A group of 8 men [GROUP]

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by cadcard, Aug 23, 2012.

  1. herecticx

    herecticx New Member

    Re: A group of 8 men

    same for me. I think i will do another 14 day challenge after this round.
     
  2. cadcard

    cadcard Guest

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    Just an update on my situation as i don't want to get too disconnected from this group. I'm floundering in my resistance to PMO. I'm not getting down on myself.

    I'm not going to put all efforts into recovery until I can speak with my doctor the first week of October. I think he'll be able to give me some good insite on my situation. I've been reading about wellbutrin and addiction. This may be something I'll need until I get some time away from PMO.
     
  3. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

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    Glad to hear you're hanging in there cadcard. Don't want to miss your posts. Lookin forward to benefiting from your insights as you're workin on your recovery! The addiction's a bitch, but I've seen too many guys helped when they can just keep connected/working on it. Know getting online can be a two edged sword. Hope you can find a solution that works for ya.
     
  4. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

  5. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

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    Beautiful mate! I'll take that over a PMO session any day...
    Keep living the real life. Drink every last drop of it.
    It's out there waiting for you...
     
  6. cadcard

    cadcard Guest

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    I'm glad to see guys are still doing well here and that this thread is still active.

    I'm still floundering with a day here and there clean. I'm not going to put pressure on my self right now in quitting, until I speak to my doctor. If nothing else, I'll have formally told a person face to face about my problem with porn. Who better than a trained professional.

    Here's a link to my doctors forum. Some may find info here helpful with their problems: http://www.definitivemind.com/forums/
     
  7. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Hey, big step there opening up to your doc! Lots of courage. Maybe small dick, but big balls! ;) Gotta say it again about the floundering... Been there over n over n over, but kept coming back to recovery. Eventually got 7 years (one day at a time). Bring the body and the brain chemistry will follow. Rootin for ya!

    Gonna say this because I saw one of your posts about cursing the day you first saw porn. Been there, done that too. I do hate it that I've lost so much of my life to it, but as honestly as I can be, I tell you that I have come to be grateful for the addiction. I am twice the man I would have been otherwise. The hard work I needed to put in to survive made me a better man and a real man. For me, it forced me to have a real connection with my God and others rather than a 2D one. I would rather die than not have this connection. I see a grateful heart down your road, tho maybe around a few bends...
     
  8. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

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    Yahhooo! 8) made my 14 days (assuming I can say I stayed clean tonite :eek: ) Think I gotta little motivation tho! Am starting a new 14 day challenge tomorrow (with herecticx I think. I've been a little bent out of shape by an internet issue and paying less attn to the posts the last few days.)

    Had a problem with forum account last few days. Workin with admin (TheUnderDog) to create new profile and get back at it. Been resisting posts till the move's done so either he or I have less work to do and less links to crap up. Should still have same new screen name when all the dust settles, but with a different topic #. Will post about it after it's fixed. See you guys on the other side....

    Also been tryin to read everyone's journals and posts a little but got lots of work to do there...
     
  9. herecticx

    herecticx New Member

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    delterererew
     
  10. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

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    Nice going guys! I think those first 14 days are the hardest time. The next 14 will be even easier for you. By the time you hit your third run...it will probably be almost effortless.
    I'm on day 35 right now. No really strong cravings are happening anymore, and amazing things are already shifting in my life. Feeling like a new man!
    Keep on keepin on! :D
     
  11. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Survived the night. This is Day 1 of the new 14. Remain so grateful for the first 14 challenge and also this second. Glad to have you as a running mate herecticx. Really committed to staying off sort-of-porn and porn. Haven't had compulsions to surf for a high. Think just finding the forum itself has really been a bigger boost to my outlook. Going from not really being able to spill my guts to anyone, to having a group if not forum I can bring things out in, really has raised my confidence, hope, renewed motivation. Well, guess not binging for two weeks, may also have helped a little... ::)

    Had a nice experience yesterday. Chatted with a cute female checkout at the coffee shop, then on the way out, noticed a smartly pretty gal walking to her car and thought "wow, she's great lookin; love to be with her!" Hasn't happened to me for many months. Welcome sign, particularly with the ssa issues.

