A Porn-Free July 2020

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by YourBrainRebalanced, Jun 30, 2020.

  1. YourBrainRebalanced

    YourBrainRebalanced Administrator Staff Member

    Who is going to be porn-free this month?
    • Why do you want to be porn-free this month?
    • What has worked well for you in the past - and what hasn't been working? What is something that you can change this month to improve your recovery?
     
  2. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    I'm in !

    Why do you want to be porn-free this month?

    I prefer how I feel when I'm porn free then when I am actively engaged in my addiction.

    I also think I have better chances of meeting women IRL if I stay off porn.

    What has worked well for you in the past - and what hasn't been working? What is something that you can change this month to improve your recovery?

    What helps : Discipline helps me stay on track. Keeping high dopamine activities low.

    What I'm not good at : Processing perceived failure with women or in social settings. Dealing with set backs is hard for me. Loosing hope.
     
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  3. Throwaway Handle

    Throwaway Handle New Member

    General question - Do you guys think it's all right to admire and think about women you see in real life? I'm on day 6 and my brain is starting to focus more on women i see day to day but I'm not sure if that could lead to a relapse. Should I just stop thinking about sex altogether for a while?
     
  4. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Me too!

    • Why do you want to be porn-free this month?
    I want to have my life in my own hands and be the person I choose to be

    • What has worked well for you in the past - and what hasn't been working? What is something that you can change this month to improve your recovery?
    I have to keep my stress levels low and take action when they rise. This month I want to be more mindful: recognize when I get distracted by thoughts or emotions and bring my self back to the present moment.
     
  5. Gil79

    Gil79 Seize the day

    Although less intense than watching porn, sexual fantasies are also a visual stimulation of your brains reward center and get the dopamine flowing. It will get you aroused and lead to stronger urges. I think that at least it is good to be aware of the nature of your thoughts and fantasies and be aware of the reason why.
     
  6. Gui

    Gui New Member

     
  7. Gui

    Gui New Member

    Yes man, def stop checking those girls out.
     
  8. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Well-Known Member

    When I went to rehab for porn addiction back in 2015, one of the therapists there put this question in perspective, because I think it's one that we all wonder about. Being porn-free doesn't mean turning off your sexuality, but you also don't want to go down the slippery slope. He gave me some perspective that has helped ever since. He said, "The human mind will think whatever it wants for three seconds and you can't control it. When you're cut-off in traffic, you want to kill the other driver. When you walk into a restaurant and you're starving, you want to grab somebody else's food. These are reflexes and fighting them is pointless...but you also don't act on them. If you see a pretty girl on the street, your mind is going to think 'Hey, there's a pretty girl' and that's fine... but once you get past those three seconds, you're making the choice to continue to stare at her and have those thoughts."
     
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  9. Gui

    Gui New Member

    Awesome man!!!
     
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  10. Stubborn

    Stubborn Member

    I would add my perspective in agreement with those that are piling up here! Definitely try to stay disciplined about what's happening in your mind and not just what's happening on your computer screen! I started rebooting on June 1st so, like you, I'm quite new here. I relapsed after 26 days as a result of not keeping my fantasies and nostalgia in check! The triggers were purely psychological! It's taken five weeks for my brain to quiet down a little and I still have a ways to go but it does get a little easier to control the fantasies. I really like that 3 second principal put forth by @Joshua Shea! I'll definitely be bearing that in mind myself!
     
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