38-year-old virgin

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Londoner, Mar 25, 2016.

  1. Pete McVries

    Pete McVries Well-Known Member

    If I can be blunt for a second, this totally blew my mind when I read it a week ago. So much that this post reoccured in my thoughts yesterday when I was lying in bed trying to sleep. If your depression and your porn addiction aren't intertwined and mutually dependent then I probably don't know much at all. You need some urgency, man. You are already seeing a therapist because of your problems and you're withholding probably the biggest problem of them all. I mean... why? And I also want to tell you, that your situation can change in a heartbeat. Happened to me this year. So, don't lose hope. But you need to somehow gain some momentum so that you can make headway.

    Wishing you all the best!
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  2. Londoner

    Londoner Well-Known Member

    Thanks, @Pete McVries.

    I really don't know if the depression and porn are mutually dependent. I've always been depressed, long before high-speed internet, so I think there are deeper causes. Even without porn, I think I'd still be in the same life situation (single, virgin) because of my low self-confidence, shyness and poor social skills.
  3. Londoner

    Londoner Well-Known Member

    Made it to 11 days and then relapsed as I couldn't sleep for the urges.

    I had my regular session with the therapist this morning and actually told him about the porn issue for the first time. He said it wasn't something he could help with directly but he would try to find somewhere to refer me to.
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  4. Quanta

    Quanta Member

    Can't you relapse without the P? I think that once you're rewired, masturbating every 1 to 2 weeks is natural and probably, actually healthy. In my view, it's ok as long as you can keep the "superpowers". Best thing would be, to MO to your own fantasies and in a way that simulates more a real intercourse. At least that's my plan ;)

    Especially now in the hot summer, imagine one of the sexy girls you meat in real life, you talking to them, and things leading to a climax. I speculate that some repeated training will be necessary to get better at this kind of masturbation, but after conditioning, it will be more productive, healthy and natural in the long run.
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  5. Londoner

    Londoner Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure if I can get properly aroused without P or fantasy. I'm sure it's much easier when you have someone to rewire with.
  6. Quanta

    Quanta Member

    Maybe that's just because of our age? Or possibly, it's the short streaks you're on - maybe they're too brief for rewiring? Speculating here, I don't have your extensive nofap experience.

    Anyway, I too have noticed a reduction in "capability" over the years. But now that I'm on day 30, I get hard just by accidentally rubbing my schlong against a pillow, or ogling beautiful women in public.

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