so update with tennis client girl. I reached back out to her about getting together, expecting the worst..I got.."hey sorry wasnt into our initial conversation..da di da..but good luck. I responded back along the lines of sorry I would have loved to take you out but respect your decision. I planned on never hearing from her again. Well she shocked my by responding a few hours later thank you..why dont we try being friends..maybe play tennis sometime. I loved how easygoing it was and like the idea of an easygoing date. I've been on a much of online dates now where we meet for a drink and its been hell. I hate to say it but all the online dating coaches are just terrible. Its all about flow..not this waiting to respond back stuff and so many other "strategies." Geez every situation is different..if anything, I've learned two things: 1) The take it or leave it attitude is gold. You cant need them..no attachment. 2) you cant control them..they either like you or they dont, to an extent. just be you.