I still feel like that, JohnQ. I see the beauty of a woman, but it doesn't get me jazzed. Again, I think this is normal. As we get older it is more of an emotional bond that we crave and less about the physical; at least I find that to be true. Addicts fight low-level depression and so this also factors in to how we feel. There's no quick fix. Keep taking care of yourself and do those things which give you satisfaction. Stop avoiding your wife! We need intimacy and this is crucial to rebooting our sexuality.