A New Perspective

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Shady, May 18, 2020.

  1. BoughtWithBlood

    BoughtWithBlood Active Member

    Man you are doing great! 23 days sober, that’s something I haven’t been able to do in a long while. Hold on a bit longer and things will get better! You can do it!
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  2. Eternity

    Eternity Patience

    Willpower will eventually deplete, so it's indeed a good idea to find something to do. Cooking to ease the hunger?
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  3. Shady

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  4. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    Day 25:
    So I broke my record. I thought I'd be happy, but I feel just like I did the last few days.
    I feel like shit.
    I feel tired, I have insomnia, nothing makes me happy anymore and I'm depressed.

    Remind me again why I'm doing this?
    Will it ever get any better?

    I'm in uncharted territory here, at least for me.
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  5. Doper

    Doper Well-Known Member

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  6. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    Yes, it will get better. Nobody can say how long it will take, that's different for everybody, but there's always hope.

    Take it day by day now. You got through another day, that's great. Tomorrow will be a new day. When it gets hard and painful I always found it helpful not to look further than the current day.

    Maybe try some breathing exercises and relaxation techniques. They won't make the withdrawal symptoms go away, but they can make it a little easier.
  7. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    @Doper @-Luke- thanks for the helpful replies.
    You know having others around me who've been through what I've been through really helps.
    I'm really grateful for you guys being here.
    There are some things that RL friends and family can't help you with.
    So again thank you.

    We're all in this together.
  8. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    Day 27
    Still not feeling good and no sleep.
    Haven't gone for a run/jog in a few days which is making me feel worse.
    I feel I've had a really strong appetite the past two weeks and I'm gaining weight. I hate this. It took me years to reach my ideal weight.

    On the plus side the urges, I have to say, are more controllable now.
    I'm mean they're still there all the time but they have become weaker somehow.
  9. Clovis6

    Clovis6 Well-Known Member

    Hi Shady,

    Although you’re not feeling good at the moment, remember that the reason you feel that way is because your mind/body is starting to go through some major changes on the road to feeling a whole lot better in the future. So all the bad stuff can be regarded as a positive sign that you are changing. That’s how I try and look at it, hope it helps.

    Hang in there!
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  10. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    I second that. Often it gets worse before it gets better. We need to see that as a sign of healing.

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  11. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    I guess you're right.
    The darkest hour is just before the dawn.
  12. Living

    Living Well-Known Member

    Hang in there. And do try to go for a run if you have any time. To me running has been one of the best tools towards feeling better in life.
  13. Eternity

    Eternity Patience

    It doesn't even have to be running, any kind of exercise helps. Walking for an hour+ is one of my favourite alternative exercise methods. Are you still considering a bike?
  14. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    Today I had some strong urges because I feel bad about my weight gain after it took me three years to lose it. But then I still feel hungry all the time.
    Quarantine makes me want to eat more and before quarantine I was out all the time and moving around all the time which helped me get rid of any extra calories, but now I have to stay at home most of the time.

    @Living yeah but I'm tired all the time now.

    @Eternity yeah sometimes I do walking. It depends.
    Yes I'm still considering a bike and I have been for years but I can't afford it right now. I hope I can soon.
    I have a friend who keeps asking me when I'm buying a bike because he has one and wants some company and I'd like that, but I can't right now.
  15. Living

    Living Well-Known Member

    I get that and I'm not gonna say you should do that. But (yeah, there is always a but:)) my experience is that while running takes energy in the sense of burning calories and makes you physically tired, mentally it gives me a big boost of energy. So especially when I feel like I can't accomplish a whole lot getting outside and doing a run makes me feel a whole lot better. I do agree with @Eternity btw that walks can be a great alternative.
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  16. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    You're right. I agree. It's so easy making excuse and yes running gives me more energy both physically and mentally.
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  17. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    Last night was so difficult. Urges were so strong and it was so itchy.
    I had to keep my phone and laptop outside my room to avoid relapsing because willpower was not so reliable then.
    I'm glad the night passed without any relapses but I fear for what's coming.
    30 days. Is that how it feels...
  18. Shady

    Shady Active Member

    Just lost my uncle to Coronavirus.
    I feel so sad and angry right now.
    It's not the first time I had someone close pass away but I've always had porn as an escape. Right now it's unbearable.
    I barely escaped relapse more than once today. It's just so difficult.
  19. Thelongwayhome27

    Thelongwayhome27 Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry for your loss Shady. Try your best to hang on, a PMO relapse will only make you feel worst. Maybe try some other distractions if you need comforting such as cooking yourself (even some comfort food) something good or going for a long walk or watching a movie that makes you feel well. Sometimes going for a "softer" vice can help when really necessary. Such as comfort food or video games or whatever. I hope you feel better soon.
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  20. -Luke-

    -Luke- Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry to hear about your uncle, Shady. That's a tough moment.

    Try to give your grive some room without numbing it with porn. Maybe leave the house and go for a walk.
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