I'm 41. I think I have some PIED. I seem to have many symptoms however at the same time many symptoms don't fit me. I do believe I have a problem, I'm a porn addict and a sex addict. I have abused some sort porn and masturbation since I was 12 or 13. I often get morning wood, and sometimes it last for a long time, I've never had a loss of sex drive, just not always able to perform. My problem is when it comes to performing. I often have trouble getting hard, and when I can I have a difficult time keeping it hard. I'm sick of going soft while getting oral or having intercourse, and having a high desire for it, before, during, and after. Problems started happening about 4-5 years ago. At first I just thought it was job related stressed. Then I thought it was health. Job stress never changed much, but I'm working on making a change. I turned my health around 180, I'm no longer overweight and at risk for many health problems. I'm more athletic than I've ever been in my life. I've even gotten competitive and entered a few events. When I first started having sex in my early 20's I had a problem with DE. I thought it was just too much MO, porn was pretty limited at the time, mostly low resolution pictures or poor quality videos. It took a while, I did ease up on the MO. In my college years I was probably MO 2x a day, once in the morning before going to school, and once before bed. I didn't have any issue connecting with people. Lots of friends of both sexes. After marriage my ex suggested I use porn, so I can leave her alone some of the time. I was wanting more than she wanted to give. Also it allowed for me to indulge in my kinks. My kinks seem pretty tame compared to what I read about. The biggest thrill was the number of people I could find who wanted to show me their bodies or parts of their body. I traveled a lot. I also MO to pictures of my ex, (wife at the time) So the whole time I was very attracted to her, and even when I fantasized it was often her acting out what I found. I often used the porn to get new ideas for things for us to do.... At the time I didn't think anything negative of it. The whole time I never had a problem connecting with people. I even often flirted with other girls. I feel many times I could have even had sex with some of them. They appeared to be looking for it. I never followed through, I felt that was crossing the line. I also have a huge fear of STD's and that may have been a strong helping factor. My sex drive has always been high. The more I learn the more I realize the problems I have. I've never preferred porn to real sex. I was constantly thinking about sex and objectifying women. I did briefly quit porn and masturbation when I first discovered yourbrainonporn about a year ago shortly after my divorce for a relationship that lasted nearly 2 decades finalized. I started thinking about divorce about 2 years ago when my ex-wife first cheated on me. Although porn was not a direct cause of my divorce I'm sure it had a hand in it. The divorce was much more because I choose poorly setting priorities in a wife. My ex-wife was a really free spirit and extremely experienced. This was one of the ways I was totally opposite. In the recent years I've found that it's been harder to have an erection at time during sex. Some of my favorite girls would also fail to give me erections. Unless they did something very new. Finding a new favorite seemed to help with having a erection. I still pathetically PMO with a semi..... I've been free of PMO 2 days now. Today was the first day I am trying NOA. I hope someday I can be the man my girlfriend deserves. I decided to take things very slow with my girlfriend. I didn't expect to have one this soon after my divorce. Shortly after the divorce and I got my health turned around I decided I needed to test out the waters. I started on dating sites. I attempted to contact 100's of women, maybe 20-30% of them responded. I even met and dated about 10 of them. About 1/2 of them were multiple dates. I also dated a few of the women at the same time, not having sex with any of them. After 2 months of this the dating was wearing me out. I continued seeing several of the women, and eventually 1 of them became my gf. But like I said I was taking things really slow. We emailed and texted for over a month before we met in person. I didn't even give her a real kiss until after many dates. It was months until I had oral sex with her. In this relationship sex was no longer my priority. We did eventually attempt intercourse. I was pretty excited as I was often hard just from making out with her. But then devastation as I went soft shortly after we started doing it. Little did I know the thoughts I had during this time prevented me from resetting. Our second attempt a while after was finally successful. During this time I attempted a reboot. I started around the time of the divorce and lasted about 6 months. However I didnt quit the ogling and fantasizing. Now I'm thinking of refraining from sex until further along in our relationship. As the same time, I'm quitting PMO. I think I also need NOA for 6 months to a year or more.