37-year-old virgin

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Londoner, Mar 25, 2016.

  1. 100DaysMission

    100DaysMission Active Member

    Oh my friend, it never rains, it pours.
    I'm proud of you for how you are coping at the minute though!
    Sending positive vibes your way.
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  2. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    Zero libido today, no interest in women or porn. I could happily stay like this if I didn't feel so embarrassed and ashamed about being a 37-year-old virgin, while people half my age have no problems in meeting girls.

    Sorry for the self-pity, but I'm really depressed and need an outlet.
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  3. Thebeg

    Thebeg Well-Known Member

    Go to the gym and work out, as you should be doing 2-3 times a week anyway ;)
  4. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    Actually woke up with some morning wood this morning, about 60-70% hard, though that means bad temptations are returning too.

    Felt incredibly depressed with suicidal thoughts on the commute home. I don't intend to act on them, but that doesn't stop them occurring. All I could think of as an antidote was PMO, but felt better when I got home and went to the gym. I felt weaker than usual though, so didn't manage all my usual sets.
  5. cjm

    cjm Well-Known Member

    Have you tried that hypnotherapy?

    Hope you are doing better this evening
  6. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    Only once, though I've tried similar ones before. I'll play it again now.
  7. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    Got an e-mail from a dating site for 30% off subscription. I'm tempted to subscribe but worried that looking at pictures will trigger a relapse.
  8. 100DaysMission

    100DaysMission Active Member

    Hmm, could potentially disable images for the site? And then look at someone's picture if you are getting on well with them.

    I know that is a bit left-field, but could potentially be quite a wholesome thing to do. Though I'm not sure how dating websites work really.
  9. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    I relapsed after three weeks anyway. Still considering the dating site.

    Pretty depressed right now, but e-mailed the therapist I saw last year and told him I've been having suicidal thoughts lately and asked if I can see him again. He always was a bit slow to reply, so I'll just have to wait and see what he says.
  10. Londoner

    Londoner Active Member

    It turned out that there's been a reshuffle of the NHS services around my area, which might be why my previous therapist didn't reply. Anyway, I've put in another application for therapy.

    Met with @TheScriabin and @cjm last week, would be good to do that again soon.

    I'm also looking again at doing some solo travel in the New Year, maybe to Australia.
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  11. hope2overcome

    hope2overcome No Love, No Sex

    Hey Londoner just checking in, its been a while. How've you been? It seems like you are still in the same pit as before. Serious changes need to be made man. You cannot expect different results with the same amount of effort put in. If you are putting in more effort maybe its the philosophy that needs to change. Good luck. I am praying for you.

    I am on the nofap forums, there is more activity there and more support. Give it a try if you can.

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