    Put testical massage and sleeping nude on hold for a week. Partly to give it a rest, partly because I think I've been looking forward to them too much. Don't need em to feel good.
     
  12. herecticx

    herecticx New Member

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    So havent heard from you guys for awhile

    how is everyone going :)
     
  13. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    Had to reset

    Yeah, been kinda quiet. How're you doing herectix. (this is the re-named OldCgb, TTLL, etc...) Pullin for everyone, hope you're all doing great!

    Sorry I dropped the ball. I had to reset yesterday because I barged into a site that gave me a porn kick. Otherwise going strong and re-committed to no P. On day 1 of 14. Not downing myself. So glad for the chance to back away from this even if I'm backing away slowly... If anyone ever catches me saying "yeah, this is pretty easy" about anything here, report me to the moderator for flogging, would ya? :p . Or maybe they could just cut short one of my typing fingers... :D . Have to admit I wanted to skirt around resetting, but re-read the #1 Honesty rule. Very helpful....

    Journal entry: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2665.msg41155#msg41155

    Was holding off from posting till the changeover to my new userID is done. Thought my nephew saw my screen name and realized if he did he could google it and see all my posts. :eek: Had a couple days of fear management, then calmed down and contacted TheUnderDog. My original screen name still shows in Google, but the link is broken, so I can breathe easier. I renamed my hopefully final screen name to Can't Go Back.)
     
  14. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Hey guys. Good to see everyone here again. I've been following most of you in your journals etc. anyway, so just because we haven't been doing much in this particular thread...I still see most of ya on a regular basis.

    For me, today is my Day 40 totally PM free (only O's have been with the wife). Things are so much better now in all departments, it's hard to believe. ED is totally gone (erections are basically effortless and easy to obtain/maintain now). Anxiety about 90% gone. PE vastly improved... but I'd still like to go a bit longer. This last one is certainly improving all the time, and since last night's "Karezza-lite" experiment with my wife I can definitely see a good healing way forward in lasting longer before I orgasm.

    So, it's all going very well in my world. And I absolutely will not stop counting days until I get to 100. By then, I fully expect to have no need for counting days anymore - as I never plan to get back into PMO again.
     
  15. herecticx

    herecticx New Member

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    delte312312312
     
  16. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

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    Starting day 2 of my new rebound. Peaceful day yesterday. Glad to have reset.
    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2665.msg41345#msg41345


    JD, was looking at your journal earlier and came across your recent experiment entries. ... Caught my attention & thought about replying then. Off & on over the years, I've thought that this is how I'd like sex to be if I got married. Taking the time to enjoy being sexually connected with or without orgasm. Didn't know there was a name for it :) . Made sense to me partly because I love the closeness and figured we'd just enjoy being together, and not O'ing would let it go on longer. also, the times I've binged in recovery it was always an attempt to get the longest arousal period without O'ing, so guess I've learned to like spending more time rather than a quick bing, bang, boom.

    Looking forward to your experiment reports! You know, some of my first interests in porn were to "learn something for marriage". Hah, what a laugh and lie. But all this other stuff about recovery and delaying gratification, real connection, etc. This is better than porn 8) . Can't Go Back.

    HX, Great to hear dude. Glad you recognized the need to slow down a little. How do you schedule yr weight training around the job? To or From work?
     
  17. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

    9/19: Day 4

    Back on the beam. Noticed my penis getting aroused over non-sexual issues off & on over the last few days. Suppose this is related to having relapsed and reset recently. Have to take a look at the YBOP site again. (My brain is a seive trying to remember this stuff.)

    Journal entry: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=2665.msg42066#msg42066
     
  18. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

  19. JDoe

    JDoe No amount of pixels is ever gonna love you back...

    Re: A group of 8 men

    Still here guys - day 45 (holy shit!). Feeling horny as hell today...but I have no intentions of sorting that out with anything artificial; wife only! ;D
    And I honestly wouldn't have it any other way.
     
  20. JustDoIt

    JustDoIt Never give up, Never give up!, NEVER GIVE UP!

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    Thanks for proving it's possible to get over 14 days!! IS ENCOURAGING.

    And dude, just remember, Lorena Bobbitt found a creative way to help her husband deal with his sexual issues. Keep keepin your dynamite woman happy and don't give her a reason to help you deal with your sexual issues... 8)
     

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