A group of 8 men [GROUP]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by cadcard, Aug 23, 2012.

  1. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

  2. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: 9/19: Day 9 start

    Amen on both counts! 8)
     
  3. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    9/19: Day 14

    Shoot, maybe time to do a longer challenge...

    Doing pretty well. Had a couple frustrations over last few days. Think I'm gettin over the financial fears for the moment. Remain grateful to be able to get the insides out here where others are also doing the same. Very encouraging to see others who've been there and gotten through it. Recovery is frustrating but sure beats the alternative. So nice to be able to calm down and get others involved to solve or mediate a problem instead of running away and leaving it festering in addition to the shame of running away in the first place.

    Journal: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2665.msg44660#msg44660

    Trying to enjoy today for what it is and not crybaby because it's not what I want it to be.
     
  4. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: 9/19: Day 14

    You're doing great man! 14 days is a significant accomplishment - especially since the absolute worst days are probably behind you now. (As you know - that DOES NOT mean you can let your guard down, however!) ;)

    On the financial stuff? It will sort itself out over time. In my experience, it always does. It can just seem terrifying when you're sitting in the middle of it. But the fact is - you have an endless capability to create wealth in your life...if that's what you want. We all do. It's just the stories we tell ourselves that get in the way. My experience has been that when I focus first on doing what I'm passionate about and put my heart into it, wealth just shows up on its own. And that's not JUST the financial kind, I'm talkin' about either! ;)

    Crybaby? No way man. It's not who you ARE.

    Yeah, recovery can certainly be a struggle sometimes - but there really is no other way to get to the other side. And once you get there, it's hard to fathom ever going back to the way things were. I still have those days where I'm tested from time to time. I think I'm starting to appreciate them as opportunities to see what I have yet to learn...

    I'm on this thing for the long haul. You with me bro?
     
  5. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    9/19: Day 21

    Getting back up on the beam. Definitely handling life a little better than three weeks ago. (Guess I had to reboot twice like with Windows XP :) ).

    Journal entry: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2665.msg46709#msg46709


    Thanks dude. Appreciate the caution reminder and all your input! Was a real eye opener when I had to reset again 14 or so days after my relapse, due to looking for "non-porn" porn.

    Appreciate the job thoughts a lot, especially the one on following your passion. I guess I'm willing to do those things for free, so would be great to get paid for it too :) . Need to take my manly man motivation and start trying some doors...

    Very much appreciate the look in from outside. Those damn shame baggage feelings we carry seem so real sometimes!! :eek: I definitely am not a Crybaby, I am a Doer & a Get'er Done'er. A counselor once gave me a picture, hmmm, have to scan it in if can find it. It's of a mature lion looking into a mirror and seeing a small scrawny kitty and wondering how he can ever change into a mature lion... ::) :p :) If you ever quit your day job, you could definitely succeed as a mirror. You'd make a good one!!

    Whadda you mean "You with me?"!! Heck, I'm helping carry your baggage!! :) :) Can't Go Back!! 8)
     
  6. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: A group of 8 men

    LOL! That's what I'm talkin about CGB.
    Love it! :D
     
  7. HelpMeQuit

    HelpMeQuit New Member

    Re: A group of 8 men

    The title of this thread was sort of a trigger for me.
     
  8. fedup

    fedup New Member

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Any possibility of joining group?
    I'm 42, married, children, recently lost my dad to pancreatic cancer... and in need of daily support. I'm at day 6 now. Had about 30 under my belt prior to a month-or-so stumble as my dads health was failing.
    Thank you
     
  9. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Come on in man (that's my vote, anyway)!
    I'm sorry to hear about your dad mate. Dealing with something that painful would probably be a big trigger for me to find some way of self-medicating too...

    The door is open, as far as I'm concerned. :)
     
  10. fedup

    fedup New Member

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Thank you, JDoe.
    Day 7 and feeling good. Anxiety is waning.
    Spent some quality time in a sqaut rack, under a bar. So nice not feeling whipped even before taking on squats.
     
  11. fedup

    fedup New Member

    Re: A group of 8 men

    DAY 9
    My ressolve is strong and clearly see the need to distance myself from the mire of this crap.
    ... STAY STRONG TEAM!
     
  12. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Same by me. Yeah it always amazes me that the forum age poll shows 75% of the members are in their 20's or younger. At least they're starting to tackle it at an earlier age... We older farts have to stick together.

    Sorry about your loss. My dad's got dementia so I've pretty much let him go already, but it's still gonna hurt when he goes. Losing a parent's a big stressor.

    Some of us are doing the journal thing and posting a link here every so often. I've been crazy busy lately, but trying to keep up with my journal and reviewing other's. Like your motto. Victory over the images is not child's play!

    Welcome aboard!
     
  13. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

  14. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    For the Marrieds in the group..

    Know not everyone's into country, but I love this tune every time I come across it. Phil talks about the little things that interrupt your plans because of the marriage, but that's just part of the whole that can be paradise when you give up the SELF...


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QR4Y6Ll0DwA&feature=player_embedded
     
  15. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

  16. cadcard

    cadcard Guest

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Good to see that men here are doing well and this thread is still helpful.

    OK, I'm back on the wagon. I'm setting my sights for 14 days of no PMO. I've given up both drinking and smoking in the past. Both were tough, especially smoking. Giving up PMO though takes it to the next level. The reason why I'm choosing 14 days is because this was the period of time when I quit smoking, where the cravings started to subside.

    I've decided to stay off the internet as much as possible, and read books instead. I hope that this will help.

    This is a bitch, my health is slowly going downhill because of the PMO.
     
  17. cadcard

    cadcard Guest

    Re: A group of 8 men

    I had a leg WO this morning. I was SO weak today. I directly attribute it to PMO messing up my sleep cycle.
     
  18. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Good to see you again cadcard - glad you're back! :)
     
  19. cadcard

    cadcard Guest

    Re: A group of 8 men

    So today is the start of day 4. I've come to realize talking with my doctor, that most of my health problems are due to PMO.

    Here is a question that a guy wrote about over doing MO, and the medical reasoning as to why he is experiencing the symptoms he's feeling: http://www.slideshare.net/FilipinoAko/excessive-masturbation-trigger-sexual-exhaustion-symptoms . So much of this is what I'm experiencing, especially the impact to my adrenal gland function. This is number one reason why I NEED and want to quit.

    Reason number two why I want to quit is, I want to pursue the virtues of being more gentlemanlike. I've started to read this book: http://www.amazon.com/The-American-Gentleman-Contemporary-Chivalry/dp/0759673659/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1350730655&sr=8-1&keywords=the+american+gentleman#_ and find it very appealing. I consider myself to naturally fit some of the ideals of this book, but viewing pornography and partaking in MO, is not gentlemanly in my view.

    I've had numerous urges to view porn in the last few days but have been able to combat them. I have to keep the above two thoughts clearly in my mind, maybe I'll be more successful this time.
     
  20. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    Re: A group of 8 men

    cadcard, glad to see you're still onboard, man! Glad for ya about your new resolve because of the health issues. Maybe it'll be your gutter experience.

    Man, beating the porn thing isn't for sissies.. I've had a hell of a lot of experience and should know better, but I'm having to re-work my resolve. Had to reset my P-counter like two days ago (but not MO count). Appreciate your post. Helps me work on my stuff.
     

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