That's class, mate. You'll get so much from physically being around people who know exactly what it's like to be you. Then if you put in the work the effects will be amazing. The way I see things at the moment, it's our damaged egos that need this validation and comfort (from other people, porn, etc.), so we need to let go of it. Look up ego-deflation. It's something I'm experiencing a lot recently, and for me, when my broken and misshapen ego is taken out of the equation, there's plenty of love and motivation already there inside me.