Most of the men here have spent their lives giving too much to others. We never learned to feel healthy detachment. In other words, we are too enmeshed in our families. As long as we fret/concentrate/help our families then we are off the hook in terms of taking care of our own needs. Your son is fine. Baby birds get kicked out of the nest and the parents let them be. Reminding you that you are numero uno. Your journey is the important one. You've obviously done a great job raising your son. Kudos for that. Also, I wrote on my journal that we don't have to "tell" our wives everything. Upon rereading I realized that it could seem like an indictment of you, which it wasn't. I just wanted to apologize, my friend, if I came across harshly.