imagination. From 23 onward mo with or without porn has been a daily thing. I rationalized watching porn and getting off was a great way to avoid unwanted pregnancies while meeting the need for variety. Also, my diet has been poor and haven’t been too stable financially with employment. Starting at age 25 I noticed my erections during sex weren’t as good but chalked it up to age,stress, etc. Every time the going soft thing happened I avoided sex and found my refuge in porn. There I projected myself being the guys making the women feel good even though in real life it was anything but. However, over the years I’ve been laughed at about the condition I created. I’m married and sex is non existent for other reasons as she has issues that need addressing. Over the years I’ve looked into reasons for ED which have included clogged arteries. Just came to realize that porn creates another neuropathway in brain for reward/passing on genes. .I’m done with porn for good and ready to chronical my journey.


    Day 7-

    Woke up with boner but had to pee. Idk if that’s good but anything is progress at this point. Feeling a little heavy in nether region. This journey feels like it will take forever to fix and or it won’t work. Others have gone before me and if they can do it so can I. I noticed my voice getting a bit deeper as well yesterday too.
     
  2. GreyHeron

    GreyHeron Active Member

    Welcome TeddyJam, many people take several restarts to get going. You really do have to want it to get it first time. I have met a guy who portrays a very hard image because he came in and did not have to reboot again, he was difficult to talk to. It will take forever and as you said others have a positive story to tell which gives hope to those of us who follow.

    Soar Well, and I hope that we shall meet again where we alight in time.

    Grey Heron
     
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  3. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    Grey,

    Thanks man it’s said the brain is malleable and after 27 yrs of mo I’ll find out how true this is.
     
  4. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Welcome aboard. Read journals there are many men here who can help. If you can read read read! Ask questions noone judges you here! Again welcome aboard. I had a sexless 25 year marriage and I fantasized the whole time. Next week for me will be 2 years w/ o pmo. Your brain can recover maybe it will take time but the end result you will be very pleased with.
     
  5. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    Bobo,

    Did you have a problem with Ed? If so with no pmo what is your experience?
     
  6. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Yes I had ED! With no pmo it went away. When I was using pmo the Ed was so bad I coulndt get hard no matter what I did. It went away not all at once but gradually even before the pmo. This is not easy as someone else once said if it was everybody would do it. But you can do it.
     
  7. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    Bobo,

    Thanks for the reply. To clarify my thinking the Ed went away before the no pmo? How did you do that?
     
  8. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    It will be 2 weeks come Wednesday of this week and it feels good. However, it feels like I’ll never ever satisfy a woman sexually based upon my past. I realize now that porn gave me the false sense that I could. This really really seems impossible.
     
  9. Bobo

    Bobo Well-Known Member

    Ed goes away as you abstain from pmo. ED is caused by your brain getting used to your hand not a vagina. As you get away from pmo so you start to heal.
     
  10. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    Thanks Bono man. I appreciate you responding. Wow all that time spent master bating to porn only to know it is what embarrassed me during sex.
     
  11. Teddyjam4me

    Teddyjam4me New Member

    It’s going on 3 weeks this coming Tuesday. Can you rub naked girls while rebooting?
     
  12. A New Man

    A New Man White Knuckle Brigade 2013

    Any contact with real women is called rewiring and it is recommended. The thing is... sex is often followed by a "chaser" effect which means your brain demands more dopamine afterwards, you get urges to pmo for a couple of days. But yeah, intimacy with a partner is great.
     

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