The only way to get going is to get going. If we desire change then we must do an action. I've read dozens of self-help books all in an effort to unlock the inner me, to create energy in myself so that I could change my life. I have enjoyed many of the books, but at the end of the day none of them helped me. Why? Because, there was no action to go along with it. Talking about self-love and changing our perception of ourselves is just that, talk. What I see on this site, and what I have experienced myself, is that stopping P and MO generates positive momentum. I know I damaged my thinking by being an addict. I know that thinking myself better won't work. I looked for years for something that would help me. Books, religion, meditation, none of this can create momentum. Momentum is generated by effort, just like pedaling a bicycle. In my journal I wrote that staying off of P and MO is not resisitve so much as active. I'm actively not PMO'ing. In other words I am engaged in the process of my own health. Titan, you are not the passive person that you think. You're just stuck. You have no momentum. Stopping P and MO is an action. I don't think beyond that anymore. If today we don't edge, watch P, or MO, then we have taken an action. The journey is a long one, but it doesn't take long before we see our passive, wasted, lives in the rear view mirror. I'm you, and you are me. Together we can do this!